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8 Easy Ways To Get Better Sleep Tonight

8 Easy Ways To Get Better Sleep Tonight

I was always a lousy sleeper as a child. From the age of eight on I often survived on four or five hours of (anxiety-laden) sleep a night. The last few years I’ve been making a real effort to change that though – and I give thanks to a few tricks and habits I’ve developed over the years. If you want to get serious high-quality sleep then the following tips are perfect for you.

1. Cutback caffeine.

Caffeine is one of the biggest causes of being unable to fall asleep. It also lowers the quality of sleep. My new year’s resolution this year was to cut out caffeine entirely. Save for the rare cup of coffee I have… and I’ve slept so much better for it. You wouldn’t believe the difference it makes. Without caffeine pumping through my veins, I feel like I’ve slept twice as long as I actually have.

If you can’t bare to give up caffeine at least try to cutback to a couple of cups a day, and keep it to the morning/early afternoon. Switch to decaf, there’s barely any difference in taste, and it only contains about 1-2% of the regular amount of caffeine in most cases. Click here to read more about the effects of caffeine on sleep.

2. Drink warm milk before bed.

Whenever I used to struggle to sleep as a child, my mother would always make me a warm cup of milk. More often than not, it worked! This is another classic case of “mother knows best.”

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Milk contains an amino acid called trytophan that (without getting unnecessarily sciency) is converted to serotonin and then melatonin. Melatonin is known as the “sleep hormone” and will send you off to the land of nod in no time at all. Side note: Trytophan is also found in turkey, which is why you may feel particularly sleepy after your Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner.

3. Respect the sanctity of your bedroom.

Your bedroom should be somewhere you go for two reasons. Sleep and… well, you know. If you like to take your all manner of electronic gizmos to bed to tinker on then you’re confusing your brain. You’re giving it an overdose of stimulation, and then you wonder why you can’t get to sleep for hours.

If you want better sleep every night then make your bedroom an electronic-free zone. Teach your brain your bedroom is a place of rest.

4. Buy the best mattress, pillows and PJs you can afford.

When you consider how much time we spending sleeping, it’s amazing how little money we invest into it. Most people buy the cheapest mattress and pillows they can find – and are shocked by how uncomfortable they are at night when they try to go to sleep. If you want better sleep then you should be spending as much money as you can afford on high-quality mattress and pillows. For years I slept in a single bed with wonky springs and it ruined my sleep and gave me a bad back for years.

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Now I have an amazingly comfortable king-sized mattress that I sink into, and pillows to match. Next to cutting out caffeine this is the biggest improvement I’ve made to my sleep. Don’t skimp on your PJs either, get a thick, soft pair you’d want to where all day if you could. Make sleep-time a time to look forward to.

5. Make your room as dark as possible.

Light inhibits melatonin production. That means it’s a good idea to make your bedroom as dark as possible. This ensures you’ll get a better sleep each night. You can do this by buying a thick pair of curtains to block out external light, banning electronics from the bedroom (no blinking lights), turning off all lights upstairs, and closing your bedroom door. If your bedroom still isn’t dark enough you can buy yourself a sleep mask to block out all light.

6. If you can’t fall asleep within 30 minutes do something else.

If you’re still struggling to get to sleep, don’t beat yourself up about it. Get up and take a walk around the house, go outside for a few minutes, or read a book. Take the focus off the need to sleep and sleep will soon come to you.

7. Keep a diary.

“How on Earth would keeping a diary help me get a better sleep?” I hear you ask. Well it’s really quite simple. You know all those thoughts you can’t stop running through your mind as you scrunch your eyes closed convincing yourself you’re not crazy? Keeping a diary takes all those thoughts from your head, transfers them to a page and keeps them where they can’t disturb you.

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It’s like complaining about something to a friend. Once it’s off your chest, you feel the weight off your shoulders and it doesn’t bother you as much any more.

8. Try meditation or hypnotherapy shortly before bedtime.

If you want to send your sleep to the next level then meditation and hypnotherapy can do just that. Both are very similar in that they quiet the conscious mind. In meditation you focus on one thing (and ultimately nothing AND everything), while in hypnotherapy you focus on an aspect of yourself you’d like to improve and mentally repeat suggestions to that effect.

A simple meditation exercise I use each night is to focus my thoughts on my breathing. I take mental notes of how the air feels cold as I inhale, and warm as I exhale, how my belly expands then contracts. Because I’m entirely focused on my breathing, no unwanted thoughts enter my head.

Just 10 minutes of meditation before you go to sleep makes a HUGE difference to the quality of sleep. It feels like you’ve added hours to the length of your sleep when you wake up the next morning.

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Those are eight of my favorite ways to get better sleep. Do you have any tips of your own? Leave a comment and let me know, I’d love to read them!

Featured photo credit: Sleepy Time by Alexandra Guerson via flickr.com

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How to Control Your Thoughts and Become the Master of Your Mind

How to Control Your Thoughts and Become the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality.

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

1. The Inner Critic

This is your constant abuser. He is often a conglomeration of:

  • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

He is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

Why else would he abuse you? And since “he” is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

2. The Worrier

This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

He is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it.

Occasionally, he is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

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3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

He is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

He can be set off by words or feelings. He can even be set off by sounds and smells.

He has no real motivation; he has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

His motivation can be:

  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

How can you control these squatters?

How to Master Your Mind

You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

There are two ways to control your thoughts:

  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

For the Inner Critic

When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

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You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

“Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

  • He riles up the Worrier.
  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
  • He is often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
  • He is a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
  • He is the destroyer of self-esteem. He convinces you that you’re not worthy. He’s a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get him out!

Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

Replace him with your new best friend who supports, encourages, and enhances your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

For the Worrier

Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tense

Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

“Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

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Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

For example:

If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

“Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tension

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

Breathe in through your nose:

  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
  • Focus on your belly rising.

Breathe out through your nose:

  • Feel your lungs emptying.
  • Focus on your belly falling.
  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

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One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

For the Sleep Depriver

(He’s made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
  2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

You can also use this technique any time you want to:

  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
  • Shut down your thinking.
  • Calm your feelings.
  • Simply focus on the present moment. 

Becoming the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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