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15 Things Only Moms of Boys Understand

15 Things Only Moms of Boys Understand

Soon-to-be-mothers can think they know what motherhood will be like, but as soon as the kids arrive, it’s a completely different story. There is a handful of unmistakable struggles that all moms of boys experience throughout raising these youngsters.

1. You’ve become immersed in the craziness and impatience of young boys.

Let’s face it—there’s nothing quite like raising boys to test the limits of your physical capacities. Heck, moms of boys know that raising children pushes the envelope of mental and emotional capacities too. Taking your boys anywhere in public can feel more like organizing an entire circus than simply engaging in some quality family time.

2. You take your mistakes far too personally.

As a mom, there’s an irrevocable desire within you to see your boys succeed. When something goes wrong, it becomes easy to take this personally. Remember that your boys are still learning about life right alongside you!

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3. You’re flabbergasted at the amount of food consumed within the home.

Out of every woe that moms of boys share, this is likely the most common. The costs for one month’s groceries seem to astound you more and more every month. Where does all of that food go, anyway? It’s like they have invisible hamster pouches.

4. You get frustrated anytime someone says, “Aren’t you glad you have boys?”

Your exasperation is founded on two emotions whenever someone has the nerve to utter this question. First, of course you’re happy to be the mother of boys! They’re your own children and you wouldn’t trade them for anyone else. Second, it’s as though the question implies that boys are somehow more valuable than girls. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with girls, but since you have boys, you’re focused on being the best mom possible for your boys.

5. You get home almost every day to see them playing video games instead of doing homework.

Glowing screens and shoot-em-up sound effects seem to emanate from every corner of your house, and you wonder if you’ll ever get a minute of peace and quiet.

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6. You’ve given up trying to keep bathroom time “private.”

Any time you need to run to the restroom, you’ve become accustomed to listening for the pitter-patter of small feet and the inevitable questions for mommy that will ensue. At times you catch yourself in the middle of this thought process, wondering how it ever became normal. You wonder if your own boys would appreciate “bathroom questions,” and then realize that they probably do. Speaking of privacy—

7. Being awoken by your boys jumping on the bed is hardly a surprise anymore.

A few years ago when your boys were still infants, you thought you only had to swear off quality sleep for the first year or two. Little did you know that sleep disruptions would remain normal. You’d give anything now for a week’s worth of quality sleep!

8. You’ve redefined what “safety” means for your boys.

Harking back to their toddler years again, you developed ever-watchful eyes to notice if even the tiniest bruise showed up on their bodies. Now, seeing how your boys jump, leap, climb and crawl over everything in sight, “safety” has suddenly become less of a constant worry. Dramatic as your boys may be, you’ve learned that a small cut on their thumb doesn’t warrant a trip to the ER.

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9. You’ve found that boys are just as messy as girls.

Any time you’re having a conversation with a friend who has daughters, it’s become commonplace to hear, “Oh, aren’t you happy boys aren’t as messy as girls?” You throw your head back in a huge belly laugh, responding that no, boys are just as messy as girls, if not more so. Moms of boys everywhere have witnessed firsthand how a clean home one day can look like a train wreck in the jungle the next morning.

10. You’ve been astonished with the clothing demands of boys.

Just a few years ago, you thought raising boys would mean less to spend on clothing. Three boys and dozens of blue jeans and t-shirts later, you’re wiser for this silly assumption.

11. You’re perturbed when people say, “At least boys love their mommies!”

Yes, at the end of the day, of course the boys love their mommy. But is it any different for girls? Why do people think girls have less of a heart than boys?

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12. You grew used to invasions of privacy ages ago.

You’re tired out from the constant demands your children place on you. It seems like there’s less and less personal time, and you’ve accepted the fact that any attempts for true privacy have to be scheduled and crafted with precision.

13. You’re anxious about who your boys will be in the future.

You’ve probably heard time and again how boys don’t seem to call or visit home as often as girls. You have faith that your boys will be different!

