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15 Things Independent People Don’t Do

15 Things Independent People Don’t Do

Do you think you are an independent person? Being independent has many benefits; you rarely need to rely on others and you question the world around you.

Check out 15 things independent people don’t do.

1. They Don’t Need Help Handling Situations

Independent people prefer to handle their own situations, even the good ones. They dislike others speaking for them and feel powerful for making their own decisions. From a new job offer to what to buy at the supermarket, independent people often avoid asking others for advice.

2. They Don’t See Themselves As Victims

People who see themselves as victims often need others to save them, whereas independent people prefer to take responsibility for their actions. They understand that self-pity can get you down, so they avoid this way of thinking. Instead, they accept their mistakes and move on.

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3. They Don’t Overreact To Bad News

Independent people try to learn from all of their mistakes rather than hoping someone else will fix them. They do not overreact when confronted with bad news—they see mistakes as a learning process that will help them to make better decisions in the future.

4. They Don’t Blindly Believe Everything

Independent people question the world around them, and often seek the truth, rather than accepting the first thing they hear. They understand that trust is a gift that must be earned and regularly question people and authorities.

5. They Don’t Let Negative People Affect Them

Independent people do not let negative people bring them down–they do not need reassurance about their lives, and they are too busy getting on with life to pay much thought to negative comments.

6. They Don’t Judge Others With Different Opinions

Independent people understand that it is wrong to look down on others. They accept other people’s beliefs. They know that their personal experiences and independent lifestyle helped to form their opinions and they understand different people have different personal experiences.

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They don’t feel the need to argue about opinions, as they are secure in their own beliefs—instead, they are more likely to let the subject go so they can focus on any similarities they may have.

7. They Avoid Being Negative About Others

Independent people are too busy getting on with their own lives to involve themselves in the lives of others. People who comment negatively on other people’s lives often have empty, dull lives themselves—someone who is independent would take the time to fill their own lives with joy and meaning, rather than bring others down.

8. They Don’t Let Impulse Rule Them

While everyone can be occasionally impulsive, independent people do not let impulses rule their lives. They try to remain in control of their lives at all times, so they understand the possible consequences of being impulsive. If the impulse could take away their independence—such as a financial risk—they may be less likely to go through with it.

9. They End Bad Relationships

From romantic relationships to friendships, independent people end any relationship that has become toxic. Independent people do not rely on many people, and negative actions from others will rarely deeply affect them—they will simply cut their losses and move on.

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10. They Don’t Neglect Their Well-being

An essential part of being truly independent is being able to take care of your own physical and mental needs. Independent people try to ensure they get everything their body needs, from food and water to sleep and socializing. They don’t have to rely on other people to socialize, and their mom doesn’t need to remind them to eat their greens—they get it done anyway.

11. They Do Not Need Approval From Others

Independent thinkers trust their own judgement more than others, so they rarely ask others if they approve of their decisions. They trust that they had enough information to make an educated decision, and that itself is enough.

12. They Don’t Take Too Long To Make Decisions

If you are an independent thinker, you will see there are rarely any good reasons to put off making a decision—especially since they understand the decision is their choice and no one else’s. Independent thinkers assess all of the information available to them, and use it to make a reasonable and quick decision.

13. They Don’t Believe Every Question Has Been Answered

Independent thinkers are often naturally curious, and they don’t believe every question has been answered. They also believe some questions are too complex to be answered by a simple textbook explanation.

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14. They Don’t Let Others Tell Them What Is Right

Independent people do not let society and other people tell them how to behave or what is right and wrong. Instead, they use all of the information available to them to make sure they can find the most accurate answer.

15. They Don’t Have Unrealistic Expectations

Having unrealistic expectations is a sure-fire way to end up feeling unhappy and dissatisfied. An important part of being a strong, independent person is to be realistic about your skills, abilities, and expectations—this way you can focus on achieving genuine personal goals.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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