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This Is Why Some People’s Personality Is Just So Charming

This Is Why Some People’s Personality Is Just So Charming

Have you ever met someone that was simply irresistible? You probably couldn’t put your finger on it, but there was just something about them that made you want to be around them. You caught yourself hanging onto every word they said, and would follow them to the ends of the Earth on a whim, just because they were so charming. They most likely exhibited some, if not all, of the following traits:

1. They treat others with respect

Charming people see everyone as equals, and they treat all people as such. Perhaps the reason some people are so charming to you is that you’re simply not used to being treated so well, and you might not even believe that you deserve it. In truth, you deserve all of it, but these charming individuals are the ones who recognize that, and it’s why you’re drawn to them.

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2. They live by the Platinum Rule

We’ve all heard of the Golden Rule, but the Platinum Rule takes it a step further. Rather than treating others how they wish to be treated, charming people treat others the way those people want to be treated. When you think about it, the Golden Rule is inherently selfish, as those who abide by it are acting with their own interests in mind. Those who live by the Platinum Rule take others’ feelings into account, and treat individuals accordingly.

3. They engage in deep conversation

Charming people don’t waste time on small talk. They know that talking about the weather is no way to make a real connection, so they dive into deeper topics. By doing so, they get to know each person they meet on a much deeper level — getting to know their true interests, feelings, hopes, and dreams. This gives them a much deeper perspective about the world around them, which they carry into every relationship they forge.

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4. They focus on individuals

Along with avoiding small talk in favor of deep conversation, charming people actually become invested in their conversations. They ask probing questions about others’ lives, and show a genuine interest in the answers. They also focus on other people, and don’t become distracted by their cell phone or the ball game on TV. It always feels good to be heard, and charming people make sure your voice is heard when you speak up.

5. They don’t dominate conversation

As I mentioned, charming people ask a lot of questions. Although they are generally interesting and have a lot to say, they also know when to let others have the floor. Some people are overly charismatic — to the point that they will drone on long after others have lost interest. Charming people know when to throw their two cents in, and then back up to let others have their say.

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6. They recognize the difference between facts and opinions

Charming people don’t just spout their opinions as though they’re hard facts. Since they genuinely care what others have to say, they’re open to other perspectives and will be open-minded about topics going into a conversation. Of course, they will voice their opinions at times, but these will be backed up with facts gleaned from reliable sources. They don’t voice their opinions for the sake of arguing, but in order to continue healthy discussion.

7. They’re authentic

Most people can spot the difference between a true charmer and a phony. While a phony will often use their “charming” nature to further some ulterior motive, truly charming people make their intentions transparent from the get-go. Usually, these intentions are simply to further conversation or build up everyone else around them. You never have to watch what you say around a charming person, because you know they would never judge you.

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8. They have integrity

Charming people don’t just talk the talk. They back up their words with actions. Anyone can say that they’re going to do something, but charming people follow through with real actions. They back up their promises with deeds in order to show they’re not just out to further themselves — they want what’s best for all those around them.

9. They exhibit welcoming body language

This relates to how charming people focus on the speaker and give them respect. They will make eye contact with you and smile as you converse, which shows that their mind isn’t elsewhere during lulls in the conversation. They show you that they’re not bored of your discussion by sitting up straight and giving you their full attention. Again, charming people don’t have to be the center of attention to show their charm; they exhibit charm in their actions as well.

10. They’re optimistic and love life

Charmers have a genuine interest in the world around them, and they share this intrigue with everyone they meet. Their optimism can be downright infectious. They can turn run-of-the-mill moments into unforgettable evenings with their suggestions; they’re always up for making every waking moment count. The reason charming people have such a following is simply because they encourage others to enjoy life by just being around.

Featured photo credit: Handsome traveling man takes selfie photo with wild monkeys in tropical jungle forest in Phuket, Thailand, Asia via shutterstock.com

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10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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