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Sleep Basics: How To Put A Baby To Sleep?

Sleep Basics: How To Put A Baby To Sleep?

This is the toughest part for every new parents. Most thought-out reason why it is hard to put babies to sleep is that while they are inside the tummy, they don’t have any days and nights. They don’t have the rules of sleeping throughout the nights, and taking naps during day times. Therefore, once they are out in the world, they tend to follow their habits of nine months. By a couple of months, they will eventually get used to it.

But if your baby is no longer a new born and still has a disturbing sleep cycle, then it is your job to change their sleeping patterns over time, and trust me, it is no easy job! How to put a baby to sleep will take months of patience and practices, till they are accustomed to their new time tables. To help you out, here are some sleep basics that you will need to know.

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The reason why your baby refused to sleep properly, especially at night.

Once your baby turns into their first month, you should start changing their sleeping pattern. But before you do that, it is important to know that you are not the only parents facing this problem. Nearly all the parents around the globe face this regularly. This common problem has numerous reasons. If your baby wakes up in the middle of the night, check his diaper. A soiled diaper can make them uncomfortable. Or, your toddler may feel too cold, or too hot maybe? Perhaps there is too much light or it’s too dark in the room?

Another reason can be that she is suffering from some kind of illness, for example, stomach ache. Babies also have a tendency to come up with activities in the middle of the night. He may want to get out of the cot. You have to be alert till your child masters their sleeping cycle. Be consistent. Do it regularly, otherwise it will effect you mainly. You will have a disturbed sleeping pattern which will make you feel agitated, sleepy, and depressed throughout the day. Here are some set of tactics you can try: starting from as early as six weeks old, this will make your task easier.

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Allow active day time feeds, and quite night time feeds.

If you are breastfeeding, you should play and actively breastfeed during day times, and maintain quite feeds at night so that your baby understands the difference. It will also aid your child to set her body clock accordingly.

A bedtime schedule can help on how to put a baby to sleep.

Set a time for your baby’s bedtime. Say you want to put him to sleep around 7:00pm. Make sure you follow this time throughout, even during weekends. Before putting her to put, give her a warm bath, make her wear a fresh sleeping suit and fresh nappy, and make sure she is comfortably lying down. You can also massage her body lightly. This will relax her and she will have a sound sleep.

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Make her sleep with her favorite stuff toy.

All babies have a strong smell sense, meaning, their mothers’ smell actually calm them down. Try to make your child get accustomed to a stuff toy, which is safe for him to sleep with, and make sure the toy has your body odor. If your baby doesn’t prefer toys, then you can leave your scarf or a tee beside him, so that even if he wakes up in the middle of the night, your material (containing your smell) will soothe him down.

Nuzzle with your baby.

I always prefer this. Both my children share our bed. And their bedtime means some serious cuddling with their parents. And while doing this, we pretend to fall asleep (sometimes the pretension turns out real, though. We fall asleep before them). But this throws a message to them that they are supposed to sleep, since their parents are snoozing.

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Give your baby a chance to settle in by herself.

By the time your baby is off breastfeeding, it will be a better opportunity for you to provide your child with the independence of putting herself to sleep. If your child is used to the cot, then put her there and wait to see what she does. If she refuses to sleep by herself, pat her gently, sing her a lullaby. If she persists on feeling agitated, lift her up and walk for a bit, then put her back again. After couple of days, she will eventually settle in by herself.

By settling himself, allow him to fall asleep by himself, too.

We have seen many parents prefer to rock their baby off to sleep. This is a dependable habit. Once your child is dependent on it, it will be hard to let go. So, from the very beginning, try to put him down on his cot, or your bed, while he is sleepy, and just gently pat him to sleep. One of the most effective ways to put them to sleep is to sing a lullaby. If your baby can establish to lie down by himself, he can also fall asleep by himself. Just give him some few days.

Each baby has her own way of development. Some tend to grasp the concepts faster than others of similar age. This doesn’t call for tension. Allow your child to learn things taking his time. Things like how to put a baby to sleep, or when your baby should start walking, are time consuming tasks. All you need are perseverance and positive vibes.

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Published on January 30, 2019

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

5. Don’t keep score or track time.

At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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The Bottom Line

To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

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