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7-Step Self-Hypnosis to Boost Self-Esteem

7-Step Self-Hypnosis to Boost Self-Esteem

I grew up with low self-esteem and often encountered feelings of rejection. Many years of therapies and workshops transformed me into a self-actualized person. I’ve gained the courage and basic sense of self-worth to profit from living an adventuresome lifestyle in different cultures.

Ten percent of Americans suffer from depression, with an increase of twenty percent per year . Usually depression can be linked to a lack of self-worth, or self-esteem. This is partly because we live in a very competitive and fast-paced society where priority is not given to taking time for oneself for self-examination or personal growth. It’s easier to be how others want us rather than be ourselves. A very effective way of dealing with subconscious material is hypnosis.

What is hypnosis?

Most of us would think of nightclub acts. But you can easily and safely do this yourself (self-hypnosis) to eliminate negative beliefs and behaviors and substitute positive ones – to boost self-esteem. Hypnosis is a heightened state of receptivity, suggestibility, responsiveness, openness, to thoughts, sensations, or actions, in which the end result is to acquire automatic positive responses.

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You are almost always in a hypnotic state (trance, hypnagogic state) but it’s especially noticeable when falling asleep and upon awakening. Notice how effective TV commercials are and you will get an idea of how suggestibility works. Or how the media in general influence public thought and action.

During hypnosis, your brain switches from the normal thinking/sensory-motor state of beta frequency (12-20 Hz), to the lower frequency alpha (8-12 Hz), which is more relaxed, aware, and expanded – where creativity and ideas emanate – a state of peace and well-being. This is the bridge to long forgotten memories, and the state in which your subconscious mind is open to accepting new programming.

You will recognize this state by any of the following bodily sensations tingling fingertips, numbness or limb distortion, light feeling of floating away from your body, heavy like sinking, energy moving through the body, emotions heightened, fluttering eyelids, salvation increases or decreases and tiredness (but you do not fall asleep).

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Here is a step-by-step approach to using hypnosis:

1. Generate a goal/intention.

For example, one aspect of how you’d like your life to be, loving yourself and with a high level of self-confidence.

2. Formulate a statement with these characteristics:

Simple and easy to understand, can be repeated in 5 seconds or less and uses vivid images that are always positive, believable and specific. One way to do this is to recognize a limiting belief. “I am too fat and so no one likes me.” You might examine situations when this seems to be true and how often. Are there any cases where this isn’t true? Next flip this into a positive statement: “I feel fine in my body and people like me.” Hold onto this statement.

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3. Sitting or lying in a comfortable position, breathe gently:

From your belly, counting to 7 during the inhalation, hold for a count of 2, and then exhaling while counting to 11. Hold for 2 counts, then repeat 3 times. You will find that this becomes automatic.

4. Go deeper by visualizing the breath traveling through and relaxing each of 10 body parts.

Spend about 10 seconds on each in the order given: begin at the head, and then proceed to neck, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, stomach, buttocks, legs and feet.

5. Now bring in your goal.

Say it, visualize it, experience it as if it were really happening.

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6. Visualize it as if you already attained the goal.

Especially notice any feelings. If they are negative or limiting, gently let them go. Stay with this as long as it feels comfortable.

7. Feel gratitude.

Spend 15-20 sec. or more feeling thankful for having attained your positive goal. How well this works depends on how real you can make your intention statement seem, being present as if the desired intention was happening in the here and now. This is how Native American shamans do rainmaking. After going to a high energy place and doing appropriate rituals to contact the Great Spirit, they can actually feel the rain and give thanks to Spirit.

Remember that emotions are the fuel sending the subconscious into action. Be in touch with them and you will have success. In any case you should become very relaxed and free of tensions and stress. Give this a try!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

    Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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