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14 Weeks Pregnant Decision Guide: Should You Reveal The Sex Of Your Baby?

14 Weeks Pregnant Decision Guide: Should You Reveal The Sex Of Your Baby?

As I button up the back of my four-month-old’s cherry pink pajamas, and set her down in her little, rose-colored cot, I can’t help but think of how the little Evie in my arms was almost a Lucas!

My husband was over the moon when I told him that I too preferred not to know the sex of our baby. Although we both agreed on going “old-school” and waiting for the birth to discover what exactly we had brought into the world, we were surprised at how many people disagreed, and were even shocked by our choice.

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Let me start out by saying that at 14 weeks pregnant, the decision to find out your baby’s gender is a completely personal one, as is choosing to then reveal the gender to friends and family. This article is for the undecided among you, those who aren’t quite sure, or couples who can’t quite agree on the subject.

According to the parenting website babycentre.com, 64% of expecting mothers prefer to know their baby’s gender beforehand. There are plenty of reasons why this is understandable: it makes buying baby clothes, and decorating the nursery a lot easier, as parents can plan to use gender specific color schemes and items. It also makes choosing a name that much simpler, which can cut stressful disagreements in half!

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Friends and family also often prefer to be told in advance, as this allows them to know what sort of gifts to shower your little bundle of joy with. But aside from aesthetics, there are a few more practical advantages to knowing the baby’s gender before the birth.

Some parents, especially fathers, find it easier to bond with their baby in uteri when they can picture it as a little he or a her, especially after the 14 week mark, when your belly will start to show. If it isn’t your first, naming and describing the gender to your future little one can make it easier on older siblings to get used to the idea, and can even get excited about meeting the latest addition to the family. When I was expecting, I remember an elderly lady recommending that we find out the gender, as it would better prepare us for the shock of becoming parents for the first time. Not sure if there was very much in that… for us as a family at least.

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But there is also plenty to be said for keeping the surprise for the due date! For one thing, not knowing can prolong the excitement of having a baby, especially on the days where all-day morning sickness or swollen feet can get you down. Some also believe that waiting to find out can help you persevere through the tougher parts of labor.

Not knowing whether to buy pink or blue does have some disadvantages, but there are plenty of gender-neutral colors out there that will suit every baby just fine. The same goes for nursery and accessory themes, if these are important to you. In the first months, babies grow so fast anyway, that if you only purchase what baby will need for the first few weeks, you can always buy more gender-specific items later. I should also mention that babies are messy, and generally don’t care what they’re wearing, as long as they are warm and comfortable. So very often the thrill of putting on baby’s first bow-tie or first frilly dress is pretty much just for the parents’ enjoyment.

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There is also the thrill of discovering whether or not you, or your friends and family’s predictions were right. I even know a couple who used the unknown gender of their baby as a way to raise funds for a local children’s charity- by asking friends to place bets on whether they were expecting a boy or a girl. However, you will have to put up with people analyzing your bump for signs of which gender you are carrying, as well as many other old wives’ tales… but hey, it’s only for 9 months!

Not knowing your baby’s sex is also in keeping with the vast majority of history’s childbearing tradition. Only very recently did we develop the technology to anticipate the gender of a fetus. And sometimes, even technology can be wrong. An advantage of not knowing is that there can be no mistakes on labor day- what comes out is what you’re stuck with!

A word to the wise: if you decide not to find out your baby’s gender, it’s probably best to be OK with having either a boy or a girl. Giving birth is enough of a roller-coaster of emotions, pain, and hormones, without adding disappointment at not getting the gender you wanted into the mix. But either way, every baby is special and unique, so no matter what the gender or what you decide to do with it, it’s the rest of the journey parenting your little bundle of joy that counts.

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Published on November 7, 2018

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

Figure Out the Laws

Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

Decide on an Approach

Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.

Supplies/Resources

Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.

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A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

Find a Community

Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

7 Different Homeschooling Methods

1. School-At-Home

Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

  • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
  • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
  • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

2. Classical

One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

3. Unit Studies

Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.

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For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

  • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
  • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
  • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

4. Charlotte Mason

This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

5. Montessori

Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

6. Unschooling

Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

7. Eclectic/Relaxed

As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.

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Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.

Email

Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

Google Drive/Calendar

Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.

Ebooks

Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:

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E-Courses

When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

Some recommendations:

Youtube

Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

Some recommendations:

Final Thoughts

Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

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