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9 Signs Your Mental Age Exceeds Your Physical Age

9 Signs Your Mental Age Exceeds Your Physical Age

Are you an old soul? Do you sometimes think that your mental age doesn’t mirror that of your body? Are you young in terms of years lived on this planet, but find yourself feeling “old” on a regular basis? Here are a few signs that you might be justified in suspecting that you are more mature than your peers.

1. You Don’t Need Much Reassurance

Young people typically need more reassurance and approval from their peers. More mature people, however, make their own decisions without waiting for anyone else’s validation. If you feel secure making your own way in life and coming to your own decisions, take this as a sign of your own maturity.

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2. Your Taste in Movies Is Different From That of Your Friends

Do you prefer films from a different, much earlier time? Do you like movies that deal with sensitive or in-depth issues rather than the latest lightweight must-see blockbuster? This is another sign of your relatively more advanced mental age.

3. You’ve Learned to Let the Small Things Go

One of the greatest lessons in life is the ability to sort the important from the trivial. Being able to get over minor arguments and forget small setbacks is a sign of an old soul who appreciates the value of the moment and resists the urge to dwell on the past or worry excessively about the future.

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4. You Know How to Forgive

The Buddha taught that holding onto resentment is like drinking poison but expecting the other person to die. Mature people know the value of forgiveness and don’t waste their time nursing grudges against other people.

5. Your Preferred Music Is Different From That of Your Friends

Do you like music that takes more skill to produce and appreciate than mainstream releases? This points to a relatively more developed sense of taste and by extension, maturity.

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6. You’re More Sensitive Than Your Peers

Although an important aspect of maturing is to let go when necessary and being able to forgive other people, so too is increased sensitivity to the special, everyday moments that make life worth living. You may find it easy to feel grateful for even “small” blessings, such as waking up to a new day.

7. You’re Intuitive

Do you seem to understand what others need and feel before they open their mouths? If so, you may have developed the skill of reading other people earlier in life compared with others your age. This makes you well-equipped to deal with sensitive situations, and improves your chances of building meaningful relationships with other people.

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8. You Tend to Take a Long View

Mature people like to enjoy themselves, but they also think of the future. So if you are careful with your money and spend a lot of time thinking about your plans for the next five, 10, or 15 years, your mental age may well be higher compared with others your age.

9. You Care Deeply About Current Affairs

On average, older people take more of an interest in current affairs compared to those in younger generations, as they have had time to appreciate the extent to which everyone around the world is interconnected. If you read or listen to the news regularly, especially the “heavy” or “intellectual” news shows, this is a sign of advanced mental age and maturity.

It can be difficult when your mental age exceeds your physical age — sometimes you may be ridiculed for your beliefs, tastes or outlook. Feel proud to be different, and remember that one day everyone else in your age group will catch up with you! In the meantime, enjoy the fact that you are a little bit out of step with your peer group. You are probably all the more interesting for it.

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Last Updated on January 12, 2021

Why We Say What We Won’t Do (but Still Say It Anyway)

Why We Say What We Won’t Do (but Still Say It Anyway)

Every day we say a lot about what we want and will do.

“I want to pet a cat.”

“I want to buy a house for my parents.”

“I don’t want to be single anymore.”

“I will love you no matter what.”

“I will work harder in the future.”

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    It’s easy to make plans for the future. And we make resolutions all the time. Consider that a full 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.[1] And that a vast majority of relationships (plus many marriages) end as well with break-ups or divorce. The best intentions and the best-laid plans generally speaking end in failure.

    No one intended to lie

    In general, people make these kinds of promises or resolutions with the best intentions. They don’t want to fail; if anything, they want desperately to be right, to improve themselves, and to make their friends and family happy. So even if a resolution doesn’t work out, when they utter them, it’s far from a lie.

      People often speak without thinking. They say what comes to mind, but without really thinking it through. And what usually comes to mind is wishful thinking – the ideal result, not what’s possible and practical. It’s tempting to fantasize about a beautiful and perfect future: a good romantic relationship, to have the approval and respect of your parents, and to have a successful career.

      But how to get what you want is not always clear to you in the moment you utter it. It’s hard to see beyond just the easy, idealized image. The challenges you may come across, the disappointments and sadness you may face – none of that is anywhere to be seen in a daydreaming mind.

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      Wishful thinking often end in crushing disappointment

      The problem is this. Wishful thinking and fantasies will only end in disappointment if you don’t follow through. You disappoint your friends, your family, your boss, and – most importantly – yourself. This can really take a toll on your own psyche and sense of self-worth.

            At a personal level, you’ll have so many unfulfilled dreams and goals. This is an incredibly common situation for people everywhere. As a teenager, you might have dreamed of what your life would be like as an adult: happily married and with a successful and high-earning career by the time you’re 25. But these are two seriously challenging goals that take planning and effort. Many people find themselves alone and in a dead-end job – rather than a career – wondering where they went wrong.

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                On an interpersonal level, making empty promises is hurtful and damaging to relationships. Friendship and healthy family relationships are built on trust. People who want to be your friend take you at your word and expect you to follow through. If you tell your friends that you’ll “be there for them,” but never pick up the phone, they will be hurt and no longer want to hang out. The same is true for family or even professional relationships. You might find it tempting to tell your boss that you’ll finish a major project “by the end of the week,” without considering whether this is plausible. If you are unable to complete the task in the timeframe that you set, it’s not easy to regain your boss’s trust.

                Keep what you want to yourself

                It’s vital to be clear about what you want. Notice when people around you are prone to saying “I want ___” and “I don’t want ____.”

                Kids are very prone to saying all their wants out loud, partly because they don’t have the independence and resources to get it themselves. This is why children and young people are often vague about what they want in the future. They have lots of wants without a concrete plan on how to get them.

                This is one of the challenges of being an adult. As you gain the practical ability to provide for yourself, and as you learn from your mistakes, it’s more and more important to be clear about how you plan to get what you want.

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                  Practice visualizing plans to attain your goals. For example, you might want a pet – everyone shares pictures of their dogs and cats on Instagram! But before you go out to adopt one at the shelter, make sure you visualize all the things you have to do to take care of your pet. Pet-ownership involves: cleaning up after it, house-training it, taking it to the vet, walking it, buying it food, and making sure that it gets plenty of stimulation and exercise.

                  If you want or need a car, think about how much you need to save to purchase the car, the cleaning and maintenance costs, how to pay for regular car insurance, parking costs, et cetera.

                    If you really want something, don’t just say it. Plan for it and do it. Create conditions that make what you want inevitable. Do small things consistently and make it a habit. You’ll amaze yourself and your friends if you constantly work on attaining your goals. Read more about how to follow through your goals here: Why I Can Be the Only 8% of People Who Reach the Goal Every Single Time

                    It’s easy to make or break promises. Set yourself apart from others by being reliable, deliberate, and thoughtful. Match your intentions with planning and action, and you’ll find that you’re happier with yourself and that your relationships are enriched.

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