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15 Things Only Moms of Boys Understand

15 Things Only Moms of Boys Understand

Soon-to-be-mothers can think they know what motherhood will be like, but as soon as the kids arrive, it’s a completely different story. There is a handful of unmistakable struggles that all moms of boys experience throughout raising these youngsters.

1. You’ve become immersed in the craziness and impatience of young boys.

Let’s face it—there’s nothing quite like raising boys to test the limits of your physical capacities. Heck, moms of boys know that raising children pushes the envelope of mental and emotional capacities too. Taking your boys anywhere in public can feel more like organizing an entire circus than simply engaging in some quality family time.

2. You take your mistakes far too personally.

As a mom, there’s an irrevocable desire within you to see your boys succeed. When something goes wrong, it becomes easy to take this personally. Remember that your boys are still learning about life right alongside you!

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3. You’re flabbergasted at the amount of food consumed within the home.

Out of every woe that moms of boys share, this is likely the most common. The costs for one month’s groceries seem to astound you more and more every month. Where does all of that food go, anyway? It’s like they have invisible hamster pouches.

4. You get frustrated anytime someone says, “Aren’t you glad you have boys?”

Your exasperation is founded on two emotions whenever someone has the nerve to utter this question. First, of course you’re happy to be the mother of boys! They’re your own children and you wouldn’t trade them for anyone else. Second, it’s as though the question implies that boys are somehow more valuable than girls. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with girls, but since you have boys, you’re focused on being the best mom possible for your boys.

5. You get home almost every day to see them playing video games instead of doing homework.

Glowing screens and shoot-em-up sound effects seem to emanate from every corner of your house, and you wonder if you’ll ever get a minute of peace and quiet.

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6. You’ve given up trying to keep bathroom time “private.”

Any time you need to run to the restroom, you’ve become accustomed to listening for the pitter-patter of small feet and the inevitable questions for mommy that will ensue. At times you catch yourself in the middle of this thought process, wondering how it ever became normal. You wonder if your own boys would appreciate “bathroom questions,” and then realize that they probably do. Speaking of privacy—

7. Being awoken by your boys jumping on the bed is hardly a surprise anymore.

A few years ago when your boys were still infants, you thought you only had to swear off quality sleep for the first year or two. Little did you know that sleep disruptions would remain normal. You’d give anything now for a week’s worth of quality sleep!

8. You’ve redefined what “safety” means for your boys.

Harking back to their toddler years again, you developed ever-watchful eyes to notice if even the tiniest bruise showed up on their bodies. Now, seeing how your boys jump, leap, climb and crawl over everything in sight, “safety” has suddenly become less of a constant worry. Dramatic as your boys may be, you’ve learned that a small cut on their thumb doesn’t warrant a trip to the ER.

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9. You’ve found that boys are just as messy as girls.

Any time you’re having a conversation with a friend who has daughters, it’s become commonplace to hear, “Oh, aren’t you happy boys aren’t as messy as girls?” You throw your head back in a huge belly laugh, responding that no, boys are just as messy as girls, if not more so. Moms of boys everywhere have witnessed firsthand how a clean home one day can look like a train wreck in the jungle the next morning.

10. You’ve been astonished with the clothing demands of boys.

Just a few years ago, you thought raising boys would mean less to spend on clothing. Three boys and dozens of blue jeans and t-shirts later, you’re wiser for this silly assumption.

11. You’re perturbed when people say, “At least boys love their mommies!”

Yes, at the end of the day, of course the boys love their mommy. But is it any different for girls? Why do people think girls have less of a heart than boys?

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12. You grew used to invasions of privacy ages ago.

You’re tired out from the constant demands your children place on you. It seems like there’s less and less personal time, and you’ve accepted the fact that any attempts for true privacy have to be scheduled and crafted with precision.

13. You’re anxious about who your boys will be in the future.

You’ve probably heard time and again how boys don’t seem to call or visit home as often as girls. You have faith that your boys will be different!

14. You get unnecessary flack for them.

It doesn’t take being out in public too long for a daring passerby to utter something that is less than considerate about having boys. It’s as though they literally have nothing better to say.

15. You’ve run yourself ragged trying to motivate your young boys in life.

As you watch your boys approach adolescence, you can sometimes feel hopeless when thinking about how to get them motivated. For many years on end, it can look like your boys want nothing more than to dive into video games and go crazy outside.

Next time something on this list happens to you, rather than moping about it, use this list as a reminder that moms of boys everywhere are going through the same experiences you are.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

Learning how to get in shape and set goals is important if you’re looking to live a healthier lifestyle and get closer to your goal weight. While this does require changes to your daily routine, you’ll find that you are able to look and feel better in only two weeks.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it takes to get in shape. Although anyone can cover the basics (eat right and exercise), there are some things that I could only learn through trial and error. Let’s cover some of the most important points for how to get in shape in two weeks.

