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10 Signs You Have the Best Aunt Ever

10 Signs You Have the Best Aunt Ever

You have known your aunt your whole life and she is like a second mother to you. She has been there for all the important moments in your life, from softball games to graduation. Here are ten reasons why she truly is the best aunt and you are lucky to have her in your life.

1. She gives you a shoulder to lean on.

You know you can call her whenever you are struggling and need advice, because you feel completely comfortable opening up your heart to her. There are some things you have a hard time talking to your parents about, but you feel that your aunt is able to provide unbiased advice to you.

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2. She always tell the best stories about your parents when they were younger.

Sometimes it is hard to picture, but before you came along your parents were once young and have their fair share of adventures and antics that they got into. Your aunt is the perfect resource to hear stories about how you parents drove across the US in a RV or was a firsthand witness to the questionable clothing choices that your parents wore.

3. She keeps up with all the latest technology.

Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest—your aunt is tech-savvy and enjoys interacting with you on social media. Plus, she knows not to leave embarressing comments on your posts or put embarrassing photos that your parents have been guilty of on more than one occasion.

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4. She gives you thoughtful presents.

Your aunt knows your likes and dislikes like the back of her hand and is always spot-on when giving you a present. She also spoils you rotten, giving the excuse that that is what aunts are for.

5. She gives you great style advice.

Her style is always on point and when you need to go shopping, you always know who to call for picking out the perfect outfit. She not only knows what looks good, but also which store you are bound to find a certain style of clothing in.

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6. She is a firm believer in dessert.

Her motto has always been that life is meant to be enjoyed, especially with the sweeter things in life. She is also a strong believer that there is no wrong time for dessert and she would often spoil you with sweets when you were younger just because.

7. She is worldly and well-traveled.

Her travels have brought her to places that you have only read about and you cannot get enough of her intrepid adventures around the world. She inspires you to be more adventurous and create your own extensive travel bucket list.

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8. She can help be an ally.

When you are having trouble bringing something up to your parents, you go to your aunt first for advice on how to approach a difficult topic with them. She always is ready with spot-on advice and willing to advocate on your behalf.

9. She says you are her favorite.

She often reminds you that you are her favorite out of your siblings and cousins and you know this is true because of the special bond you have together. She is one of the few adults in your life that you feel is both a friend and a mentor, and you never take this for granted.

10. She is your role model.

You have always been impressed by the way that she has lived her life, from her career choices to her lifestyle decisions. She is someone you have always looked up to and shaped your life after. Your aunt is living proof that it is important to chase after your dreams and you completely agree.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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