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10 Little Ways To Show Your Kids You Love Them Every Day

10 Little Ways To Show Your Kids You Love Them Every Day

Do you miss your child during the day and wish you had more time to connect with her?  Do you have multiple kids and you want to make sure all of them know that you love them a lot? Are you tight on time and wish you could take your child to do a special full day activity, but you just don’t always have that kind of time?  Then this article is for you.  All of these sweet ways to tell your children you love them are quick to execute, but each will make your child feel very special.

1.  Notes in unexpected places.

Even if your little one can’t read yet, you can draw them a picture.  Kids will love this surprise in their pocket and will treasure knowing that you planned this especially for them. Examples of places you could put them include: under their breakfast plate, in their coat pocket, in their car seat, on top of their toothbrush, folded inside their cereal bowl.

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    2.  Stickers.

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    Stickers are cheap, quick, and popular with kids of all ages. Buy many sheets of stickers in advance and then put them on your kids’ shirts before they go to school.  Tell them that whenever they see the sticker, they can remember that you love them!

    3.  Journal.

    Buy a special notebook that your child picks out.  Every day, write down their favorite thing they did that day.  They will be able to read this over later in life and will cherish it, and best of all, it literally only takes a minute or less.  If you get into the routine of doing it at the same time every day, like dinner time, it will be easy to remember.

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      4.  “Tattoo.”

      Using a ballpoint pen, draw your child a special little picture on the inside of their arm.  Tell them that this is a special tattoo that shows everyone how much you love them, or for a shyer child, tell them that this is a secret tattoo that only you and her know about, that means you love them.  For bonus points, let your child draw one on your arm too, so you match.

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      5. Kiss box.

      This is an empty box that they can decorate. You can put a kiss “into” it when you leave for work or to go out.  Tell them that if they ever miss you, they can open the box and take out a kiss.  There is a great picture book, The Kiss Box, that you can read with your child if they like the kiss box idea.

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        6. Special code.

        You make up a special code with your child that means “I love you.”  For my daughter and I it is a finger in the ear.  Your child will enjoy thinking up their own special code, and whenever one of you does the signal, the other should respond.  Different parents and sibling pairs can all make up their own special codes.

        7. Special book.  

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        Designate one of your child’s favorite short picture books as your special book.  Before bed, no matter if you read other books or not (of course, the more reading, the better!), always read your special book too.

        8. Aluminium foil animal.  

        With practice, you can whip one of these up in a minute.  It’s not perfect, but your kid will love it and will like to take it to school, if they are little enough not to realize it’s weird looking (come on people, it’s a duck).

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          9. Special spy names.  

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          You can make up secret spy names with your child, like Red Turtle or Dancing Flamingo.  The sillier the better.  Only you two know the secret names, so your child will feel special.  If your child likes pretending to be a spy, you can keep this game going and make up a new spy code word every day.

          10. Special song.

          Make up a little song for your child based on a melody you love, that is only for you and her.  For example: You are my Clara, my only Clara, you make me happy when skies are gray, you’ll never know dear, how much Mommy loves you, please don’t take my Clara Bear away.

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            Hopefully some of these tips help you or inspire you to come up with your own.  Even if you don’t have the time or resources to spend extensive individual time with your child each day, small things can make them feel loved and cherished, and you will feel pretty good too.

            Featured photo credit: Connect with your preschooler via drpsychmom.com

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            Last Updated on August 13, 2020

            12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

            12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

            As a mediation teacher, I am constantly confronted with these two questions regarding the benefits of meditation:

            1. Why can’t I enjoy the benefits of meditation continuously?

            I ask back: Is it maybe because you see mediation as a technique, performance, or some exclusive activity? The answer is: yes!

            Or, because your mind is constantly evolving on the past negative attachments and traditional habits? After careful thinking they answer: yes, probably!

            Although meditation is very simple and challenging at the same time, in the above mentioned case, it’s not easy to benefit from meditation, especially when approached with the idea that it has to be learned, studied, or applied. Meditation is to be seen as a natural, mental cleansing process that happens on a basis of awareness on a moment-to-moment experience. When that takes place, the benefits of meditation are continuous.

            2. What is the purpose of meditation?

            The purpose of meditation is to accomplish a level of consciousness for mastering the mind and uniting with the finest, deepest, and subtlest part of yourself as a being.

            It is a conscious process of observation of the mind—helping the meditator to understand the structure of its mind and the quality of its content. During this process, countless benefits of a physical, mental, and spiritual/philosophical nature arise for the meditator.

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            Meditation as a Fixer and Benefactor

            In this article we’ll have a look at the primary and the ultimate benefits of mediation, which improve your body and mind at the same time. For the sake of clarity, readability, and tangible experience, I have separated the benefits into three groups.

            You can change just about anything you don’t like about yourself (psychologically, as well as physically) through meditation. However, this is only possible with a specific approach, when your brain allows the benefits of meditation to do their work.

            This means not to interrupt the benefit with other thoughts, but to let their effect implement itself in your body and mind. This approach is crucial.

            The following exercises will make you feel the benefits of meditation instantly, but the continuity of the benefits of meditation on your body and mind depend on the discipline of your brain, how you manage external stimuli and your thoughts.

            Less Physical, More Psychological

            Even though the practice of meditation is more psychological and less physical, the first benefit we’re going to experience is both physical as well as mental.

