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6 Hurdles Successful People Overcome At All Costs

6 Hurdles Successful People Overcome At All Costs

Success is a journey. It takes consistency and action and not mere words. Many people do not tend to appreciate enough the hurdles and challenges successful people must have overcome before reaching their goals. Paying attention to such details and not taking these hurdles for granted, but having a superior mindset to crush them could define how far you and I will go in meeting our successes. Even when you become successful it is important overcome at all costs these hurdles as you set forth to reaching your goals.

The lack of an identity

When nobody knows who you are it is difficult for anyone to vouch for you or offer the needed support to gain enough credit. This is why people who become successful meet several turn downs before they meet success. For the ordinary person it is easy to walk away and remain in obscurity, but people with a successful mindset don’t let their being unidentified stand in the way of their meeting success. They create an identity for themselves.

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Poor timing

Having a great idea or being a great talent is not enough. You have to take advantage of the times. Many who have failed met it because they had the right motive or desires and set forth for it at the wrong time. To become successful you don’t have to procrastinate though, you don’t have to say you are at the wrong side of age and that you need more time. Successful people set forth and take advantage of the time. They know that they even if they fail because of poor timing they would have benefited themselves in form of knowledge and be prepared enough to try again.

Being around the wrong people

There are a lot of people around who are willing to crush your spirits and dampen your self-belief. It is difficult to attain success when you surround yourself with ordinary who are okay with being average and sticking to the conventional. Getting out of the box and meeting success requires that you find your tribe of like-minded persons who will propel you and push you to maximizing your potential.

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A lack of direction

You could have the right intentions and desires but you are not channeling your skills and abilities in the right direction. All this could be dependent on not having the right knowledge or the right people around you to put you through. Having a clear cut strategy and the right approach to reaching your goals is always very important in becoming successful. Successful people gain direction through mentors, books or observing the trends.

A terrible lifestyle

Successful people understand that their body is the vehicle to success. You cannot do much without having the right vessel to take you to your destination. Many do take this for granted and do not pay attention to their health and lifestyle. You can’t do much under intense stress and pressure from what is around you. Successful people do well to minimize their stress and focus on getting the best out of their body. They eat right, exercise and have a decent rest. Ordinary people live with ordinary habits and this doesn’t matter too much, but successful people overcome the hurdle of destroying the vessel that will take them success by maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

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Trusting in what others think

You could be misguided with the many views on different platforms. It is hard not to listen to people and their opinions; some about your personality, others about your actions and decisions. But if you want to be successful, you have to overcome the hurdle of listening to what everyone has to say about you. Successful people believe in themselves rather than in the opinions of others. Ordinary people on the other hand become discouraged or disappointed as people dampen their ambitions with mere words.

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Last Updated on July 17, 2019

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

What happens in our heads when we set goals?

Apparently a lot more than you’d think.

Goal setting isn’t quite so simple as deciding on the things you’d like to accomplish and working towards them.

According to the research of psychologists, neurologists, and other scientists, setting a goal invests ourselves into the target as if we’d already accomplished it. That is, by setting something as a goal, however small or large, however near or far in the future, a part of our brain believes that desired outcome is an essential part of who we are – setting up the conditions that drive us to work towards the goals to fulfill the brain’s self-image.

Apparently, the brain cannot distinguish between things we want and things we have. Neurologically, then, our brains treat the failure to achieve our goal the same way as it treats the loss of a valued possession. And up until the moment, the goal is achieved, we have failed to achieve it, setting up a constant tension that the brain seeks to resolve.

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Ideally, this tension is resolved by driving us towards accomplishment. In many cases, though, the brain simply responds to the loss, causing us to feel fear, anxiety, even anguish, depending on the value of the as-yet-unattained goal.

Love, Loss, Dopamine, and Our Dreams

The brains functions are carried out by a stew of chemicals called neurotransmitters. You’ve probably heard of serotonin, which plays a key role in our emotional life – most of the effective anti-depressant medications on the market are serotonin reuptake inhibitors, meaning they regulate serotonin levels in the brain leading to more stable moods.

