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Running Procrastination: This is What Stops Runners from Training for Their First Marathon

Running Procrastination: This is What Stops Runners from Training for Their First Marathon

So you’ve decided that you’d like to run a marathon…at some point, at some time. But it hasn’t happened yet.

You can’t seem to get the race off your mind. Each year, the idea arises, and you entertain it for a short amount of time. Then you talk yourself out of it, listing a series of reasons why the goal is absolutely impossible.

If you’ve been dreaming of crossing the finish line for a while, here’s what may be preventing you from forging ahead with your marathon training.

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1. The Distance is Intimidating

Yes, it’s terrifying: 26.2 miles. You get exhausted just thinking about the distance. If you’ve never run a 5 km race, a 10 km race or a half marathon, the full marathon is most likely too big of a jump. But if you do have those miles under your belt, there is probably something else stopping you from starting your training today: fear. Part of you jumps at the idea of signing up for the next marathon, but another part of you – a much quieter, yet more powerful part of you – whispers “NO, Don’t do it. It’s not possible. You can’t run that far. You’ll never be able to do it.” Then, fear and insecurity keep you frozen in your tracks. What if you decided that running a marathon might be possible? What if you gave yourself some credit for past distances that you have endured? If you considered these possibilities, your ability to complete the distance might not seem quite as daunting.

Once you start believing that mastering a marathon is possible, everything else will fall into place. At that point, you can begin thinking about what enabled you to achieve your past long distance runs. Was it a supportive running buddy who ran by your side? An upbeat 130 BPM soundtrack? Running on a scenic trail? There are ways to make your workouts easier to conquer. It may mean training with a group, rewarding yourself with a protein shake after your run, or going for a regular massage to relieve muscle tightness. When you enjoy your running experience, the longer distances will be less overwhelming.

2. There’s No Time

You’re busy. You’ve got work, commitments, countless priorities and barely any time for yourself. It may not seem like the right time for you to run a marathon: you may be getting married, moving, raising a child or working long hours. Yet it also could be exactly the right time for you to lace up and hit the pavement. If running a marathon is something you can’t shake, it may be time to change your belief that there’s no time for running. If you’re ready to commit to making running a priority, you WILL make time for it, no matter how many daily meetings you have or how many e-mails flood your inbox.

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After you’ve made up your mind, there are little things you can do to adjust your schedule and make time for training. You can trade up your night out for a run with a friend, go to bed early and get up for morning runs, turn lunchtime into a workout, or hit the gym on your way home from work. Training for a marathon requires some consideration about how you will organize your time to fit in three to six runs each week; but it doesn’t mean overhauling all of your other commitments. Once you decide that running your marathon is mandatory and not optional, time will not be a barrier.

3. Injury Is a Possibility

There’s a chance that you will injure yourself when you are training for a marathon… but if fear of injury is preventing you from taking your next step, it may pay to ask yourself, “Am I focusing on what may go wrong?” There’s a certain amount of risk involved with every new activity you take on. It’s up to you to measure the risk, learn how to minimize the risk, and decide whether or not you want to go ahead full-force. If you decide to take on a marathon, you’ll have to learn how to be okay with the aches and pains that come with the journey. There will be mornings when you have to rest instead of run. There will be weeks when your joints may hurt. Injury could happen… but it’s up to you to decide how much time you spend worrying about it.

Once you shift your focus from the “what if’s” to the “what’s happening”, you can educate yourself on how to prevent injury and recognize warning signs so you stay healthy. You can learn about the most common injuries that runners experience (shin splints, muscle pulls, runner’s knee, ankle sprains…), and the proper treatment (icing, stretching exercises, rest…). You can incorporate strength training into your workouts, allow time for recovery from long runs, correct your form and make a commitment that you will not push through an injury. At the end of the day, if you want to get running, get informed and then let go of your fear of getting hurt.

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4. Marathons are Only for Serious Runners

Running burns, it’s hard, and everyone seems so much better at it than you, right?  Chances are, you’ve had repeated qualms about your running ability… to the point where you’ve told yourself and others “I am not a runner,” “I don’t have a runner’s body” or “Running is just not my thing”.  News flash: you are a runner if you think like one. Thinking like a runner means telling yourself, “I can get through this workout.” It means saying, “I know I can do this if I commit to it.” Thinking like a runner means adjusting your thinking ever so slightly so you are instead thinking, “I may not be a professional runner, but that won’t stop me from RUNNING!”

Besides, when you train for a marathon over 15-20 weeks, your body gradually changes through endurance, speed, strength and tapering. Over time, your body can take on more, and your runs become easier as you get into race shape. Try it: If it hurts to run three miles, try running three miles every day for one week straight. You are guaranteed to feel a difference once the week is over. As you find your running rhythm, you will begin to enjoy running more and more. You will find that running helps you let off steam and feel hugely accomplished. You may even start to look forward to early morning wake-ups, sore muscles, and those long, slow distances. You may not feel like a runner just yet, but by the time you are through with your training, you WILL BE ONE.

Training for a marathon requires an unbelievable amount of mental and physical energy and dedication. If you’re wrestling with your decision to run a marathon, you may want to re-examine your thinking… it may in fact be the only thing holding you back.

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Featured photo credit: Female runner lacing sport shoes before training/ Dirima via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on August 20, 2019

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.)

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

1. The Inner Critic

This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

  • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

2. The Worrier

This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

The Worrier is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

This is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

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This person can be set off by words or feelings, and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

How can you control these squatters?

How to Master Your Mind

You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

There are two ways to control your thoughts:

  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier; and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

For the Inner Critic

When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

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“Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

  • They rile up the Worrier.
  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

For the Worrier

Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tense

Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

“Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

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For example:

If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

“Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tension

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

Breathe in through your nose:

  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
  • Focus on your belly rising.

Breathe out through your nose:

  • Feel your lungs emptying.
  • Focus on your belly falling.
  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

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Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

For the Sleep Depriver

(They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
  2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

You can also use this technique any time you want to:

  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
  • Shut down your thinking.
  • Calm your feelings.
  • Simply focus on the present moment. 

The Bottom Line

Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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