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50 Important Advice and Things To Know That People Usually Aren’t Told About

50 Important Advice and Things To Know That People Usually Aren’t Told About

Life is complicated.  It is not easy, smooth, or even consistently comprehensible.  However, as frustrating as it may be, it is wonderful.  The world has infinite possibilities for everyone, even when things seem hopeless.  No one person has all the answers to living a happy life, but each individual has something to share.  Whether young or old, every person has learned something in their life that they can offer as advice to others.  Some advice is new, and other times it is a reminder of what we have forgotten or pushed aside.  We have compiled a list of the top 50 life lessons. Whether it is new or a reminder of lessons past, we hope you are able to take something away from it.

  1. Marry your best friend: If the person you’re the most comfortable with isn’t your spouse, make them! (Assuming this person is not your family member)
  2. Don’t stop learning: If you start coasting through life, you’re gonna lose. Always stretch your intellect.
  3. Forgive as much as possible. Grudges achieve little.
  4. Do something that’s not for money.
  5. Time passes by a lot faster than you’d think. This effect accelerates with age.
  6. Some things can’t be learned; they can only be experienced.
  7. Wealth is relatively unimportant.
  8. Don’t lie to yourself.
  9. The past is something you learn from.  It is not something you live in.
  10. Wealth is measured by your happiness and not by your financial statement.
  11. Do things for yourself in everything you do; don’t live for other people.
  12. Learn to handle criticism.
  13. Value the people in your life.
  14. Be happy for other people who are happy.
  15. Embrace vulnerability.
  16. Challenge yourself a little bit everyday.
  17. Quality beats quantity.
  18. Don’t get too attached to material things.
  19. Seek out people with different beliefs and views of the world to yours and get to know their side of the story.
  20. Living a good life is the best way possible to convince people.
  21. Nobody has it all figured out.
  22. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know”.
  23. Possessions own you.
  24. Get outside and do something with other people.
  25. Take your time.
  26. You can’t please everyone.
  27. Make mistakes – and LOTS of them!
  28. Wear sunscreen.
  29. Stop thinking so much and act.
  30. Dance and sing whenever possible.
  31. You don’t know what you’ve got ’till its gone.
  32. Swallow your pride and apologise.
  33. People are not alone in being alone.
  34. Love isn’t “all” you need, but if you don’t have it in some form, your life will be very empty.
  35. Life is a million times easier when you focus on the great things in people and not the bad.
  36. The grass is only greener where you water it.
  37. Money isn’t an end, it’s a means.
  38. Nobody can fix you. You have to fix your own problems or adapt to them. Other people can be helpful, but only so much.
  39. Being a “genius,” in IQ terms, means nothing if you don’t contribute anything important to society.
  40. People are your greatest resource.
  41. Repetition is the father of learning.
  42. Honesty is the best policy.
  43. Listening > Talking.
  44. Determination and motivation trump all else.
  45. Remember your humanity.
  46. Take time out to practice humility.
  47. You are the only person with the power and ability to control your own level of happiness. You and you alone control how happy you allow yourself to be.
  48. Do more of what you love, less of what you don’t.
  49. Inspiration is everything, yet nothing if you don’t act on it
  50. Be present here and now. You are lucky. Your life is a gift. Realize it.

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4 Ways to Deal With Big Life Changes in a Positive Way

4 Ways to Deal With Big Life Changes in a Positive Way

Life changes are constant. Whether it’s in the workplace or our relationships, nothing in life ever remains the same for long.

Regardless of the gravity of change, it can always be a little scary. So scary, in fact, that some people are downright crippled by the idea of it, causing them to remain stagnant through anxiety.

Have you ever noticed how much of life’s transitional periods are riddled with anxious vibes? The quarter life crisis, the mid-life crisis, cold feet before getting married, retirement anxiety, and teenage angst are just a few examples of transitional periods when people tend to panic.

We can’t control every aspect of our lives, and we can’t stop change from happening. However, how we respond to change will greatly affect our overall life experience.

Here are 4 ways you can approach life changes in a positive way.

1. Don’t Fight It

I once heard one of my favorite yoga instructors say “Suffering is what occurs when we resist what is already happening.” The lesson has stuck with me ever since.

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Life changes are usually out of our control. Rather than trying to manipulate the situation and wishing things were different, try flowing with it instead.

Of course, some initial resistance is natural if we’re going into survival mode. Just make sure you are conscious of when this resistance is no longer serving you.

If you’re feeling anxious about impending life changes, it’s time to practice some techniques to address the anxiety directly. These can include meditation, exercise, talking with friends about how you’re feeling, or journaling.

If you’re worried about a big life change, such as starting a new job[1] or moving in with your partner, do your best to control your expectations. It may help you to talk with people you know about their experiences going through similar changes. This will help you form a realistic picture in your mind of what things will look like post-change.

2. Find Healthy Ways to Deal With Feelings

Whenever we’re in transitional periods, it can be easy to lose track of ourselves. Sometimes we feel like we’re being tossed about by life and like we’ve lost our footing, causing some very uncomfortable feelings to arise.

One way we can channel these feelings is by finding healthy ways to release them. For instance, whenever I find myself in a difficult transitional phase, I end up in a mixed martial arts studio.

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The physical activity helps me channel my emotions and release endorphins. It also helps me get in shape, which generally increases my mood and energy levels.

Exercise is important in cultivating positive emotions, but if you’re struggling with anxiety in particular, it’s important to cultivate a regular exercise routine as opposed to a one-off workout. One study found that “Aerobic exercise can promote increase in anxiety acutely and regular aerobic exercise promotes reduction in anxiety levels”[2].

If exercise isn’t your thing, there are other, less intense ways of cultivating positive emotions and reducing anxiety around life changes. You can try stretching, meditating, reading in nature, spending time with family and friends, or cooking a healthy meal.

Find what makes you feel good and helps you ground yourself in the present moment.

3. Reframe Your Perspective

Reframing perspectives is a very powerful tool used in life coaching. It helps clients take a situation they are struggling with, such as a major life change, and find some sort of empowerment in it.

Some examples of disempowered thinking during life changes include casting blame, focusing on negative details, or victimizing[3]. These perspectives can make awkward transitional phases much worse than they have to be.

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Meanwhile, if we utilize a more positive perspective, such as finding a lesson in the situation, realizing that there may be an opportunity for something, or that everything passes, we can come from a greater place of ease.

4. Find Time for Self-Reflection

Having time to reflect is important at any stage in your life, but it’s especially important during transitional periods. It’s quite simple really: we need our time to step back and get centered when things get a little crazy.

As a result, big life changes are perfect for doing some self-reflection. They are opportunities to check in with ourselves and practice getting grounded for a few minutes.

Take a look at this reflective cycle adapted from Glibb’s Self-reflection guide (1988):[4]

Use self-reflection when facing life changes.

    Self-reflective exercises include meditating, yoga or journaling,[5] all of which require some quiet time to get yourself together.

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    One study found that journal improves “self-efficacy, locus of control, and learning”[6]. A healthy sense of self-control can make the process of change easier to bear, so that in itself is a great reason to try self-reflection through journaling.

    To learn how to start journaling, you can check out this article.

    Final Thoughts

    Big life changes may rock us for a little while, but they don’t have to be as bad as we initially perceive them. If handled in a positive manner, transitional periods can pave the way for some serious self-growth, reflection, and awareness.

    Cultivate a sense of positivity and find ways to diminish the anxiety around life changes. Once you make it to the other side, you’ll be grateful that you made it through in the best way possible.

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