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10 Tricks To Make Connections With Basically Everyone (Like A Social Butterfly)

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10 Tricks To Make Connections With Basically Everyone (Like A Social Butterfly)

Everyone feels isolated sometimes, no matter how many friends they have. We all want to learn to make connections with other people and the world around us. Here are 10 tips to break out of your lonely cocoon and become a social butterfly.

1. Don’t Be Fake

It’s pretty simple; don’t come across as an attention-seeking machine. Be a real, genuine person to the people you’re networking with. Don’t worry about how to impress people if it gets in the way of making connections that are genuine. The people who you want to have a relationship with are eventually going to meet the real you, so be honest and present that person right away.

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2. Be Attentive

People like to be listened to, so listen closely. The best way to get to know someone is to just let them tell you about themselves, so you don’t want to hoard the conversation. Give them plenty of time to speak. They’ll appreciate it and feel more comfortable around you, which could result in a long-lasting relationship.

3. Be Supportive

Look for ways to help others, even if it’s the first time you’re having a conversation with them. When you’re on a job hunt, the best thing you can do is demonstrate your benefits to a potential employer by aiding him or her. Look for opportunities to support the people you’re talking with; don’t solely focus on what you want out of the relationship or the relationship will be nonexistent.

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4. Be Persistent

Don’t be afraid to work a little bit for someone’s attention, whether that someone be a person you want to know personally or professionally. Be sure not to be a pest, but don’t give up too easily or you might not make connections you want to.

5. Be Desirable

An air of mystery around a person makes them all the more fascinating to everyone they talk with. The most boring man or woman could seem dazzling if he or she is adept at knowing what to reveal about themselves and what to keep hidden. If you’re trying to intrigue a new person, avoid being a completely open book.

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6. Don’t Be Forgotten

Make an impression. Don’t do anything too crazy, but make sure you do something to distinguish yourself from the crowd of suitors or applicants when trying to make connections.

7. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

You have to be real, but you should also remember what your ultimate goal is. Don’t be so sidetracked by trying to be helpful that you don’t consider your own needs. Consistently remind yourself what you want and how you’re going to get it.

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8. Connect With Common Interests

If you listened to the person you’re trying to impress when they told you what they enjoy, you’ll know if you have any common interests. Having similar hobbies is a great way to build the foundation of a friendship. Even if you’re not exactly into what the other person is into, connect their passion with something you do like so that you can show some enthusiasm.

9. It’s Not What You Know…

Nepotism is almost always an advantage. Using that advantage isn’t a bad thing; it’s simply an opportunity to present yourself. If you have a friend or a friend of a friend who knows the person you’re trying to impress, make use of them so that you can get your foot in the door.

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10. Be True To Yourself

Never waiver from being the person that you want and deserve to be. You may be tempted to try anything to make a connection with someone, but don’t try to deceive that job recruiter or potential friend into thinking that you’re something you’re really not. That situation ends distastefully for all parties.

Featured photo credit: Digo_Souza via flickr.com

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20 Ways to Describe Yourself in a Job Interview

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20 Ways to Describe Yourself in a Job Interview

“Please describe yourself in a few words”.

It’s the job interview of your life and you need to come up with something fast. Mental pictures of words are mixing in your head and your tongue tastes like alphabet soup. You mutter words like “deterministic” or “innovativity” and you realize you’re drenched in sweat. You wish you had thought about this. You wish you had read this post before.

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    Here are 20 sentences that you could use when you are asked to describe yourself. Choose the ones that describe you the best.

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    “I am someone who…”:

    1. “can adapt to any situation. I thrive in a fluctuating environment and I transform unexpected obstacles into stepping stones for achievements.”
    2. “consistently innovates to create value. I find opportunities where other people see none: I turn ideas into projects, and projects into serial success.”
    3. “has a very creative mind. I always have a unique perspective when approaching an issue due to my broad range of interests and hobbies. Creativity is the source of differentiation and therefore, at the root of competitive advantage.”
    4. “always has an eye on my target. I endeavour to deliver high-quality work on time, every time. Hiring me is the only real guarantee for results.”
    5. “knows this job inside and out. With many years of relevant experience, there is no question whether I will be efficient on the job. I can bring the best practices to the company.”
    6. “has a high level of motivation to work here. I have studied the entire company history and observed its business strategies. Since I am also a long-time customer, I took the opportunity to write this report with some suggestions for how to improve your services.”
    7. “has a pragmatic approach to things. I don’t waste time talking about theory or the latest buzz words of the bullshit bingo. Only one question matters to me: ‘Does it work or not?'”
    8. “takes work ethics very seriously. I do what I am paid for, and I do it well.”
    9. “can make decisions rapidly if needed. Everybody can make good decisions with sufficient time and information. The reality of our domain is different. Even with time pressure and high stakes, we need to move forward by taking charge and being decisive. I can do that.”
    10. “is considered to be ‘fun.’ I believe that we are way more productive when we are working with people with which we enjoy spending time. When the situation gets tough with a customer, a touch of humour can save the day.”
    11. “works as a real team-player. I bring the best out of the people I work with and I always do what I think is best for the company.”
    12. “is completely autonomous. I won’t need to be micromanaged. I won’t need to be trained. I understand high-level targets and I know how to achieve them.”
    13. “leads people. I can unite people around a vision and motivate a team to excellence. I expect no more from the others than what I expect from myself.”
    14. “understands the complexity of advanced project management. It’s not just pushing triangles on a GANTT chart; it’s about getting everyone to sit down together and to agree on the way forward. And that’s a lot more complicated than it sounds.”
    15. “is the absolute expert in the field. Ask anybody in the industry. My name is on their lips because I wrote THE book on the subject.”
    16. “communicates extensively. Good, bad or ugly, I believe that open communication is the most important factor to reach an efficient organization.”
    17. “works enthusiastically. I have enough motivation for myself and my department. I love what I do, and it’s contagious.”
    18. “has an eye for details because details matter the most. How many companies have failed because of just one tiny detail? Hire me and you’ll be sure I’ll find that detail.”
    19. “can see the big picture. Beginners waste time solving minor issues. I understand the purpose of our company, tackle the real subjects and the top management will eventually notice it.”
    20. “is not like anyone you know. I am the candidate you would not expect. You can hire a corporate clone, or you can hire someone who will bring something different to the company. That’s me. “

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