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How To Negotiate With People Who Have More Sway Than You

How To Negotiate With People Who Have More Sway Than You

The workplace can be an intimidating environment, especially when you land the task of negotiating with people with more sway than you. We are not going to lie and say that negotiating with powerful people is easy, because unfortunately it isn’t. However there are a number of things you can do to improve your argument and make yourself more confident in your approach to negotiating.

1. Prepare what you are going to say

There is no such thing as over-preparing for a negotiation. Do your homework to ensure that you not only have enough knowledge of the subject of your negotiation, but also the person you will be negotiating with. The more effort you put into preparing for a negotiation, the more confident you will be. The other person will be able to pick up on your confidence and knowledge and is likely to take you much more seriously.

For example, say you are negotiating with a higher-level colleague about the appropriate action to take with your campaign, in order to drive successful results. Preparing your argument and why you believe you should take a specific approach, over their approach (with facts and figures to back up your points) will show the other person that you have done your homework and help them to see things from your perspective.

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2. Anticipate what the other person wants from you

Part of your preparation process should involve thinking about what the other person wants. Predicting their argument and any objections they may have to your argument, will allow you to find facts and statements to back yourself up with. Thinking about what the other person wants from you will allow you to incorporate how you are going to meet their needs in your argument, making it stronger and harder to say no to.

Say for example you were asking for funding to hire an assistant. You would need to anticipate what the other side requires to justify the additional expense. This would involve proving that you required an assistant and how it would benefit them e.g. increased productivity levels, better efficiency, more profit.

3.  Keep calm

It is natural to feel intimidated when negotiating with someone with more sway than you, but the key is to keep calm. Whether you are negotiating a pay rise or funding for your project, it is important to remember that although the other person is more powerful than you, you have earned the right to converse with them.

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Think positive and tell yourself and others that you are feeling confident and have a great case to make. Telling other people that you feel nervous about your negotiation can make you feel more nervous. Taking a few deep breaths will also help to calm your nerves and focus your mind.

4.  Think positively and aim high

Always think positively and aim high. That way, you won’t be disappointed when the person you are negotiating with meets you somewhere in the middle. In order to aim high you need to understand and believe that you and the case you are making are of value to the other person.

Aiming high works particularly well when it comes to negotiating a pay rise. If you ask for more money than you believe you will get and have facts such as successful projects you have worked on and your experience to back you up, it is more likely that your manager will meet you in the middle and you won’t leave disappointed.

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5.  Listen carefully

While anticipating what the other side may be arguing is essential when preparing your argument, it is still important to listen carefully to what they are saying during your negotiation. You never know, they may not ask for as much as you predicted, allowing you to tailor your comeback accordingly.

Listening to the person with more sway than you will also show you respect them and in turn command far greater respect for yourself. Show you are listening to them by asking the right questions, preferably open-ended ones that will allow you to gain more information as to what they require of you.

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    6.  Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want

    There is little point in negotiating with someone if you compromise on what you want from the beginning. Enter the negotiating knowing exactly what you want to achieve from it and do not be afraid to ask for what you want. Providing you have points to back up why you deserve a pay raise, funding, job or whatever you are negotiating, will show that you are assertive and have self-worth.

    7.  Remember that you can always walk away

    Always enter negotiations knowing that you can walk away if the other side is unwilling to compromise. If your negotiation is going nowhere and you are unwilling to walk away, you may appear desperate. Showing you are prepared to walk away if you cannot negotiate a satisfactory will with show the other person that you mean business.

    Although these techniques may seem simple, following them will go a long way in helping you to achieve your goals. Even if you have less sway than the person you are negotiating with, using these techniques will show that you are knowledgeable and have a valid case to make. Keep calm and positive, listen carefully, back up your points with facts and remember that you always have the option to walk away.

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    Last Updated on September 23, 2020

    Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

    Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

    Are you waking up each day looking for that perfect thing, activity, or job that will make your life work? Or, maybe you are looking for that perfect relationship. Once you “get” this new thing that will allow you to do what you love, you are sure that you will be happy forever.

    In reality, life doesn’t work like that, and we would probably get bored if it did. There is likely no one thing, experience, or activity that will keep you feeling passionate and engaged all the time. What’s important is staying connected to what you love and continuing to grow in the process.

    Here, we’ll talk about how to get started doing what you love and achieving more in life through the motivation it brings. Doing this doesn’t have to take a long time; it just takes determination and energy.

