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Pregnancy At Week 21

Pregnancy At Week 21

By week 21, the flutter kicks that you felt in the previous weeks are growing stronger and healthier. During this stage of your pregnancy, you will begin to get to know your baby better. You will also begin preparing to bring your little one into the world.

Here are some of the things you can expect during week 21 of your pregnancy:

Your Baby

By now, your little one is not so little anymore. Most babies will be around 10 and a half inches long – long enough to resemble a banana or a carrot! Your baby will also have gained a lot of weight recently and now weighs three-quarters of a pound.

At this age, some babies will weigh more or less than this. As long as the doctor can see that the baby is gaining weight, everything is fine.

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Because of your baby’s growth, those sweet little flutters that you felt earlier in your pregnancy will have transformed into nudges and kicks. If you pay close attention, you may notice that your baby’s gymnastics have a pattern. Your baby’s activity may be triggered by certain things. The more you know about your child’s activity, the better you will get to know them.

In terms of physiology, your darling one will now have developed both eyelids and sweet little eyebrows. But more than this your baby’s nerves will really begin to develop. At this point, they will be able to begin to experience the world around them by seeing, listening, smelling tasting and touching.

Speaking of tasting, your baby will now begin to swallow the amniotic fluid. The baby may even be able to taste what you are eating as the nutrients from your diet enter the amniotic fluid. Don’t worry too much about the chicken wings, pickles or ice cream you may be craving, your baby still gets nourishment from your placenta, but be wary of diet pills and supplements.

Your baby’s bowels will also start working around this week! Around week 21, babies begin to produce meconium.

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That might sound scary but it is actually a combination of amniotic fluid and digestive secretion that you will notice after birth because it will form their first bowel movement! The makings of your baby’s first diaper change actually develop while they are still inside the womb.

Your Body

As your baby grows, your belly will need to grow with them. You may experience discomfort as your womb begins to stretch to accommodate your little one. The ligaments on both sides of your womb will start to stretch so that your baby has room to move and grow. If you feel sore, this is completely normal. But if you feel abnormally sore, do not be afraid to call your doctor or your midwife.

At this stage, you’re probably still pretty comfortable with your size and your symptoms. So relax and enjoy this stage before the third trimester arrives.

Common Symptoms

You might notice that any acne you have may get worse. This is because your body is producing some extra oil.

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You might also notice that you are developing some varicose veins. This is because there is extra pressure on the veins of your legs. You are more likely to develop these if your mother or your grandmother have them.

Finally, you might notice that your libido is playing up around this time in your pregnancy. There is no normal level of sexual activity when you are pregnant. Some women notice that their desire skyrockets while others notice that it hits the floor. Do not worry about it too much. Just be open and honest with your partner about how you feel.

Tips

If you are suffering from acne, you can help combat this by washing your face with a gentle, oil free cleanser. But do not take any oral medications or topical products without first talking to your doctor. Some oral acne medications can be damaging during pregnancy.

To help deal with varicose veins, prop up your legs to take the pressure off. You might also consider wearing some support hose. If your doctor says it is okay to exercise, physical activity can help minimize them as well.

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Things to Do

During this week, you will be getting ready to welcome your little one into the world. This is a good week to create a baby registry for a baby shower or just for gifts in general.

This is also a good week to begin seriously thinking about breastfeeding. Do plenty of research and speak to your doctor to make sure that you can make a decision that is based on what is right for you and your baby.

Week 21 is an exciting week as you get to know your baby and prepare to bring them into the world. Remember to relax and take everything in this week, the third trimester will be here before you know it!

Featured photo credit: Bonbon via flickr.com

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Published on January 30, 2019

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

5. Don’t keep score or track time.

At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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The Bottom Line

To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

Featured photo credit: NeONBRAND via unsplash.com

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