Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them.
~ Henry Ford
Problems are not the reason why a person lives a difficult and miserable life; most of the time, it’s a matter of perspective. Because often, majority of people let problems defeat them through feelings of anger, fear and anxiety. These negative feelings paralyze a person to move forward and take a step in resolving the problem.
On the other hand, perspective is also the reason why there are people who succeed despite struggles and difficulties in life. It’s because those who succeed knows how to resolve or manage problems when it arises. They don’t let the negative emotion of anger, doubt, fear or anxiety interfere their ability to think of the solutions and take the next step.
If you get easily paralyzed and depressed by the problems in your life, take time to read and follow these seven steps in resolving problem. It can help you rise above the difficulties, move on positively and eventually achieve success in life.
Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer. ~ Denis Waitley
1. Identify Your Problems
The first step to rising and resolving the problems of your life is to identify what your problems are. Because when you know what your problems are, only then can you be ready to face and resolve it.
Stop feeling angry, scared and anxious even for just a few minutes. Take time to reflect and start writing down what makes your life difficult. Identify one by one all the problems that’s bothering and paralyzing you to enjoy life.
2. Face Your Problems
After you’ve identified all the problems that are keeping you from being happy in your life, the next step is for you to be strong and approach your problems.
Oftentimes, we tend to avoid problems because of the discomfort and awkwardness it feels. However, avoiding doesn’t solve your problems; it will only prolong or increases the damage and difficulty when left unsolved. Be strong in facing and resolving your problems.
3. Resolve Your Problems
Once you had the courage to face your problems, you are now ready to decide on the solution or the next action step.
Remember, anger, worry or misery doesn’t change anything; it will only leave you with ill feelings. The circumstance will only change when you start to decide on the solution.
4. Move On
Once the problem is resolved, move on and let it go. Stop thinking about your problem over and over again. It will do nothing but gives you anxiety and stress.
5. Remember the Lessons Learned
You may be surprised but the truth is problems are actually good for you because it is a way for you to learn a lesson. However, if the lesson isn’t learned, there’s a huge possibility that the problem will occur again in the future.
In every problem that arises in your life, strive to learn the lesson and carry them as you move forward in life. Remember, it’s better to carry the lessons learned rather than the grudges.
6. Never Lose Your Value as a Person
It is false to believe that problems are bad karma as a consequence of your past wrong doings. Remember, problem happens even to the most saintly people on earth. Never let problems become a measurement of your value as a person. You never lose your value because of problems.
7. Be Ready for Problems
The best way to become prepared and ready with problems is to accept that it is part of life. Accept problems as part of the imperfections that makes life more meaningful and worth living for. As they say, if there’s no pain, there’s no glory. The same is true that if there’s no problems and difficulty, there will be no happiness and bliss.