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53 Relationship Questions That Will Make Your Love Life Better

53 Relationship Questions That Will Make Your Love Life Better

If you have been in a relationship for some time, you may experience moments that you feel like you have lost that passion you used to have for your partner.

Maybe you have got used to being with each other or maybe you and your partner are going through a different stage of relationship and this is why you start to feel uncomfortable about it.

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If so, it may be time to reflect about your relationship and think about how you should work with your partner to make the sparkle come back.

Even if you feel happy about your relationship right now, doing a reflection about your relationship once in a while can strengthen your relationship.

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Here are the 53 relationship questions that can change your love life:

  1. What was your first impression about your partner?
  2. What did you like or love about your partner?
  3. How did the relationship start?
  4. Do you still like what you loved about your partner and why?
  5. Are you happy with the intimacy you share?
  6. Do you feel the same the way you felt for your partner at the beginning of the relationship?
    • Are you positively affecting each other’s life?
    • Have you started to do something because of each other’s influence?
    • How often do you laugh together?
    • When was the last time you dreamt about your partner?
    • Do you like spending time with your partner’s friends and family?
    • How often do you talk on the phone with your partner?
    • How often do you think of your partner?
    • Do you smile when you relate something from your daily life with your partner?
    • Can you recall the most romantic moment with this partner?
    • Do you get each other’s feeling without the need to say anything?
    • What was the best moment in your relationship so far? (Are you smiling while recalling that moment?)
    • How do you show your love for each other?
      • When was the last time you said “I love you” to your partner?
      • Have you ever changed anything for your partner?
      • How much do you think you understand your partner?
      • Do you trust each other?
      • Have you not let your partner do something just because you feel jealous or angry?
      • How do you feel when others find your partner attractive?
      • Do you feel jealous if your partner hang out with a friend of the opposite sex?
      • How serious are you both taking this relationship?
      • Do you bring up arguments very often and why?
      • Do you make sacrifices for your relationship?
      • Have you ever apologized for what you’ve done wrong to your partner?
      • Do you forgive your partner’s mistakes easily?
      • Do you throw temper easily for small mistakes of your partners?
      • Do you respect each other’s beliefs?
        • Is it really necessary to know everything from your partner’s previous relationships?
        • Do you believe in staying with this partner for a very long time or even forever?
        • How do you feel when your partner has to leave you for some time because of work or studying?
        • Will you say sorry to your partner even though it’s not your fault?
        • When was the last time you had an in-depth conversation with your partner?
        • Are you keeping any secrets that you’re afraid of letting your partner know?
        • Do you think your partner’s friends and family like you?
        • Do you feel that your partner accepts the way you are?
        • Have you seen each other at your best and worst?
        • Have you ever thought about cheating on your partner? Why?
        • Have you ever thought about breaking up with your partner and why?
        • Will you lie for the sake of your partner’s happiness and how do you define the line?
        • Are you in a relationship only because you enjoy the excitement or the feeling to be loved and cared about?
        • Does this partner make you forget the painful feeling of your previous relationships?
        • Do you look forward to your future with your partner?
          • Have you thought about marrying your partner? (If you two have already married, do you remember why you had that thought of marrying your partner?)
          • Are you willing to compromise your happiness for a successful relationship?
          • When it comes to future, do you and your partner have the same relationship goal?
          • Are there more joyful moments than sad ones being together?
          • What makes you happier in a relationship, sharing or sacrificing?
          • If you could choose your partner again, would you choose the same person?

          These relationship questions are only for your own reflection, and there’re no right or wrong answers. Maintaining a long-term and healthy relationship is never easy, but by trying to answer the above questions, you may find new insights about your relationship and know what to do about your love life.

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          Just be true to yourself when you answer these questions. You may want to share this list of questions with your partner too.

          Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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          Last Updated on January 16, 2020

          12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

          12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

          The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

          However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

          “Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

          Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

          1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

          When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

          Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

          2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

          That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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          Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

          3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

          If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

          For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

          People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

          This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

          4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

          Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

          Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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          Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

          Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

          “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

          5. Crack a smile.

          If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

          Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

          6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

          Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

          And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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          7. Groom yourself.

          This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

          A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

          8. Dress nicely.

          Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

          While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

          9. Do activities you enjoy.

          Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

          You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

          10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

          Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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          Why?

          Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

          Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

          Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

          11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

          Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

          Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

          12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

          Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

          The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

          Featured photo credit: Freshh Connection via unsplash.com

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