“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu
It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted. However, this often leads to people worrying too much about what others are thinking about them.
This kind of excessive worrying can have a negative effect on your life. It can be so debilitating that it interferes with your ability to feel at ease with yourself and around others. Do not let it prevent you from living your life to the fullest potential.
Here are ten reasons why you should not care about what others think:Advertising
1. It’s Not Their Life, So It’s None Of Their Business
People are entitled to think whatever they want, just as you are entitled to think what you want. What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to.
This is your life to live. At the end of the day you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.
2. They Don’t Know What’s Best For You
Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you. Only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices. The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions, taking full responsibility for them, and that way if you do fail, at least you can learn from it wholeheartedly, as opposed to blaming somebody else.
3. What’s Right For Someone Else May Be Completely Wrong For You
It’s important to recognize that someone’s opinion is often based on what they would do. This alone is the problem. What is best for somebody else, can be the worst thing for you. What one person considers garbage can be another person’s treasure. We are all so unique. Only you know what is right for you.Advertising
4. It Will Keep You From Your Dreams
If you are constantly worried about what other people think, you will never get to where you need to go in life. You are going to have to do things that don’t always meet people’s standards. You will come into situations where you have to put your pride, and your reputation on the line to get what you want. If you are constantly worried about what people are thinking, you will never have the will to do what’s right.
5. You’re The One Stuck With The End Result
In life, you are the one stuck with the consequences of your decisions. For example, if someone suggests you buy some stocks, but you just don’t feel like it’s the right choice, you are the only one who will live the consequences. If the stock falls and you lose a lot of money, you are the one that will have to live with the fact that you didn’t follow your inner call. When people give you their suggestions or even orders, there is no risk for them. They don’t have to live with your choices—but you do.
6. People’s Thoughts Change On A Regular Basis
We are constantly changing. Some philosophers and theorists suggest that we are in a constant state of flux, so much that we cannot even say we have one, specific ‘self’ (or a fixed personality). People’s thoughts, ideas and views change on a regular basis.
That means even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. So basically, people’s thoughts don’t really matter.Advertising
7. Life Is Simply Too Short
You only have one life to live, so why would you spend it worrying about other people’s opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. You’re not going to see these people after you’re dead. You probably won’t even see them in a year from now. Live your life without worrying about other people’s thoughts and opinion, and you will live your life to the maximum.
8. You Reap What You Sow
Worrying too much about what other people think of you can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Frequently, people indulge their need to be liked so much so that it actually dictates to the way they behave. Some become people-pleasers or so submissive that many people are turned off. The behavior you use as an attempt to ensure you are liked may actually cause you to be disliked.
9. Others Don’t Care As Much As You Think
People generally don’t think outside themselves a great deal of time. It is a sad but simple truth that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think about most things in terms of “me” or “my”.
This means that, unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all.Advertising
10. The Hard Truth: It’s Impossible To Please Everybody
You can’t please all of the people all of the time. It is impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. Just make sure that one of the people you please is yourself!
The weight of other’s thought can become a burden for you. It can inhibit you from living your life, because your entire being (your personality, your thoughts, your actions) are controlled by an idealized standard of what people want to see. When you become so obsessed with other people’s opinion of you, you forget your own.
You can make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn; to let yourself free. It’s a skill that needs to be practiced, like meditating. But once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different.
Once you give up catering to other people’s opinion and thoughts, you will find out who you truly are, and that freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.
Last Updated on September 18, 2019
15 Best Organizing Tips For Office Organization and Getting More Done
You may think that you don’t have time for office organization, but if you really knew how much time that disorganization cost you, you’d reconsider.
Rearranging and moving piles occasionally doesn’t count. Neither does clearing off your desk, if you swipe the mess into a bin, or a desk drawer.
A relatively neat and orderly office space clears the way for higher productivity and less wasted time.
Organizing your office doesn’t have to take days, it can be done a little at a time. In fact, maintaining an organized office is much more effective if you treat it like an on-going project, instead of a massive assault.
So, if you’re ready to get started, the following organizing tips will help you transform your office into an efficient workspace.
1. Purge Your Office
De-clutter, empty, shred, get rid of everything that you don’t need or want. Look around. What haven’t you used in a while?
Take one area at a time. If it doesn’t work, send it out for repair or toss it. If you haven’t used it in months and can’t think of when you’ll actually need it, out it goes. This goes for furniture, equipment, supplies, etc.