14. You get unnecessary flack for them.

It doesn’t take being out in public too long for a daring passerby to utter something that is less than considerate about having boys. It’s as though they literally have nothing better to say.

15. You’ve run yourself ragged trying to motivate your young boys in life.

As you watch your boys approach adolescence, you can sometimes feel hopeless when thinking about how to get them motivated. For many years on end, it can look like your boys want nothing more than to dive into video games and go crazy outside.

Next time something on this list happens to you, rather than moping about it, use this list as a reminder that moms of boys everywhere are going through the same experiences you are.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2020

50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn

If you’re like me and really into self-development, you’ve probably read many of the thousands of self-help books out there on the market. But also like me, you probably find all the information a bit overwhelming.

That’s why I wanted to do the self-less task of taking the most important, life-changing lessons I’ve drawn from these books and condensed them into 50 key points.

Here’re 50 habits of successful people you should learn:

1. Believe It to See It

Our minds tend to focus on what’s happening around us and refuse to see what could happen. Only when you trust in what’s possible and dare to dream big, big things can happen for you.

2. See Problems as a Wonderful Gift

While others only see problems and give up, successful people use the problem as a lesson to find improvement in themselves or the task at hand.

3. Keep Looking for Solutions

Even if they’re knee-deep in problems, successful people will still put all of their focus on finding solutions.

4. Remember It’s All About the Journey

Successful people are conscious and methodical in creating their own success. They don’t sit around doing the bare minimum, hoping success finds them.

5. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

There’s so much fear on the road to success, but instead of letting that fear control and limit them, successful people do a good job of just forging ahead regardless.

6. Always Ask Productive Questions

It’s all about asking the right questions. Successful people make sure they are questions that will elicit information for a more productive, creative and positive mindset moving forward.

7. Understand the Best Waste of Energy Is Complaining

Successful people know that choosing to see the negative side of things will only create a useless and unproductive state.

8. Don’t Play the Blame Game

Taking responsibility for actions and outcomes is a form of empowerment that you can build your success upon. While the act of blaming others or outside circumstances takes this empowerment away from you.

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9. Maximize Your Strengths

Not every successful person is simply more talented than the rest, but they do use what they know they’re good at to achieve more successful results.

10. Be in It to Win It

Successful people are busy, productive and proactive. Instead of sitting around over-thinking and over-planning a great idea, they just take a step towards it no matter how small.

11. Know That Success Attracts Success

People who are successful surround themselves and seek out like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team and forge win-win relationships.

12. Actually Choose to Be Successful

Dreaming big is a massive part of being successful even if your dream seems impossible. Ambition is a mindset that needs to be a daily conscious choice.

13. Visualize, Visualize, Visualize!

You’ve got to see your success in your mind’s eye even before it comes. Successful people clarify and get that certainty about what they want their reality to look like rather than being mere spectators of life.

14. Be a One-Off Original

Successful people look for what’s working and then create a unique spin on it. Imitating only regurgitates other people’s ideas with no originality.

15. The Perfect Time to Act Is Now

Waiting for the right time to act is basically procrastination wrapped up in an excuse. Successful people know there’s never a perfect time so they may as well just do it now.

16. Keep Learning, Keep Growing

Continuous learning is the key to a successful life. Whether it’s academic, being a student of life or actionable learning, it’s all about expanding your knowledge and personal development.

17. Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

Successful people have the knack for finding positive aspects in all people and circumstances no matter what.

18. Having a Bad Day? Do It Anyway!

We all have bad moods but it shouldn’t be an excuse to stop everything. Giving into a bad mood just stop-starts your life, slowing success way down.

19. Sometimes Risky Business Is Needed

Calculated risks are a must for success. It’s about weighing the pros and cons while moving forward with that element of trust.

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20. Accept Challenge All the Time

Dealing with problems head-on is a must to be successful. Successful people also face challenges in order to improve themselves.

21. Make Your Own Luck

In the mindset of a successful person, there’s no such thing as ‘luck’ or ‘fate’. They take control to actively and consciously create their own best life.

