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10 Signs You Have the Best Aunt Ever

10 Signs You Have the Best Aunt Ever

You have known your aunt your whole life and she is like a second mother to you. She has been there for all the important moments in your life, from softball games to graduation. Here are ten reasons why she truly is the best aunt and you are lucky to have her in your life.

1. She gives you a shoulder to lean on.

You know you can call her whenever you are struggling and need advice, because you feel completely comfortable opening up your heart to her. There are some things you have a hard time talking to your parents about, but you feel that your aunt is able to provide unbiased advice to you.

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2. She always tell the best stories about your parents when they were younger.

Sometimes it is hard to picture, but before you came along your parents were once young and have their fair share of adventures and antics that they got into. Your aunt is the perfect resource to hear stories about how you parents drove across the US in a RV or was a firsthand witness to the questionable clothing choices that your parents wore.

3. She keeps up with all the latest technology.

Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest—your aunt is tech-savvy and enjoys interacting with you on social media. Plus, she knows not to leave embarressing comments on your posts or put embarrassing photos that your parents have been guilty of on more than one occasion.

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4. She gives you thoughtful presents.

Your aunt knows your likes and dislikes like the back of her hand and is always spot-on when giving you a present. She also spoils you rotten, giving the excuse that that is what aunts are for.

5. She gives you great style advice.

Her style is always on point and when you need to go shopping, you always know who to call for picking out the perfect outfit. She not only knows what looks good, but also which store you are bound to find a certain style of clothing in.

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6. She is a firm believer in dessert.

Her motto has always been that life is meant to be enjoyed, especially with the sweeter things in life. She is also a strong believer that there is no wrong time for dessert and she would often spoil you with sweets when you were younger just because.

7. She is worldly and well-traveled.

Her travels have brought her to places that you have only read about and you cannot get enough of her intrepid adventures around the world. She inspires you to be more adventurous and create your own extensive travel bucket list.

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8. She can help be an ally.

When you are having trouble bringing something up to your parents, you go to your aunt first for advice on how to approach a difficult topic with them. She always is ready with spot-on advice and willing to advocate on your behalf.

9. She says you are her favorite.

She often reminds you that you are her favorite out of your siblings and cousins and you know this is true because of the special bond you have together. She is one of the few adults in your life that you feel is both a friend and a mentor, and you never take this for granted.

10. She is your role model.

You have always been impressed by the way that she has lived her life, from her career choices to her lifestyle decisions. She is someone you have always looked up to and shaped your life after. Your aunt is living proof that it is important to chase after your dreams and you completely agree.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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