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Study Says People Who Swear Have Better Vocabulary

Study Says People Who Swear Have Better Vocabulary

If you’re like most us, you grew up being reprimanded when you uttered those oh so controversial curse words. Parents would sigh, teachers would scorn, and your classmates would laugh. But, over time, after so many trips to the Principal’s office, nights grounded, and lectures about how only the uneducated and vulgar swear, the appeal may have worn off. So if you’re reading this headline and thinking “You’re kidding, right?”,  I’m not surprised. But the beauty of this is that I’m not kidding.

Science suggests that if you have a rich vocabulary of swear words, you just may be the bomb in the language department.

Here are the details. A recent 2015 study published in Language Science compared the general vocabulary of a group of 43 subjects with their knowledge of swear words. The researchers assessed vocabulary through three one-minute language exercises. The first one minute was spent asking each study subject to name as many words as they could that started with a particular letter. Next, the researchers asked subjects to name as many animals as they could within one minute. In the final minute, the researchers asked each subject to name as many so-called “taboo words” (aka swear words) as they could.

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While you might have expected that the people who could name more swear words are probably those who lacked general language skills– the data tell the opposite story. Those subjects who were able to name a lot of words in the first two tests were also those who got creative in the taboo words they named. These results aren’t surprising given that if a person has an expansive vocabulary overall then this will naturally include swear words as well – the so-called “fluency is fluency” theory.

Interestingly, not all uses of swear words are equal – it takes intelligence to use swear words correctly.

After all, can you deny that there is a significant distinction between an asshat and a pissant? I thought not.

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While this is one of the first studies to examine swear words and vocabulary, there have been on-going studies assessing the consequences of swearing. If you’re wondering if there is a sharp downside of having an extensive vocabulary of swear words – fear not. An article by researchers Drs. Jay and Janschewitz mention that in their work analyzing over 10,000 “public episodes of swearing,” they have never seen negative consequences resulting from this language. In fact, they find that most uses are “not in anger; they are innocuous or produce positive outcomes.” In their article, they cite that swearing can reduce stress, substitute for physical aggression, promote humor, enhance storytelling or foster the connection between people. Another study even suggested that swearing can increase pain tolerance by disrupting the link between fear of pain and pain perception. All of these benefits may underlie the widespread use of swear words, even among the most educated, smart, and creative.

Swearing may not only serve as a marker of an extensive vocabulary but – when used in conversation – could have a cathartic effect.

This is not to say that you should now infuse curse words into your every sentence for your overall well-being. Not is it meant to suggest that people that swear are smarter or well-versed than others. The researchers of the study on swearing and vocabulary never examined how frequently the people swore in conversation. Rather, what was measured was simply their knowledge of swear words. The takeaway, therefore, is that knowing a vast array of swear words is not a marker of low intelligence, poor breeding, ignorance or whatever other nasty traits we may have been told it represented.

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Even in the most casual of circumstances, people will always be offended by swear words. So you may want to limit swearing for those times when so-called “clean” language just won’t capture the situation at hand, for example, when you meet someone who can only be described as a douchebag. After all, it shows that you understand the language and are choosing the most appropriate term to describe that unsavory person. And saying it might even serve to reduce your frustration with them and get a laugh or two from some new friends.

Featured photo credit: Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.com

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The Gentle Art of Saying No for a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No for a Less Stressful Life

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments—you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time. That’s why the art of saying no can be a game changer for productivity.

Requests for your time are coming in all the time—from family members, friends, children, coworkers, etc. To stay productive, minimize stress, and avoid wasting time, you have to learn the gentle art of saying no—an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger, or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

However, it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to stop people pleasing and master the gentle art of saying no.

1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it.

Be honest when you tell them that: “I just can’t right now. My plate is overloaded as it is.” They’ll sympathize as they likely have a lot going on as well, and they’ll respect your openness, honesty, and attention to self-care.

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which, for many of us, is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

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For example, if my wife asks me to pick up the kids from school a couple of extra days a week, I’ll likely try to make time for it as my family is my highest priority. However, if a coworker asks for help on some extra projects, I know that will mean less time with my wife and kids, so I will be more likely to say no. 

However, for others, work is their priority, and helping on extra projects could mean the chance for a promotion or raise. It’s all about knowing your long-term goals and what you’ll need to say yes and no to in order to get there. 

You can learn more about how to set your priorities here.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word[1].

Sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry, but…” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important when you learn to say no, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm and unapologetic about guarding your time.

When you say no, realize that you have nothing to feel bad about. You have every right to ensure you have time for the things that are important to you. 

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. However, if you erect a wall or set boundaries, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss—they’re our boss, right? And if we start saying no, then we look like we can’t handle the work—at least, that’s the common reasoning[2].

In fact, it’s the opposite—explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

“Look, everyone, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects, and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

This, of course, takes a great deal of awareness that you’ll likely only have after having worked in one place or been friends with someone for a while. However, once you get the hang of it, it can be incredibly useful.

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8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, try saying no this way:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands. If you need to continue saying no, here are some other ways to do so[3]:

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    10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

    This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

    Simply say so—you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization—but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true, as people can sense insincerity.

    The Bottom Line

    Saying no isn’t an easy thing to do, but once you master it, you’ll find that you’re less stressed and more focused on the things that really matter to you. There’s no need to feel guilty about organizing your personal life and mental health in a way that feels good to you.

    Remember that when you learn to say no, isn’t about being mean. It’s about taking care of your time, energy, and sanity. Once you learn how to say no in a good way, people will respect your willingness to practice self-care and prioritization. 

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