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10 Reasons Why Your Coworkers Have The Potential To Be Your Great Friends

10 Reasons Why Your Coworkers Have The Potential To Be Your Great Friends

Co-workers are the people that you spend the most time with, even more so than friends and family. They have seen you at your best and at your worst. Here are some reasons that your work friendships could easily develop into something more meaningful.

1. They see you at your worst

Seeing you when you are under immense pressure from a looming deadline or after a disagreement with your boss, they have not only seen you at a vulnerable time, but they stuck with you and lent a shoulder to lean on. They are familiar with how you act under stress and know when to offer some reassuring words or let you have your space. You have survived major work-related hardships because your co-worker crew has always been there when you were at your worse.

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2. They have seen you grow

Spending a majority of the work day together, your co-workers have watched you flourish, both professionally and personally. They have been there for the major life milestones, whether it was the day that you bought your first house or the time that you got promoted, they were right by your side sipping champagne and patting you on the back.

3. They put in the effort to celebrate your special days

Whether it’s your five year work anniversary or your birthday, your co-workers know how to throw an office party. From the thoughtfully handwritten sign to your favorite chocolate cupcakes, you always feel appreciated at work and in life because of them.

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4. They are always up for a little TV show gossip

It is an unspoken tradition that every Tuesday morning you and a couple of your co-workers will recap the highlights of The Voice in painstaking detail. These weekly conversations are the perfect mindless activity to take your mind off of the presentation that you have been stressing on for the past week and it also is a great way to bond.

5. They understand that you are not perfect

Your co-workers know all to well about your personal quirks and have learned to take them in stride. They are forgiving when you leave you dirty dishes in the sink, but also are straightforward with you and call you out on things, only because they have your best interests in mind.

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6. They understand a large piece of your life

Your world revolves around the office on weekdays and it is always nice to have people who are familiar with the same environment to commiserate with when you are venting about a work-related issue or recalling an inside joke that only your co-workers would understand the context for.

7. They understand your financial troubles

Having friends who understand your current financial struggles from a low paycheck are priceless, especially if they can relate firsthand like your co-workers can. They have either been there themselves or at the very least they know the unfair pay structure of your company and are willing to partake in $1 Taco Tuesday over handcrafted cocktails any time of the week.

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8. They already know the intimate details of your life

From your minor health mishaps to what you eat for breakfast every morning, your co-workers know things about you that only close friends confide in each other about. They are there to give you an Advil when your head is pounding from the night before or laugh with you as you recall an embarrassing encounter in the bathroom with your boss.

9. They want to hang out with you outside the office

On top of spending forty hours together during the week, they want to include you in their weekend plans and vice versa. Whether it is plans to see the latest action flick after work or chowing down on some seriously good Thai on the weekend, you always seem to be making plans to hang out.

10. They know your friends and family

Knowing your family is a key component to understand you and why are the way your are. They have heard all the stories of you growing up and how you always fought with your older sister about whose turn it was to take out the trash. Your co-workers also know who your closest friends are and why they are so important to you.

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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