Sugar, ah, honey, honey; You are my candy girl; And you got me wanting you…
– The Archies
Honey is delicious. As a tea drinker, I consume a lot of honey and try to keep a decent variety at home. It’s a natural and healthy sweetener. I’ve often dreamed of owning a beehive and producing my own honey. Bees live off honey, and without it, we’d have bland barbecue sauce, wheat bread, mead, cereal and so much more. Here are 5 benefits of honey to make life sweeter…
1. Honey Heals Boo-Boos
No household is complete without a bottle or two of hydrogen peroxide. If you can’t find any (or are out and about), natural honey (not the honey-flavored sweetener you’ll find at KFC or any other “convenience” store) can be used as a replacement.
Honey is made when bees collect nectar from flowers, add an enzyme to it, and store it in a beeswax honeycomb to evaporate. The process of adding the enzyme creates an all-natural hydrogen peroxide (as opposed to the lab-made stuff that only one company manufactures and sells to the entire world in those black plastic bottles…with no competition…seriously…why are you not out buying bees right now to take advantage of this gaping hole on every store shelf in the country?!)Advertising
If you’re unaware, hydrogen peroxide (and honey by association) is anti-viral, anti-fungal, and anti-bacterial. This means it cleans pretty much any infection or smell on or in your body, which brings me to another benefit…
If you enjoy natural remedies, check out: How to Cure a Sore Throat Naturally
2. Eating Honey Is The Opposite Of Smoking
Unlike smoking (which increases your risk of cancer, makes you smell disgusting, and draws the ire of onlookers and passers-by), eating honey has been scientifically proven to reduce the risk of cancer because it contains flavonoids, a word I did not make up, but instead is a plant-based metabolite that can inhibit tumors.
On the social side, I’ve never been eating honey on the street and had someone give me a dirty look over it. I don’t have to step outside and at least 500 feet away from the building to enjoy honey. You can give honey to a kid over one year old (seriously though, do NOT put honey in your infant’s bottle) without getting yelled at. You don’t have to ask anyone if they mind you consuming honey, and I’ve never seen any lasting relationship in which two people used “Cigarette,” “Tobacco,” or “Nicotine” as pet names.Advertising
If you still can’t stop smoking, at least check out: How to Keep Your Home from Smelling like Smoke
3. Honey Makes Great Homemade Botanicals
Honey can be mixed with castile soap, olive oil (which castile soap itself is made from if you want to go full DIY), and essential oils of your choice to create a homemade, all-natural shampoo that is better than anything you’ll get off the shelf for less than $100 a bottle. Follow this up with a conditioning mix of honey and extra virgin coconut oil for amazing hair.
To save yourself a lot of money on skin care, mix one teaspoon of honey and one teaspoon of olive oil for every one teaspoon of the following:
Cinnamon – to reduce/prevent acneAdvertising
Plain whole milk yogurt (or powdered milk) – to soothe dry skin
Aloe vera gel – to ease sensitive skin
Lemon juice – to brighten skin and reduce blotching or scarring
You can put your custom mixture directly on your skin or mix it with any chemical-free, natural balm, lotion, or oil that strikes your personal fancy (coconut oil is great). Stir in ground nuts and castile soap to create an exfoliating scrub, or toss in an avocado or charcoal mud and make it a mask. Again, add essential oils to create the scent of your choice.Advertising
If you enjoy homemade beauty treatments, check out: 10 Homemade Beauty Treatment Recipes
4. Winnie Go Poo
There’s a reason Winnie the Pooh eats so much hunny – it’s not only delicious, but it helps regulate his blood sugar. It’s healthier than sugar and artificial sweetener, and it’s also a pro-biotic.
When used to sweeten yogurt, the stomach and intestines in the bowels of your body will be treated to a pleasurable experience that will make you tingle. Ha, ha, no, that tingling feeling isn’t scoliosis, and you won’t be needing any treatment (although if the honey doesn’t get rid of the tingle almost immediately, it’s probably a good idea to head to a neuropathy clinic). Honey hits just the right spot every time.
5. Going Green with Golden Honey
Sustainability is all the rage these days. I looked into sustainable environments, and a beehive is a very useful item to have in your survivalist setup. Not only will the bees help pollinate and maintain your plants, they produce honey, which has all of these amazing benefits. If you’re looking for a worthwhile investment, honey is the way to go.
Last Updated on July 10, 2020
How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries
We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.
We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.
So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?
Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.
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What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)
Boundaries are limits
—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.
Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.
Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.
Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.
Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.
How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life
Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.
1. Self-Awareness Comes First
Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.
You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.
To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.
You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:
- Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
- When do you feel disrespected?
- When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
- In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
- When do you want to be alone?
- How much space do you need?
You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.
2. Clear Communication Is Essential
Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.
Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.
3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame
Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.
That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.
- “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
- “I need…to be treated with respect…”
- “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
- “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
- “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
- “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
- “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”
Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.
4. Consequences Are Often Necessary
Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.
Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.
Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.
We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”
It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.
It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.
Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.
Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.
Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.
The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.
Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.
Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.
They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.
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