Somewhat less well-known is another neurotransmitter, dopamine. Among other things, dopamine acts as a motivator, creating a sensation of pleasure when the brain is stimulated by achievement. Dopamine is also involved in maintaining attention – some forms of ADHD are linked to irregular responses to dopamine.[1]

So dopamine plays a key role in keeping us focused on our goals and motivating us to attain them, rewarding our attention and achievement by elevating our mood. That is, we feel good when we work towards our goals.

Dopamine is related to wanting – to desire. The attainment of the object of our desire releases dopamine into our brains and we feel good. Conversely, the frustration of our desires starves us of dopamine, causing anxiety and fear.

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One of the greatest desires is romantic love – the long-lasting, “till death do us part” kind. It’s no surprise, then, that romantic love is sustained, at least in part, through the constant flow of dopamine released in the presence – real or imagined – of our true love. Loss of romantic love cuts off that supply of dopamine, which is why it feels like you’re dying – your brain responds by triggering all sorts of anxiety-related responses.

Herein lies obsession, as we go to ever-increasing lengths in search of that dopamine reward. Stalking specialists warn against any kind of contact with a stalker, positive or negative, because any response at all triggers that reward mechanism. If you let the phone ring 50 times and finally pick up on the 51st ring to tell your stalker off, your stalker gets his or her reward, and learns that all s/he has to do is wait for the phone to ring 51 times.

Romantic love isn’t the only kind of desire that can create this kind of dopamine addiction, though – as Captain Ahab (from Moby Dick) knew well, any suitably important goal can become an obsession once the mind has established ownership.

The Neurology of Ownership

Ownership turns out to be about a lot more than just legal rights. When we own something, we invest a part of ourselves into it – it becomes an extension of ourselves.

In a famous experiment at Cornell University, researchers gave students school logo coffee mugs, and then offered to trade them chocolate bars for the mugs. Very few were willing to make the trade, no matter how much they professed to like chocolate. Big deal, right? Maybe they just really liked those mugs![2]

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But when they reversed the experiment, handing out chocolate and then offering to trade mugs for the candy, they found that now, few students were all that interested in the mugs. Apparently the key thing about the mugs or the chocolate wasn’t whether students valued whatever they had in their possession, but simply that they had it in their possession.

This phenomenon is called the “endowment effect”. In a nutshell, the endowment effect occurs when we take ownership of an object (or idea, or person); in becoming “ours” it becomes integrated with our sense of identity, making us reluctant to part with it (losing it is seen as a loss, which triggers that dopamine shut-off I discussed above).

Interestingly, researchers have found that the endowment effect doesn’t require actual ownership or even possession to come into play. In fact, it’s enough to have a reasonable expectation of future possession for us to start thinking of something as a part of us – as jilted lovers, gambling losers, and 7-year olds denied a toy at the store have all experienced.

The Upshot for Goal-Setters

So what does all this mean for would-be achievers?

On one hand, it’s a warning against setting unreasonable goals. The bigger the potential for positive growth a goal has, the more anxiety and stress your brain is going to create around it’s non-achievement.

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It also suggests that the common wisdom to limit your goals to a small number of reasonable, attainable objectives is good advice. The more goals you have, the more ends your brain thinks it “owns” and therefore the more grief and fear the absence of those ends is going to cause you.

On a more positive note, the fact that the brain rewards our attentiveness by releasing dopamine means that our brain is working with us to direct us to achievement. Paying attention to your goals feels good, encouraging us to spend more time doing it. This may be why outcome visualization — a favorite technique of self-help gurus involving imagining yourself having completed your objectives — has such a poor track record in clinical studies. It effectively tricks our brain into rewarding us for achieving our goals even though we haven’t done it yet!

But ultimately, our brain wants us to achieve our goals, so that it’s a sense of who we are that can be fulfilled. And that’s pretty good news!

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