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10 Things Highly Respected People Do Differently

10 Things Highly Respected People Do Differently

When people are highly respected, they stand out from the crowd in many ways. They may be media stars, politicians, sports stars, actors or writers. Maybe you know these people already. But did you know how they gained respect and success? Not without hard work, I can assure you. Here are 10 ways that will help you spot them.

1. They always over-deliver

Highly respected people never fail to deliver on their promises. Many go that extra mile and over-deliver. A great example is Bill Gates who certainly over-delivered on fighting multi-drug resistant tuberculosis (MDR-TB) in South Africa. His team gained an 80 percent cure rate at the cost of $100 for six months of treatment. This was an astonishing achievement, given that the previous rate was only 50 percent at a cost of $2,000.

2. They show appreciation

Let’s face it, anyone with emotional intelligence can gain respect and loyalty. They do this by simply showing appreciation and expressing gratitude for a great job. Unlike Tina Turner who never expressed gratitude to America where she amassed fame and millions of dollars. She is now renouncing her American citizenship to become Swiss.

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” — Voltaire

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3. They leave nobody behind

Involving millions of people and engaging them in noble ventures is always mind-blowing. Bono’s work in trying to end global poverty and AIDS is a great example. He likes to be known as a ‘factivist,’ as he outlined in his TED talk.

4. They acknowledge your existence

Many famous people rarely pay attention to ordinary mortals like us when they enter a room or respond to a tweet. But there are some glorious exceptions when highly successful people will make the effort to acknowledge you. If you are really into getting celebrities to notice you on social media, try Reddit’s Ask Me Anything. Some very famous people like Barack Obama and Neil deGrasse Tyson have answered people’s questions there.

“A real gentleman is as polite to a little girl as to a woman.” — Louisa May Alcott

5. They influence and better people’s lives

Melinda Gates’s mother presented Bill and Melinda Gates with a challenge at their wedding. She said: “From those who are given great resources, great things are expected.” Melinda Gates, in her role as co-chairman of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, divides her time between field visits in Niger and organizing a family planning summit for world leaders. This project hopes to make safe contraception freely available to 120 million women in developing countries.

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“All lives have an equal value.” — Melinda Gates

6. They act rather than just talk

Richard Branson is one of the most respected entrepreneurs in the whole world. He could have sat back and enjoyed the good life. But he was determined to make the world a better place and acted rather than talked about what needed to be done. He never let things like recession scare him and it is no accident that he is known as Dr. Yes at Virgin. His motto is to turn ideas into reality.

“I’m fortunate enough to have only ever worked for myself – so I’ve always liked my boss! From selling Christmas trees to records, flying planes to spaceships, I’ve had a blast every step of the way.” — Sir Richard Branson

7. They like to share

“The person who dances with you in the rain will most likely walk with you in the storm.” — Anon.

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Tony Hsieh (pronounced Shay) is not only the CEP of the Zappos online store but also a founding member of the Downtown Project for Las Vegas. The project founders hope to transform downtown Las Vegas into a community focused city. They aim to do that by encouraging entrepreneurs to work with the community to share interests, ideas and passions to build a connected urban core. They do not envisage dilapidated buildings but rather repurposed shipping containers. Las Vegas may become the shipping container capital of the world!

8. They do not seek the limelight

Many highly respected entrepreneurs and celebrities beaver away in the background and are rarely seen. They build high-performing teams, they do not seek accolades and they are able to stand back and let others thrive. They can celebrate their achievements through others. There are many other people who never get the recognition they deserve.

The University Partnerships Programme’s Unsung Heroes Award is a great example of how these people, who would otherwise have flown under the radar, are given credit for their achievements.

9. They are modest

You will never hear a humble or modest person say: “Let me deal with this. No one else can do it better than me.” David Packard, the co-founder of Hewlett-Packard is an excellent example of humility. He says: “You shouldn’t gloat about anything you’ve done; you ought to keep going and find something better to do.”

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10. They pay it forward

Confident and respected people can pay it forward in many ways. A selfless, respected leader can mentor, help and guide coworkers. They set the example of selflessness in giving their time, energy and money. The US Marines are a famous example where the officers always eat last.

Featured photo credit: Richard Branson/[email protected] via flickr.com

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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