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50 Small Things That Make Relationships Last

50 Small Things That Make Relationships Last

It is up to you to find importance and relevance in the small things that could bring out the best in your relationship.

Here are 50 small things that relationships need to last.

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  1. Travel and discover new places together.
  2. Forgive immediately.
  3. Forget and don’t keep a score.
  4. Communicate and listen more.
  5. Pursue your individual passions.
  6. Set goals as a couple.
  7. Pursue goals together.
  8. Learn to say “thank you” to the other person.
  9. Celebrate your victories together.
  10. Manage your losses together.
  11. Always be grateful for the other person in your life.
  12. Surprise the other person with a thoughtful action.
  13. Grow together.
  14. Adjust and tolerate your partner.
  15. Be supportive of your partner’s goals.
  16. Respect your partner’s space and time.
  17. Compliment your partner for their effort.
  18. Don’t hesitate to speak your mind.
  19. Always focus on the best in your partner.
  20. Be accountable and responsible for your emotions.
  21. Be open and willing to share everything. Fully open your heart and let your partner in.
  22. Be present. Be willing to give your partner your attention, your time, your soul, and your focus.
  23. Be silly sometimes. Don’t take everything so seriously.
  24. Respect each other’s friends and family.
  25. Look good and attractive for your mate.
  26. Respect each other’s privacy.
  27. Be responsible with money. Money has a vital role to play in your union.
  28. Be a lady (or a gentleman). Simple things like throwing out the thrash or getting the groceries sustains the relationship and shows that you care.
  29. Never give up on your relationship. Expect everything will turn out well.
  30. Mind your manners and be courteous.
  31. Adapt and be self-sufficient. Don’t ask for everything from your mate. Learn to handle yourself and deal with some of your domestics.
  32. Appreciate their family and friends. There is no harm in having them over every now and then.
  33. Be decent. Maintain good hygiene and dress properly.
  34. Be affectionate. Hold their hands, kiss them, and show that you really care about them.
  35. Be romantic. Be creative on ways to spice up your relationship. Plan a special night with your partner. Do something remarkable for them.
  36. Never forget their birthdays, anniversaries, or special moments. Relive those wonderful times with them.
  37. Admit that you are wrong. You won’t always be right. Throw away your pride and be willing to tolerate the other person – no matter what.
  38. Be a problem solver rather than being overly critical.
  39. Focus on improving yourself and becoming a better person for the your partner. Never stop giving your best in the relationship.
  40. Be a team player. It is not about your singular effort, but rather what you can achieve together as a team.
  41. Don’t be lazy in your love. There is no need to be adamant about how you feel. Always work on improving your love for the other person.
  42. It is your duty to be a partner and to love the other person for who they are. You cannot change them. All you can do is adore their strong qualities and be aware of their flaws.
  43. Be accountable for how you feel. Your partner is not a toy or a thing that is meant to make you happy. Instead, learn to treasure how you feel for them, regardless of what happens.
  44. Never play the blame-game. Instead, find ways to heal your pain and your partner’s also.
  45. Be informed. Know what makes the other person feel validated and loved.
  46. Be vulnerable. You may not want to show it, but your partner is there for you to admit your feelings, worries, and fears to them.
  47. Crack a joke and be willing to laugh at their jokes.
  48. Don’t be cheap. Go the extra mile and show how much you value the other person in your life.
  49. Be aware of their needs and wants.
  50. Listen, and know when silence plays a better role than speaking out.

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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