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20 Things That Matter to You Now That Didn’t Before The Digital Age

20 Things That Matter to You Now That Didn’t Before The Digital Age

The digital age has changed everything. We are creatures glued to our computers and smartphones and a lot of our habits and priorities have changed. Let’s take a look at some of these digital age changes.

1. You eat food we don’t like because #foodporn

You know you’ve been wanting to go to that place that sells the absurdly expensive, unique, and exotic food because you want to try to be the next big thing when posting under #foodporn on Instagram. The food may suck and you may not eat it but your iPhone is going to take a glorious picture of it.

2. #hashtag #everything

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    Everything has to have a hashtag now because you want people searching hashtags to know what you’re saying. It’s never been more important than now to use hashtags and you use them religiously.

    3. One sec, I have to update my status

    What was once a thing people only did occasionally when they felt like it, updating your status has become an essential part of your every day life. People must know what you’re doing at all times!

    4. Problems are now photo ops

    Did you see that kid face plant the pavement? He might be hurt, bleeding, and in need of medical assistance but it’s become important to document the footage in case a news station needs it or in case it blows up on social media. Why call 911 when you can #fail and make people laugh? It won’t be long until couples are taking Vines of their breakup arguments and showing the whole world how it really went down.

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    5. Your are a different person online

    Your online persona has become as important or more important than your real life persona. You nurture your online persona like it’s your child. You feed it, love it, care for it, and protect it from bullies. Your online persona has bold opinions and constant revelations. People seem to like the online you and it becomes a bigger part of your life than your actual life.

    6. Showing is more important than doing

    It doesn’t really matter what you do anymore as long as people see that you’re doing it. Would you really go sky diving if you didn’t intend on getting that epic selfie falling out of the sky? You may go to an event and spend the whole time taking pictures rather than actually enjoying yourself. As long as people know you were there and you did that thing, it doesn’t really matter if you did it or really enjoyed doing it.

    7. An anonymous stranger said something mean. Die!

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      You’ve gotten to a point where a stranger trash talking you in the comment section of an article or video makes you more angry than things in real life do that should actually make you angry. You may wreck your car and be upset but nothing makes you type in all caps and say quite as many swear words as someone online who just doesn’t get it.

      8. You don’t log out of anything. Ever

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        Logging off means you can’t check your notifications, post updates, upload photos, or see what other people are saying and that just bugs you. You have to see what everyone is saying at all times and that means everything stays logged in even if it’s killing your smartphone battery.

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        9. You must know all things!

        Someone posts a song lyric and you have to Google it to see what song it is. There’s a new meme and you need to see it. You troll (the fishing term, not the internet term) the web looking for the latest fads to be a part of. You did a Harlem Shake video and watched Gangnam Style on the same day. For shame.

        10. Going viral is your news now

        You know that video that went viral? You saw it because, well, look at number 9. When something goes viral, you see it and the news reports on it. That’s what everyone is looking at and that means that’s what you see. Never mind who won that baseball game or what the president did. If it was important, an image, video, or something will go viral and you’ll hear about it if it’s really important.

        11. You carry a charger at all times

        You must have a way to charge your phone. You have a car charger, a wall charger at home, and probably one in your purse or backpack too. Just in case you need to plug in real quick and do a bump charge at a random outlet at a random place. Never mind your smartphone, tablet, or laptop, you feel naked without your charger.

        12. You need to know the lingo

        There are new acronyms coming out every day and you need to know all of them. There’s your ttyl, gtg, brb, ily, lol, lmao, rofl, smh, mrw, mfw, gtfo, stfu, and all the other ones. People use them and you know them. It is your most important vocabulary lesson.

        13. You must be the mayor on Foursquare

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          How dare that random, anonymous internet person check in at that place more times than you! You are so into location-based social media that you will either go out of your way to frequent a spot or you will go to places you don’t like just so you can check in and say you were there.

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          14. You care more about how you look in a video chat than in real life

          You may be sitting around every day with unkempt hair and unwashed shirts. Rest assured when it’s time to use Skype or Hangouts you’re in the bathroom brushing your teeth, doing your hair, putting on make up (where applicable), and putting on fresh cloths. You need to look nice in your video chats in case people take pictures!

          15. You own a cat

          You may be allergic to cats. I know I am and I own a freaking cat for some reason. Your friends think cats are cool and cute and that means you think cats are cool and cute. Sure dogs are on the upswing but who has time to play fetch with Fido? Cats don’t do squat and don’t need you do anything other than clean the litter box.

          16. Your kill-death ratio is your status symbol

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            Yeah this one applies mostly to gamers but even girls game these days. You know how to play those games, you know how to win those games, and you know everyone else does too. You’ve learned how to coax the game into doing what you need it to do and your 3:1 KDR is your proof!

            17. What the hell is sleep?

            Who has time to sleep anymore? You have updates to post, things to read, songs to listen to, and all the famous people you follow in Europe are just about to wake up! You don’t want to miss anything and that means you either go to bed later than you should be or you keep crashing on your couch. In either case, sleep has been replaced by everything else.

            18. Your Netflix list is more important than your grocery list

            You need to have a line up of popular, awesome shows lined up on your Netflix for when guests come over. Those B-rate movies you watch in the middle of the night alone? They’re not there. You have a curated collection of classics that anyone would love. It’s your pride and joy like people used to do with their DVD collection.

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            19. You must leave product reviews on everything you buy online

            You had an experience shopping online. It may have been good or bad but in either case you have to tell people about it. You may not be good at it but you do it anyway and you feel good that it’s out there for people to read. You may have made a difference somewhere.

            20. People need to pay more attention to you

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              Your updates, your uploads, your hashtags, your lack of sleep, your cat, and that phone charger you carry on your person. It’s all for one purpose. So you can be online and so that people know that you’re online. That’s the most important thing of anything on this list. You need to be online and you need people to know that you’re there.

              This would be the point where we point out that the things that people deem important is absurd. However, I can’t actually say that because I am the exact same way. Possibly even more so since I’m a blogger. Sometimes it’s just interesting to see the way things have changed and where our priorities are now.

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              Last Updated on February 20, 2019

              13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

              13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

              Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

              Why is this so critically important to you?

              The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

              Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

              1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

              Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

              When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

              • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
              • The man facing the judge.
              • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
              • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
              • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
              • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

              These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

              Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

              Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

              2. Accept Your Fear

              Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

              We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

              And here’s what can be done.

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              3. Get Some Perspective

              I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

              And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

              That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

              We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

              So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

              • Are you really at risk?
              • Will this kill you?
              • Which leads us on to..
              • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

              4. Hold a Hand

              As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

              Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

              We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

              Ask yourself:

              • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
              • Could that really happen?
              • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
              • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

              By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

              5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

              This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

              Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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              The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

              It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

              For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

              Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

              6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

              I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

              Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

              Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

              Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

              Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

              Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

              7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

              Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

              I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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              It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

              One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

              Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

              It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

              8. Assume the Worse

              If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

              Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

              • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
              • Think about how they feel about champagne?
              • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

              And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

              When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

              Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

              9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

              If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

              Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

              Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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              10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

              One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

              11. Go with Fear

              When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

              I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

              Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

              One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

              However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

              We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

              12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

              And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

              The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

              What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

              13. Own Your Fear

              Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

              We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

              You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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