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Frequent Complaining Can Badly Affect Your Brain, Here’s Why

Frequent Complaining Can Badly Affect Your Brain, Here’s Why

Recall the thoughts you have been having today. While you’re there, recall your thoughts from yesterday, and the day before, and the week before, and even the month or the year before that. Are there patterns? Or more pointedly – are there negative patterns? Can you see any repetition of thoughts that are negative, or unhelpful? Are you having them a lot? Are you then getting complaints from people that you are a bit of a whinger? A moaning Mandy?

Science allows us a deeper insight into the brain. It can show us the functions of our neurological transmitters and exactly what might be the reason behind such thought repetition – particularly where bad thoughts are concerned. We can begin to understand why we might be stuck in this cycle of negativity.
The question then remains, can we stop these bad thoughts? And if so, how?

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What Happens When We Vent Negative Thoughts

It isn’t just a process of getting thoughts out by verbalizing them, though this is a common belief held by many. In fact saying negative things, as we probably know by experiencing this, makes us feel generally worse. It also makes those listening to our incessant moaning feel bad too. And so the cycle continues.
Science picks up on this flaw, however, and allows us insight to the problem, and therefore denotes a more positive solution. Because negative thought patterns can also be negative for your health — the mental kind.

How Negative Thoughts Affect Our Brains

Your brain is a collection of Synapses, surrounded by empty space that is called the synapses cleft. When thoughts arise in our brains, they send a chemical from one synapse over to another (through the cleft). This builds a bridge of sorts between the two synapses where the electrical charge crosses, and the charge is carried across this bridge with all the information involved in this one thought. Each time this electrical charge is “triggered” by the thought, the synapses involved move closer together so there is less distance for the charge to travel.

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In essence, the brain is shifting, rewiring to eventually allow the two synapses to spark together. The brain is making the thought come more easily, by allowing the trigger to be sparked simultaneously by the chemical sparking together as one. It is allowing your mind to have that same thought again, but quicker.

How This Hurts

What this means is that if you are having negative thoughts, they’re going to come more frequently. You’ll be going about your day and that same thought pattern is going to continue to rear it’s ugly head. In other words, your negative thoughts may very well result in a pretty negative personality.

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What To Do

The flip side of this – as is the flip side of negative – is positive! And positivity. The exact same process can occur with positive thoughts. We can ‘train our brains’ to begin to perpetuate positive thoughts rather than negative ones, in the exact same way we would experience the negative thought cycle. This will render us “Happy as Larry” and propel to a positive and healthy personality.

Avoiding Negativity

Many things can inspire positivity, and there are steps you can take to ensure you are leaning toward positive charges through your synapse cleft! Aim for stress-free living as much as is possible. When you’re depressed or down the hormone Cortisol is released, and can lead to problems with your health, which in turn effects this whole cycle. Approach life the way that makes you the most happy.

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And remember that the company you keep can make the biggest of difference. If you are constantly surrounded by negativity and negative people, you can catch that drift! Don’t let it seep in and start messing with your Cortisol. Surround yourself with positivity, light, and good thoughts, and you will succeed in training your brain with happiness.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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