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5 Scientifically-Backed Reasons to Stay Away From Negative People

5 Scientifically-Backed Reasons to Stay Away From Negative People

Negative people will ruin your life! Run.. far away. It’s like the legendary Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

You should be very wary of the people you let into your life. Make sure you’re surrounding yourself with positive people. This is actually more important than you think. In this article, I go over five reasons why you need to stay away from negative people as soon as possible. Pay attention because this can change your life.

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1. They can actually make you dumb.

No joke. There’s been neuro research that shows listening to negative people complain for a period of time affects your brain cells. Crazy right? So if you want to remain intelligent then I suggest you stay away from the negativity. Even listening to negative people on the media can harm your brain. Trevor Blake says “It actually peels away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus.” You only have one brain, don’t let it go to waste.

2. They make you depressed.

Remember, we are the average of the five people we hang with most. The reason being is because we are products of our environment. In fact, this is even more true than you probably think. Why would you want to hang around people that make you feel negative? It can possibly ruin your day.

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Focusing on the negativity in life makes you feel depressed. When you’re listening to a negative person rambling on and on about the horrors of their life, you’re essentially focusing on it. You’ll catch yourself starting to think like them, causing you to feel depressed about the horrors of your life.

3. They take up your valuable time.

Time is extremely valuable, even more valuable than money! Once it’s gone you can never get it back. Knowing this, I think it’s wise to say that you’d rather hang out with friends that empower you. Negative people won’t do that. They don’t support positive things and they won’t treat you any different. If you share an achievement you recently had with them, they’ll just brush it off and tell you about how much their life sucks instead. You’ll leave the conversation wishing you could have done something more productive than socialize with a “time vampire.”

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4. They see the bad in everything.

Imagine watching the news all day for the rest of your life. How would you feel? You’d probably think the world is going to end. You’ll feel miserable and probably paranoid. That’s because the news is so negative with very few feel-good stories included. Hanging out with negative people for too long is no different than watching the news 24/7. You can be at the most positive place in the world but they’ll look for that one negative thing that’s hiding somewhere. If you wouldn’t watch the news for too long, then you shouldn’t hang with negative people either.

5. They’re never satisfied.

You can give a negative person the entire world and they’ll go and tell you they wanted the moon. They don’t want to feel happy about something you gave them because they’re addicted to focusing on what they don’t have. This may cause you to feel like you’re not good enough for them no matter what you do.. because it’s true. Nothing will ever be good enough for them, not even you. There’s nothing you can do to change that and if you try to, you’re in for a world of hurt. Their mind is their worst enemy. They won’t see the good things they have because they live in a delusional world of negativity.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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