5 Easy Ways to Shake Off a Bad Mood
Everyone gets into a big ol’ bad mood sometimes. I’m talking about the kind of mood that throws a spanner in the works, has you fuming at every little thing and threatens to ruin a perfectly good day.
Sometimes these moods happen just when you don’t want them to and they can get in the way of doing what you want to do in the way that you want to do it. Here’s how to shake them off quickly so that you can get back your life.
1. Leave the room
Get a change of scene. Right now. Bad moods can be triggered by all kinds of things and often it’s something around you that ticked you off, and if you stay in the same environment it’ll continue to nag at you and play on your mind. Go to a new environment, surround yourself with different things, different people and different sensations and it’s easier for you to leave your bad mood behind you.
2. Give yourself a treat
When you’re in a bad mood it’s easy to look for things to fuel that bad mood or reinforce it. Why? Because you want to feel like your bad mood is valid, so you look for things to validate it and make it right.
Break that habit by doing the opposite, no matter how strange it might feel. Watch a funny movie, play your favourite song, go for a walk in your local park, grab a coffee and a slice of pie in that great coffee shop. Do something that feels good and puts a smile on your face, and your bad mood will be history.
3. Have a BMW
When I’m in a coaching session with someone it’s pretty obvious if they’re in a bad mood. When that happens I say to them, “Right. You have 4 minutes to Bitch, Moan and Whine all you want. When the 4 minutes is up there’s no more moaning, deal?”. Then they let rip for 4 minutes.
Taking just a couple of minutes for a BMW (as I like to call it) can get everything right out there, everything that’s bubbling away. The key is not to pause or think – a BMW session is just getting it all out there. Often you’ll find that you run out of steam before the 4 minutes is up and sometimes you’ll just end up laughing. Either way, when you’re done you’ll feel lighter.
4. Hit the gym
Physical exercise has a direct influence on our mood, and countless studies have shown that exercise releases endorphins and serotonin (the body’s pleasure chemicals) that positively affect your mood. Hitting the gym not only releases those feel-good chemicals, but it’s a great distraction, diverting your attention away from your bad mood and giving you something to do that occupies your body and mind.
5. Let yourself off the hook
Fact of Life # 37 – Bad moods happen. Sometimes, it’s just fine to let the bad mood ride. If things are niggling you and bad moods are a familiar deal to you, then it’s a good bet that something’s not quite right somewhere in your life. Letting the bad mood ride allows you to go to those dark places where you wouldn’t normally go and see what’s there.
You don’t have to wallow in it, but letting it happen can be surprisingly liberating. Your bad moods are just as valid as your good moods and when you come out the other side you might just have learned something about what’s really going on.
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Steve Errey
Steve Errey almost died at age 9 as he choked on a grape. Today, Steve is still feeling the effects of some extravagant spending but remains remarkably upbeat and positive. As a leading confidence coach with clients right around the world, Steve has a reputation for talking sense and getting results. Read more at The Confidence Guy
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Comments
Deb says on November 19th, 2008 at 9:43 am
I love the power of #3. I never heard it referenced as a BMW – I’m gonna have to use that :)
I learned about it when I was about 24 – a senior office member saw me uncharacteristically mopey and asked what was wrong. She said that I had 15 minutes to complain, whine and feel bad. Giving yourself a deadline for stopping really helps you to focus on what you’re upset about and get over it.
Linda says on November 19th, 2008 at 11:21 am
Getting out into the fresh air really lifts your spirits as does having a good laugh!
Jayme says on November 19th, 2008 at 12:08 pm
Gretchen Rubin’s website The Happiness Project really helps me in general with being happier! Check it out: http://www.happiness-project.com
Karyl says on November 19th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Argh, now I really want a coffee and a slice of pie! :)
Steve Errey says on November 19th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
Nothing quite like a good cup o’ coffee and a great slice of pie Karyl! The laughter thing is so important to me too – a great stress reliever.
What else works for you?
Vincent says on November 20th, 2008 at 12:14 am
Hi Steve,
Hitting the gym is a great way to shake off that bad mood. Exercising can help us to let out steam and move our focus away from the negatives.
Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger
Alain Yap, Morph Labs says on November 20th, 2008 at 4:26 am
Sometimes I just pop a tune we love and it does the trick combined with the other tips you posted.
Best.
Gemma says on November 20th, 2008 at 6:07 am
Be careful with #2 though – this route can lead to things like comfort eating or retail therapy, which in the long run can just make bad moods worse, as you feel guilty for ‘giving in’ to cravings.
Try to write a list (when you’re in a good mood!) of treats you could give yourself when you need them – then you won’t always fall back on the raspberry muffin (my personal favourite!).
Dan says on November 20th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
I think a BMW car also works well to shake off a bad mood. :)
Vivek says on November 23rd, 2008 at 9:19 am
….. and for people like me, listen to some music! (something slow, easy and nice)
Productive Magazine says on November 23rd, 2008 at 10:00 am
There is a series of articles on Happiness in the first issue of the Productive Magazine:
http://www.productivemagazine.com
including one by Gretchen Rubin as well…
(and an interview with David Allen as a bonus), please let me know what you think on this magazine, consisting only of “Productivity Bloggers” articles.
- Michael (Editor)
van dealer says on July 30th, 2009 at 5:34 am
I couldnt agree more with the change of scenery point. More often than not I find that talking to someone who you haven’t been around all day helps, although this isnt always possible at work