1. Exercise Daily

It is far easier to make exercise a habit if it is a daily one. If you aren’t exercising at all, I recommend starting by exercising a half hour every day. When you only exercise a couple times per week, it is much easier to turn one day off into three days off, a week off, or a month off.

If you are already used to exercising, switching to three or four times a week to fit your schedule may be preferable, but it is a lot harder to maintain a workout program you don’t do every day.

Be careful to not repeat the same exercise routine each day. If you do an intense ab workout one day, try switching it up to general cardio the next. You can also squeeze in a day of light walking to break up the intensity.

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2. Duration Doesn’t Substitute for Intensity

Once you get into the habit of regular exercise, where do you go if you still aren’t reaching your goals? Most people will solve the problem by exercising for longer periods of time, turning forty-minute workouts into two hour stretches. Not only does this drain your time, but it doesn’t work particularly well.

One study shows that “exercising for a whole hour instead of a half does not provide any additional loss in either body weight or fat”[1].

This is great news for both your schedule and your levels of motivation. You’ll likely find it much easier to exercise for 30 minutes a day instead of an hour. In those 30 minutes, do your best to up the intensity to your appropriate edge to get the most out of the time.

3. Acknowledge Your Limits

Many people get frustrated when they plateau in their weight loss or muscle gaining goals as they’re learning how to get in shape. Everyone has an equilibrium and genetic set point where their body wants to remain. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve your fitness goals, but don’t be too hard on yourself if you are struggling to lose weight or put on muscle.

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Acknowledging a set point doesn’t mean giving up, but it does mean realizing the obstacles you face.

Expect to hit a plateau in your own fitness results[2]. When you expect a plateau, you can manage around it so you can continue your progress at a more realistic rate. When expectations meet reality, you can avoid dietary crashes.

4. Eat Healthy, Not Just Food That Looks Healthy

Know what you eat. Don’t fuss over minutia like whether you’re getting enough Omega 3’s or tryptophan, but be aware of the big things. Look at the foods you eat regularly and figure out whether they are healthy or not. Don’t get fooled by the deceptively healthy snacks just pretending to be good for you.

The basic nutritional advice includes:

  • Eat unprocessed foods
  • Eat more veggies
  • Use meat as a side dish, not a main course
  • Eat whole grains, not refined grains[3]

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Eat whole grains when you want to learn how to get in shape.

    5. Watch Out for Travel

    Don’t let a four-day holiday interfere with your attempts when you’re learning how to get in shape. I don’t mean that you need to follow your diet and exercise plan without any excursion, but when you are in the first few weeks, still forming habits, be careful that a week long break doesn’t terminate your progress.

    This is also true of schedule changes that leave you suddenly busy or make it difficult to exercise. Have a backup plan so you can be consistent, at least for the first month when you are forming habits.

    If travel is on your schedule and can’t be avoided, make an exercise plan before you go[4], and make sure to pack exercise clothes and an exercise mat as motivation to keep you on track.

    6. Start Slow

    Ever start an exercise plan by running ten miles and then puking your guts out? Maybe you aren’t that extreme, but burnout is common early on when learning how to get in shape. You have a lifetime to be healthy, so don’t try to go from couch potato to athletic superstar in a week.

    If you are starting a running regime, for example, run less than you can to start. Starting strength training? Work with less weight than you could theoretically lift. Increasing intensity and pushing yourself can come later when your body becomes comfortable with regular exercise.

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    7. Be Careful When Choosing a Workout Partner

    Should you have a workout partner? That depends. Workout partners can help you stay motivated and make exercising more fun. But they can also stop you from reaching your goals.

    My suggestion would be to have a workout partner, but when you start to plateau (either in physical ability, weight loss/gain, or overall health) and you haven’t reached your goals, consider mixing things up a bit.

    If you plateau, you may need to make changes to continue improving. In this case it’s important to talk to your workout partner about the changes you want to make, and if they don’t seem motivated to continue, offer a thirty day break where you both try different activities.

    I notice that guys working out together tend to match strength after a brief adjustment phase. Even if both are trying to improve, something seems to stall improvement once they reach a certain point. I found that I was able to lift as much as 30-50% more after taking a short break from my regular workout partner.

    Final Thoughts

    Learning how to get in shape in as little as two weeks sounds daunting, but if you’re motivated and have the time and energy to devote to it, it’s certainly possible.

    Find an exercise routine that works for you, eat healthy, drink lots of water, and watch as the transformation begins.

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