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The Most Important Qualities Of Real Leaders That Many People Overlook

The Most Important Qualities Of Real Leaders That Many People Overlook

Real leaders bring a variety of qualities to their work and their teams. Some start with an inspiring vision and a passion to share that message. Others become leaders because they attract attention due to their accomplishments. Without faith and trust, a leader will ultimately fail. Take inspiration from these real leaders in various fields and how they have inspired others to trust them.

Earn Faith Through results

Delivering results is a key way to earn the trust and respect of others in your organization. In fact, some leaders start by following orders and achieving results even if they had wished to do something differently. The ability to achieve results for your organization matters a great deal.

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Consider the military career of Dwight D. Eisenhower. Many of us know of Eisenhower from his time as U.S. President or as the Supreme Commander in Europe during the World War II. However, his early military career did not go according to plan. During the World War I, he was eager to be deployed to Europe. However, he was assigned to train and develop new soldiers in the U.S. Training new soldiers was important for the military and Eisenhower did it well, even though he would have preferred another assignment.

Lesson 1: earn trust by achieving results with whatever assignment you are given. This guidance is very important when you are establishing credibility in a new role or at a new organization.

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Keep Promises, Day After Day

Do you know what the top quality people want in leaders according to global surveys? It is not an Ivy League education. It is not industry connections or outstanding sales ability. According to research conducted by leadership authors James M. Kouzes and Barry Z. Posner, integrity and keeping your word is the top quality people seek in leaders.

Building your reputation for keeping promises starts small. You make a promise to meet a deadline for a customer and you keep it. You promise to give a special bonus to a star performer if they meet certain criteria and you follow through. If you’re uncertain about your ability to make keep a promise, be clear about that fact up front.

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If you are disorganized, you will have a hard time remembering all your commitments and keeping your word. I recommend learning a productivity system. Start by reading Leading Yourself With Getting Things Done.

Lesson 2: keeping trust as a leader is earned or lost one day at a time. As a leader, you can’t make excuses about simply forgetting your promises. You need to learn a productivity system, or work with a highly capable personal assistant.

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Develop Yourself To Lead Better

Arrogance is a frustrating and common trait in many leaders in the business world. Acting as though you are all-knowing also makes it difficult for your people to connect with you. Instead, real leaders look for ways to stay humble and keep growing.

As a young man, George Washington had great challenges. During his teenage years, Washington’s father died. He also lacked the benefit of a college education, a deficiency that he worked to address. Washington developed himself by becoming a student of etiquette and building relationships with influencers. This foundation of social graces, a strong network, and other capabilities gave him the ability to lead during the dark days of the War of Independence.

Lesson 3: lifelong learning is no longer optional. As a leader, it is up to you to be a role model for those you lead. Real leaders, past and present, put their time and energy into learning new ideas. With Internet learning resources, there’s no reason you can’t start learning today.

Featured photo credit: Rock Climbing/spencerlikestorun via pixabay.com

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Bruce Harpham is a Project Management Professional and Founder and CEO of Project Management Hacks.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Do you like making mistakes?

I certainly don’t.

Making mistakes is inevitable. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could be at ease with them?

Perhaps there is a way to think of them differently and see their benefits.

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Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

  • Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
  • Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
  • Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoats someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
  • Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why We Can’t Avoid Making Mistakes

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

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When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place. The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing.

Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

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Lessons Learned from Making Mistakes

Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable. Fortunately, there are many things you can learn from making mistakes.

Here is a list of ways to harness the mistakes you make for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal a new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Are the invisible made visible.

Reframe Reality to Handle Mistakes More Easily

The secret to handling mistakes is to:

  • Expect them as part of the process of growth and development.
  • Have an experimental mindset.
  • Think in evolutional rather than fixed terms.

When we accept change as the natural structure of the world, our vulnerability and humanness lets us work with the ebb and flow of life.

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When we recognize the inevitability of mistakes as part of the ongoing experiment which life is, then we can relax more. In doing so we may make fewer of them.

It also helps to keep in mind that trial and error is an organic natural way of living. It is how we have evolved over time. It is better to be with our natural evolution than to fight it and make life harder.

When we adopt an evolutional mindset and see ourselves as part of the ongoing human experiment, we can appreciate that all that has been built up over time which includes the many mistakes our ancestors have made over thousands of years. Each one of us today is a part of that human tradition of learning and experimenting,

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutional frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

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