    Most People Already Know Their Passion

    So many people walk around in life “looking for” their passion. They look for it as if true passion is some mysterious thing that is difficult to find and runs away once you find it. However, the problem is rarely lack of passion.

    Most of us already know what we love to do. We know what excites us, even if we haven’t done it for years. Instead, we focus on what we think we “must” do.

    For example, maybe you love building model cars or painting pet portraits. Yet, each day you work a completely unrelated job and make no time for the activity you already know you love. The truth is you probably don’t need to find your passion; you just need to start doing what you already know you’re passionate about[1].

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    No Activity Is Exciting All the Time

    Even people who are living their dream lifestyle or working their dream job don’t love it all the time. Every job or lifestyle has parts of it that we won’t like.

    Let’s say your dream is to become an actress, and you succeed. You may not enjoy the process of auditioning and facing rejection. You may experience moments of boredom when you practice your lines over and over again. But the overall experience is totally worth it.

    Most of life is like that. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by demanding that life be perfect all the time. If things were perfect and easy, you would ultimately stop learning and growing, and life would begin to lack even more meaning in that case.

    Be grateful for both the good and bad moments as they are both entirely necessary if you genuinely want to do what you love and love what you do.

    Doing What You Love May Not Be Easy

    Living a life you love is unlikely to be easy. If it was, you would not grow very much as a person. And, if you think about a great book or movie, the growth of the main character is what matters most.

    What if the challenges you meet along your path to living a life you love were designed to make you grow as a person? You may actually start looking forward to challenges instead of dreading them. An easy life hardly ever makes a compelling story.

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    If you struggle to overcome challenges, try writing them down each time you encounter one. Then, write down three ways you could tackle it. Try one, and if it doesn’t work, try another. This way, you’ll learn what does and doesn’t work for you.

    How to Do What You Love

    There are many small steps you can take to ensure you are making time to do the things you love. Start with these, and you’ll likely find that you’re already on the right track.

    1. Choose Your Priorities Wisely

    Many people claim they want to do something, yet they don’t do it. The truth is they might not really want to do it in the first place[2].

    We all end up following through on what matters most to us. We make decisions moment by moment about what we need to focus on. What we choose to do is what we deem most important in our lives.

    If there is something you claim you want to do but you don’t do it, try asking yourself how much you really want it or where it’s currently placed on priority list. Are there other things you want more?

    Be honest with yourself: what you currently do each day is a reflection of your priorities. Recognize that you can change your priorities at any time.

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    Make a list of your priorities. Really take the time to think this through. Then, ask yourself if what you are doing each day reflects them. For example, if you believe your top priority is spending more time with your family, but you consistently take on extra hours at work, you’re not really prioritizing things in the way you think you are.

    If this is happening, it’s time to make a change.

    2. Do One Small Thing Each Day

    As stated above, doing what you love doesn’t have to mean finding that perfect job that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. If you want to do what you love, start with one small thing each day.

    Maybe you love reading a good book. Take ten minutes before bed to read.

    Maybe you love swimming. Get a membership at the local YMCA, and go there for thirty minutes after work each day.

    Dedicating even a short amount of time to something that brings you joy each day will improve your life overall. You may find that, over time, a career path related to what you love to do pops up. After doing the thing you love each day, you’ll be more than prepared to take it on when the opportunity arises.

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    If you need help making time for your passions, check out this article to get started.

    3. Prepare to Make Sacrifices

    If you are an exceptionally busy person (aren’t we all?), you may have to make sacrifices in order to make space for the things you are passionate about. Maybe you take on less extra hours at the office or take thirty minutes away from another hobby in order to develop another that you enjoy.

    Looking at your priority list will help you decide what can get put on the back burner and what can’t. Remember, do this thinking about what will help you feel good about how you’re spending your time. 

    For example, if you love writing but rarely make time for it, consider getting up 30 minutes earlier than normal. Or instead of browsing your phone for 30 minutes before bed, you can write instead. There is always a way to find time for what you love.

    Final Thoughts

    If you love what you do, each day becomes a joyful adventure. If you don’t love what you are doing, life feels like a chore. The best way to achieve success is to design a life you love and live it every day.

    Remember, doing something you love doesn’t have to include big gestures or time-consuming projects. Start small and grow from there.

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