22. Ignite Your Initiative

While many people are reactive, successful people are proactive – taking action before they have to.

23. Be the Master of Your Emotions

Being effective at managing emotions is key on the road to success. That’s not to say successful people don’t feel like we all do, but they’re just not slaves to their emotions.

24. Champion in Communication

Consciously working on effective communication skills gets anyone closer to success.

25. Plan Your Life Strategically

Successful people’s lives aren’t a clumsy series of unplanned events and outcomes, they methodically work at turning their plans into a reality.

26. Become Exceptional at What You Do

To become exceptional, you typically have to do things that most won’t. To become successful, hard decisions need to be made and acting on them is crucial.

27. Choose to Live Outside of Your Comfort Zone

While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid.

28. Live by Core Values

Successful people firstly identify their core values and what’s important to them, then do their best to live a life that reflects these values.

29. Realize Money Isn’t Everything

Money and success are not interchangeable and the most successful people understand this. Putting money on a pedestal and equating it to success is a dangerous mindset to have. Success comes in many forms.

30. Don’t Get Carried Away

Successful people understand the importance of discipline and self-control and as a result they are happy to take the road less travelled.

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31. Self-Worth Is Not Tied to Success

Successful people are secure. They do not derive their self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.

32. Kindness Breeds Kindness (And Success)

Generosity and kindness is a common trait among long-term successful people. It’s important to take pleasure in helping others achieve.

33. More Humility, Less Arrogance

Successful people are humble and happy to admit and apologize for mistakes. This is because they’re confident in their ability. They are happy to learn from others and happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory.

34. Change Opens New Doors

People who are successful are adaptable and embrace change, while the majority are creatures of comfort and habit. They are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.

35. Success Requires a Healthy Body

It’s not just how you think, it’s about how you show up for success. Successful people understand the importance of being physically well, not for vain reasons but because being in tiptop condition creates a better personal life for success.

36. Laziness Just Doesn’t Exist

Successful people are never considered lazy. Yes, they can relax when they need to, but working hard is their game.

37. Resilience by the Bucket Load

When difficulty strikes, most would throw in the towel, but successful people are just warming up.

38. Feedback Is Just Another Chance to Improve

How people react to feedback determines their potential for success. Being open to constructive criticism and acting on it to improve is most seen in those who are successful.

39. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

If people are hanging out with toxic and negative people, then they need to take a look at themselves. Successful people hang out with others who are positive and supportive.

40. Can’t Control It? Forget It

Successful people don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control of.

41. Swim Against the Tide

Successful people are not people-pleasers and they don’t need constant approval from others in order to move ahead.

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42. Alone Time Is Valuable Time

More self-worth means being more comfortable with your own company. Successful people are more happy and see the value in spending time alone.

43. Self-Standard Is Higher Than Most

Everyone has a choice to set high standards for themselves. Successful people do this, which in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work ethic and of course, better results.

44. Failure Isn’t Rationalized

While many use age, health, lack of time, ‘bad luck’, or lack of opportunity to explain away their failure, the key to success is finding a way to succeed despite facing these challenges.

45. Down Time Is an Important Part of a Routine

Having an off switch and taking time to do things that make them happy is a common trait of a successful person. Take a look at here The Importance of Scheduling Downtime.

46. Career Isn’t Who You Are, It’s What You Do

Successful people know their career isn’t their identity. They are multi-dimensional and don’t define themselves by their job.

47. Be Interested in Only the Path of Resistance

While most people look for the easiest way or the shortcut, successful people are more interested in the most effective way. They look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.

48. Follow Through

Many spend their life starting things that they never finish, but successful people get the job done. Even when the excitement and the novelty has worn off they still follow through and finish.

49. Invest in All Your Dimensions

We’re not just physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. Successful people consciously work at being healthy and productive on all levels.

50. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

To obtain success, it’s important to practice what you preach. Successful people don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.

So there you have it, a summary of what I’ve learned from self-help books. But of course, you need to start taking actions so you will get closer to success too.

Bonus: 5 Bad Habits To Quit

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