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50 Important Advice and Things To Know That People Usually Aren’t Told About

50 Important Advice and Things To Know That People Usually Aren’t Told About

Life is complicated.  It is not easy, smooth, or even consistently comprehensible.  However, as frustrating as it may be, it is wonderful.  The world has infinite possibilities for everyone, even when things seem hopeless.  No one person has all the answers to living a happy life, but each individual has something to share.  Whether young or old, every person has learned something in their life that they can offer as advice to others.  Some advice is new, and other times it is a reminder of what we have forgotten or pushed aside.  We have compiled a list of the top 50 life lessons. Whether it is new or a reminder of lessons past, we hope you are able to take something away from it.

  1. Marry your best friend: If the person you’re the most comfortable with isn’t your spouse, make them! (Assuming this person is not your family member)
  2. Don’t stop learning: If you start coasting through life, you’re gonna lose. Always stretch your intellect.
  3. Forgive as much as possible. Grudges achieve little.
  4. Do something that’s not for money.
  5. Time passes by a lot faster than you’d think. This effect accelerates with age.
  6. Some things can’t be learned; they can only be experienced.
  7. Wealth is relatively unimportant.
  8. Don’t lie to yourself.
  9. The past is something you learn from.  It is not something you live in.
  10. Wealth is measured by your happiness and not by your financial statement.
  11. Do things for yourself in everything you do; don’t live for other people.
  12. Learn to handle criticism.
  13. Value the people in your life.
  14. Be happy for other people who are happy.
  15. Embrace vulnerability.
  16. Challenge yourself a little bit everyday.
  17. Quality beats quantity.
  18. Don’t get too attached to material things.
  19. Seek out people with different beliefs and views of the world to yours and get to know their side of the story.
  20. Living a good life is the best way possible to convince people.
  21. Nobody has it all figured out.
  22. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know”.
  23. Possessions own you.
  24. Get outside and do something with other people.
  25. Take your time.
  26. You can’t please everyone.
  27. Make mistakes – and LOTS of them!
  28. Wear sunscreen.
  29. Stop thinking so much and act.
  30. Dance and sing whenever possible.
  31. You don’t know what you’ve got ’till its gone.
  32. Swallow your pride and apologise.
  33. People are not alone in being alone.
  34. Love isn’t “all” you need, but if you don’t have it in some form, your life will be very empty.
  35. Life is a million times easier when you focus on the great things in people and not the bad.
  36. The grass is only greener where you water it.
  37. Money isn’t an end, it’s a means.
  38. Nobody can fix you. You have to fix your own problems or adapt to them. Other people can be helpful, but only so much.
  39. Being a “genius,” in IQ terms, means nothing if you don’t contribute anything important to society.
  40. People are your greatest resource.
  41. Repetition is the father of learning.
  42. Honesty is the best policy.
  43. Listening > Talking.
  44. Determination and motivation trump all else.
  45. Remember your humanity.
  46. Take time out to practice humility.
  47. You are the only person with the power and ability to control your own level of happiness. You and you alone control how happy you allow yourself to be.
  48. Do more of what you love, less of what you don’t.
  49. Inspiration is everything, yet nothing if you don’t act on it
  50. Be present here and now. You are lucky. Your life is a gift. Realize it.

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What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

Are you afraid of being alone?  Do you worry about your physical safety or do you fear loneliness? These are strong negative feelings that can impact your health.

One study found that when older people are socially isolated, there is an increased risk of an earlier death,[1] by as much as 26%.

If you experience loneliness and are worried about your fear of being alone, study these 6 ways to help you find your comfort zone.

But first, the good news!

How many times have you said to yourself, ‘I just can’t wait to be alone’? This might be after a day’s work, an argument with your partner or after a noisy dinner with friends. You need time to be yourself, gather your thoughts, relish the silence and just totally chill out. These are precious moments and are very important for your own peace of mind and mental refreshment.

But for many people, this feeling is not often present and loneliness takes over. As Joss Whedon once said,

‘Loneliness is about the scariest thing out there’.

Read on and discover how you can exploit being alone to your own advantage and how you can defeat loneliness.

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1. Embrace loneliness

When you are alone, it is important to embrace it and enjoy it to the full.

Wallow in the feeling that you do not have to be accountable for anything you do. Pursue your interests and hobbies. Take up new ones. Learn new skills. Lie on the couch. Leave the kitchen in a mess. The list can go on and on, but finding the right balance is crucial.

There will be times when being on your own is perfect, but then there will be a creeping feeling that you should not be so isolated.

When you start to enjoy being alone, these 10 amazing things will happen.

Once you start feeling loneliness, then it is time to take action.

2. Facebook is not the answer

Have you noticed how people seek virtual contacts instead of a live, face-to-face interaction? It is true that social networking can provide an initial contact, but the chances of that becoming a real life personal contact is pretty slim.

Being wrapped up in a cloud of sharing, liking and commenting (and insulting!) can only increase loneliness.

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When you really want company, no one on Facebook will phone you to invite you out.

3. Stop tolerating unhappy relationships

It is a cruel fact of life that people are so scared of loneliness that they often opt into a relationship with the wrong person.

There is enormous pressure from peers, family and society in general to get married or to be in a stable, long-term relationship. When this happens, people start making wrong decisions, such as:

  • hanging out with toxic company such as dishonest or untrustworthy people;
  • getting involved with unsuitable partners because of the fear of being alone or lonesome;
  • accepting inappropriate behavior just because of loneliness;
  • seeking a temporary remedy instead of making a long-term decision.

The main problem is that you need to pause, reflect and get advice. Recognize that your fear of being alone is taking over. A rash decision now could lead to endless unhappiness.

4. Go out and meet people

It was the poet John Donne (1572 – 1631) who wrote:

‘No man is an island, entire of itself, every man is a piece of the continent’.

Human contact is essential to surviving in this world. Instead of wallowing in boredom and sadness, you need to get out as much as possible and seek contacts.

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Being a member of a group, however tenuous, is a great way. So when you are in the gym, at church or simply at a club meeting, exploit these contacts to enlarge your social circle.

There is no point in staying at home all the time. You will not meet any new people there!

Social contacts are rather like delicate plants. You have to look after them. That means telephoning, using Skype and being there when needed.

Take a look at this guide on How to Meet New People and Make Friends with The Best.

5. Reach out to help someone in need

A burden shared is a burden halved.

Dag Hammarskjold was keenly aware of this fact when he said:

‘What makes loneliness an anguish is not that I have no one to share my burden but this: I have only my own burden to bear’.

Simply put, it is a two-way street. Helping others actually helps yourself, here’s why.

Reach out to help and people will be there when you need them.

6. Be grateful and count your blessings

Study after study shows that if people show gratitude, they will reap a bountiful harvest. These include a stronger immune system, better health, more positive energy and most important of all, feeling less lonely and isolated.

If you do not believe me, watch the video below, ‘What good is gratitude?’  Now here is the path to hope and happiness:

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