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53 Relationship Questions That Will Make Your Love Life Better

53 Relationship Questions That Will Make Your Love Life Better

If you have been in a relationship for some time, you may experience moments that you feel like you have lost that passion you used to have for your partner.

Maybe you have got used to being with each other or maybe you and your partner are going through a different stage of relationship and this is why you start to feel uncomfortable about it.

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If so, it may be time to reflect about your relationship and think about how you should work with your partner to make the sparkle come back.

Even if you feel happy about your relationship right now, doing a reflection about your relationship once in a while can strengthen your relationship.

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Here are the 53 relationship questions that can change your love life:

  1. What was your first impression about your partner?
  2. What did you like or love about your partner?
  3. How did the relationship start?
  4. Do you still like what you loved about your partner and why?
  5. Are you happy with the intimacy you share?
  6. Do you feel the same the way you felt for your partner at the beginning of the relationship?
    • Are you positively affecting each other’s life?
    • Have you started to do something because of each other’s influence?
    • How often do you laugh together?
    • When was the last time you dreamt about your partner?
    • Do you like spending time with your partner’s friends and family?
    • How often do you talk on the phone with your partner?
    • How often do you think of your partner?
    • Do you smile when you relate something from your daily life with your partner?
    • Can you recall the most romantic moment with this partner?
    • Do you get each other’s feeling without the need to say anything?
    • What was the best moment in your relationship so far? (Are you smiling while recalling that moment?)
    • How do you show your love for each other?
      • When was the last time you said “I love you” to your partner?
      • Have you ever changed anything for your partner?
      • How much do you think you understand your partner?
      • Do you trust each other?
      • Have you not let your partner do something just because you feel jealous or angry?
      • How do you feel when others find your partner attractive?
      • Do you feel jealous if your partner hang out with a friend of the opposite sex?
      • How serious are you both taking this relationship?
      • Do you bring up arguments very often and why?
      • Do you make sacrifices for your relationship?
      • Have you ever apologized for what you’ve done wrong to your partner?
      • Do you forgive your partner’s mistakes easily?
      • Do you throw temper easily for small mistakes of your partners?
      • Do you respect each other’s beliefs?
        • Is it really necessary to know everything from your partner’s previous relationships?
        • Do you believe in staying with this partner for a very long time or even forever?
        • How do you feel when your partner has to leave you for some time because of work or studying?
        • Will you say sorry to your partner even though it’s not your fault?
        • When was the last time you had an in-depth conversation with your partner?
        • Are you keeping any secrets that you’re afraid of letting your partner know?
        • Do you think your partner’s friends and family like you?
        • Do you feel that your partner accepts the way you are?
        • Have you seen each other at your best and worst?
        • Have you ever thought about cheating on your partner? Why?
        • Have you ever thought about breaking up with your partner and why?
        • Will you lie for the sake of your partner’s happiness and how do you define the line?
        • Are you in a relationship only because you enjoy the excitement or the feeling to be loved and cared about?
        • Does this partner make you forget the painful feeling of your previous relationships?
        • Do you look forward to your future with your partner?
          • Have you thought about marrying your partner? (If you two have already married, do you remember why you had that thought of marrying your partner?)
          • Are you willing to compromise your happiness for a successful relationship?
          • When it comes to future, do you and your partner have the same relationship goal?
          • Are there more joyful moments than sad ones being together?
          • What makes you happier in a relationship, sharing or sacrificing?
          • If you could choose your partner again, would you choose the same person?

          These relationship questions are only for your own reflection, and there’re no right or wrong answers. Maintaining a long-term and healthy relationship is never easy, but by trying to answer the above questions, you may find new insights about your relationship and know what to do about your love life.

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          Just be true to yourself when you answer these questions. You may want to share this list of questions with your partner too.

          Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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          Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

          Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

          How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

          Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

          The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

          Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

          Perceptual Barrier

          The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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          The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

          The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

          Attitudinal Barrier

          Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

          The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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          The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

          Language Barrier

          This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

          The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

          The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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          Emotional Barrier

          Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

          The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

          The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

          Cultural Barrier

          Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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          The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

          The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

          Gender Barrier

          Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

          The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

          The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

          And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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