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30 Summer Activities Not To Miss

30 Summer Activities Not To Miss

I bet summer is one of your favorite seasons. The weather is great, making it more fun to get outside, and there are so many great summer activities available. Choose a few summer activities from this list to make a summer bucket list, and begin having your best summer ever.

  1. Watch a movie in the park together. Most communities have community outdoor movie nights, so look for one near you.
  2. Attend a music festival. Search for “music festival” along with your state to start finding festivals near you.
  3. Pick fresh fruit and veggies at a local farm. Nothing tastes as good as fresh fruit right off the vine or from the ground.  This is also a great way to show your kids where food comes from.
  4. Go to a farmer’s market. This can be a fun summer activity to enjoy weekly. Many farmer’s markets now have entertainment as well.
  5. Have friends over for a BBQ. Nothing says summer like grilling and some ice cold beverages.
  6. Go fishing. Whether you like fly fishing or lake fishing, this activity is a great way to really enjoy the outdoors during the summer.
  7. Watch a movie at the drive-in. Make a comfortable bed in the back of your truck or hatchback, and enjoy. Find a double feature if possible.
  8. Rent a paddle boat or canoe at a nearby lake.
  9. Visit the zoo. Whether you take the kids on a family outing or just go by yourself, the zoo is a lot of fun in the summer.
  10. Take the kids to a spot where they can run through the fountains.
  11. Have a picnic in a local state park. State parks are beautiful resources, so enjoy and explore them this summer.
  12. Go for a hike. Be sure to pack some water and snacks. Look here for great local hikes near your city.
  13. Go camping. Whether you visit a local KOA Kampground or find a spot far from it all in a national forest, summer isn’t complete without a night or two of camping.
  14. Find a local Renaissance Festival to attend.
  15. Throw a frisbee in the park — summer activity bonus points if you have a dog who loves to run and jump to catch frisbees.
  16. Drink wine and relax on your porch.
  17. Take early evening walks through the neighborhood.
  18. Visit a local amusement park or water park. Scream and laugh along with the kids.
  19. Visit a national monument. Enjoy and appreciate the history of your surrounding area.
  20. Bike a local trail. Many areas allow for bike rental if you don’t have one at home… so no excuses!
  21. Roast s’mores over an outdoor campfire at night.
  22. Fly a kite. Choose a day with a little wind and soar the skies with your kite.
  23. Find a fun local festival to enjoy. Does your local community have any unique local festivals? Read your local paper or look online to find one.
  24. Have a water balloon fight — water guns work too. This is a great activity for those hot July days.
  25. Go to your county fair. View the entries and choose your favorites in the art, animal, and cooking areas.
  26. Play mini golf at an outdoor course.
  27. Visit your local botanic gardens. When the trees and flowers are in bloom, there is no better place to visit.
  28. Take an early morning walk next to a creek.
  29. Go water tubing or rafting in a nearby river.
  30. Take a road trip. Choose a spot on the map or just get in the car and drive.

Are your favorite summer activities listed above? If not, share them with us in the comments below, along with your list of must-do summer activities.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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