Don’t forget about knick-knacks, plants (real or artificial), and decorations – if they’re covered with dust and make your office look shabby, they’re fair game.
2. Gather and Redistribute
Gather up every item that isn’t where it belongs and put it where it does.
3. Establish Work “Zones”
Decide what type of activity happens in each area of your office. You’ll probably have a main workspace (most likely your desk,) a reference area (filing cabinet, shelves, binders,) and a supply area (closet, shelves or drawers.)
Place the appropriate equipment and supplies are located in the proper area as much as possible.
4. Close Proximity
Position the equipment and supplies that you use most within reach. Things that you rarely use can be stored or put away.
5. Get a Good Labeler
Choose a label maker that’s simple to use. Take the time to label shelves, bins, baskets drawers. Not only will it remind you where things go, but it will also help others who may have a need to find, use, or put away anything in your workspace.
6. Revise Your Filing System
As we move fully into the digital age, the need to store paper files has decreased.
What can your store digitally? Are you duplicating files? You may be able to eliminate some of the files and folders you’ve used in the past. If you’re storing files on your computer, make sure you are doing regular back-ups.
Here’re some storage ideas for creating a smooth filing system:
- Create a meeting folder – Put all “items to be discussed” in there along with items that need to be handed off, reports that need to be given, etc. It’ll help you be prepared for meetings and save you stress in the even that a meeting is moved up.
- Create a WOR folder – So much of our messy papers are things that are on hold until someone else responds or acts. Corral them in a WOR (Waiting on Response) folder. Check it every few days for outstanding actions you may need to follow-up on.
- Storage boxes – Use inexpensive storage boxes to keep archived files and get them out of your current file space.
- Magazine boxes – Use magazine boxes or binders to store magazines and catalogs you really want to store. Please make sure you really need them for reference or research, otherwise recycle them, or give away.
- Reading folder – Designate a file for print articles and documents you want to read that aren’t urgent.
- Archive files – When a project is complete, put all of the materials together and file them away. Keep your “working folders” for projects in progress.
- File weekly – Don’t let your filing pile up. Put your papers in a “To File” folder and file everything once a week.
Learn more tips on organizing your files here: How to Organize Your Files for Better Productivity
7. Clear off Your Desk
Remove everything, clean it thoroughly and put back only those items that are essential for daily use.
If you have difficulty declutter stuff, this Declutter Formula will help you throw away stuff without regretting later.
8. Organize your Desktop
Now that you’ve streamlined your desktop, it’s a good idea to organize it.
Use desktop organizers or containers to organize the items on your desk. Use trays for papers, containers for smaller items.
Don’t forget your computer desktop! Make sure the files or images are all in organized folders. I’d recommend you clear your computer desktop everyday before you leave work.
9. Organize Your Drawers
Put items used together in the same drawer space, stamps with envelopes, sticky pads with notepads, etc.
Use drawer organizers for little items – paper clips, tacks, etc. Use a separate drawer for personal items.
10. Separate Inboxes
If you work regularly with other people, create a folder, tray, or inbox for each.
11. Clear Your Piles
Hopefully with your new organized office, you won’t create piles of paper anymore, but you still have to sort through the old ones.
Go through the pile (a little at a time if necessary) and put it in the appropriate place or dump it.
12. Sort Mails
Don’t just stick mail in a pile to be sorted or rifle through and take out the pieces you need right now. Sort it as soon as you get it – To act, To read, To file, To delegate or hand off. .
13. Assign Discard Dates
You don’t need to keep every piece of paper indefinitely. Mark on files or documents when they can be tossed or shredded.
Some legal or financial documents must be kept for specified length of time. Make sure you know what those requirements are.
14. Filter Your Emails
Some emails are important to read, others are just not that important.
When you use the filter system to label different types of emails, you know their priority and which to reply first.
Take a look at these tips to achieve inbox zero: The Ultimate Way to get to Inbox Zero
15. Straighten Your Desk
At the end of the day, do a quick straighten, so you have a clean start the next day.
Use one tip or try them all. The amount of effort you put into creating and maintaining an efficient work area will pay off in a big way.
Instead of spending time looking for things and shuffling piles, you’ll be able to spend your time…well…working and you’ll enjoy being clutter free!
More Organizing Hacks
- How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People
- How to Declutter Your Life and Reduce Stress (The Ultimate Guide)
- One Question to Help You Successfully Declutter Anything
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