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This Is Why Some People Make Deeper Connections With Others

This Is Why Some People Make Deeper Connections With Others

Throughout your life, you’ve undoubtedly met a handful of people with whom you feel an unending, genuine attachment to. Some people are just able to connect on an entirely different level with their fellow man. But it’s all in the way they act each and every day of their lives. If you’ve ever found yourself attracted to someone on a much deeper level, it’s likely because:

They treat everyone with respect

When I say “everyone,” I mean that. Those who are emotionally inviting never look down on anybody, and are always willing to lend a helping hand to those in need. They give everyone “the time of day” regardless of how busy they are. Because they are so eager to give respect to everyone they come into contact with, they end up receiving it back wherever they go.

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They follow the “Platinum Rule”

You’ve likely heard of the Golden Rule, which states that you should treat others as you’d like to be treated. Those who seek a deeper connection with those around them follow the Platinum Rule: Treat others as they want to be treated. While the Golden Rule is a good start, it insinuates that everyone likes to be treated the same way you do. Living by the Platinum Rule allows you to empathize with your fellow man and see the world from their perspective. By doing so, you form a much deeper connection with them.

They have unique, personable interactions

You won’t catch this type of person asking “How about this weather?” Those who seek deeper connections do so at all times. If they strike up a conversation with someone while waiting for a bus, they’ll likely probe into that person’s interests, asking questions that show their genuine interest in what their new friend has to say. They don’t use communication as a way to pass time; they use it as a way to truly experience life.

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They have integrity

Like I mentioned in the last point, those who connect well with others are genuinely interested in other people. While some people might make polite conversation only to turn around and roll their eyes, these people actually want to be involved in communication and connection. They never feel “stuck” in a conversation. They’re not simply polite for the sake of being polite; it’s how they really are. When they leave a conversation, even if it’s with a perfect stranger, they never think “Thank God I got out of that!” Instead, they feel as if their lives have improved even the slightest bit due to having the experience they just had.

They exhibit inviting body language

Those looking for deeper connections and friendships present themselves in such a way that invites others to engage in conversation with them. They always have a friendly smile on their face, look others in the eye, and never shrug someone off. Since they know that each connection they make could potentially end up being a life-changing experience, they always appear ready to meet and greet anyone they come into contact with.

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They genuinely enjoy life

This sums up some of the other points I’ve already made, but it bears repeating. Like I said, those who thrive off of forming emotional attachments truly do enjoy even the smallest interactions between themselves and others. They live for these moments rather than seeing them as a waste of time. They never think of any moment as insignificant, and are always eager to get up and out to enjoy every single day of their life. Not only do they live to enjoy their life, but they also live to spread this joy to everyone they meet, no matter who that may be.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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