            This benefit happens literally immediately, right at the moment of meditation. It is the essence of mediation basically.

            The First Benefit of Meditation

            The first benefit of meditation is twofold:

            1. Improving inward attention (sharpening the mind)
            2. Relaxation of the body

            Let’s do it right now. This benefit consists of only one step, and it is very simple to perform. It goes like this:

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            Sit still and pay attention to your exhalation.

            That’s it! Technically, the whole journey into the world of mediation begins here and nowhere else. And right here, you benefit from this step in the following way:

            When you pay attention to the flow of your exhalation (gentle, deep, effortless exhalation), your body begins with the process of relaxation instantly (your heart rate slows down, your nervous system calms, and tension in your muscles is relieved).

            When the nervous system calms, your mind calms down, and, more specifically, less thoughts are produced by your mind. How, exactly? By applying one of the most valuable mental skills—attention—the mind follows the breathing and has no space and time to generate any other thoughts. Only when the attention goes off the breath, other thoughts are constructed, and the mind is accelerating with thought production again.

            Keeping the First Benefit Effective and Ongoing

            Here you apply the approach of not letting the relaxation and attention process get interrupted; rather let the effects of these benefits implant in your body and mind as deeply as possible.

            This is to say, the instant relaxation and inward attention happen at the same time when you follow the flow of your breath. Repeating this process—creating a constant rhythm out of the breathing and the attention—you create a process of meditation.

            Keep your attention on the flow of your breath and see how the calmness of body and mind begin to rule your present moment. The longer you stay connected to your breathing, the stronger you’ll feel the benefit. Start with 3-5 minutes at a time without doing anything else, and increase to 10-20 minutes and onwards.

            Can you think of a better, simpler and quicker exercise that can relax the body and improve attention in this way, at this speed?

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            This benefit takes you to the second one.

            The Second Benefit of Meditation

            While still working with the first benefit of mediation, you slowly start to see the second benefit of mediation, which is fourfold. I call it the major value of mediation:

            1. Energy (physical and mental strength)
            2. Observance
            3. Peacefulness (stillness, and space of mind for deeper observation)
            4. Patience

            Peacefulness is the source of a blissful life. The energy is the fuel to express that blissfulness. Whatever we want to accomplish in life we need: 1) Physical and mental strength, 2) Observance of that energy, 3) Peacefulness—the calmness and stillness that creates space for freedom of being and creative thinking, and 4) Patience for the process of accomplishment.

            You can only get creative in thinking and boosted with physical and mental energy when you get in touch with the deepest levels of yourself—when you harmonize your mental and physiological activities. How do you do that? Let’s try it right now:

            This step involves the observation of the two separate movements of your breath. After paying attention on your exhalation, you have prepared your body and mind to really see and feel what true peacefulness and true energy means.

            1. Energy

            Keep your attention on your inhalation (inhaling gently, deeply and lightly) and feel the new energy (new oxygen) flowing in your body. The inhalation is the symbol for aliveness and vitality. It is the the primary act that connects the baby’s body with the outside world after coming out of the womb[1]. Each inhalation is a new opportunity for your body to revive, regenerate, and renew itself.

            2. Observance

            The observance comes during the process of meditation, enabling you to see the physiological benefits of introducing new energy to your body. Use that benefit by utilizing its effects, and create deeper observation into yourself. With every single inhalation, this observation will enable you to generate even more energy, mentally and physically.

            3. Peacefulness

            Keep your attention on your exhalation, and feel how, out of the relaxation, peacefulness is spreading throughout your whole body. The exhalation is the symbol for relaxation and peacefulness. Only through meditation can you realize what absolute peacefulness means.

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            4. Patience

            The meditation delivers the previous benefits to you immediately and opens up the possibility for many other benefits and great virtues. A specific one to mention, which is essential for reaching the ultimate benefits of meditation, is patience. If you have experienced the aforementioned benefits, it means that you have invested a certain amount of patience into mastering yourself and your mind.

            The Ultimate Benefits of Meditation

            Patience is a key quality when it comes to the ultimate benefits of meditation.

            Since the mind is the tool that reveals everything, mediation is the method for the proper utility of the tool.

            The above mentioned benefits of mediation lead to the ultimate benefits of mediation—qualities that depict what makes a human being human. As you dwell in a meditative state of being, the following benefits begin to emanate:

            • Diligence: the persistence for righteous effort to reach an intrinsic value; inner strength.
            • Temperance: to express self-control and show excellence in managing the physio-biological and mental necessities
            • Courage: using righteous effort and braveness to look into the weaknesses of yourself and at the hardship of your life, endure it and patiently overcome the obstacles
            • Loving kindness and Compassion – a capacity to care, understand, and tolerate other people’s state of being, wishing them freedom from suffering.
            • Wisdom: the moment when you feel that mediation gives you the feeling and the knowledge that what you do relating to life and practical affairs is just.
            • Equanimity: that puts you in a state of composure, and you experience an ongoing blissful state of being.

            These are the 6 ultimate benefits of meditation that put your body and mind in a state of health and balance.

            Final Thoughts

            Mediation exists to put order in your mind and awaken the best of you, to reconnect you to your goodness and your inborn intelligent capabilities.

            Meditation is the window to your true Self. It gives you a panoramic view of your heart’s greatness. It shows you the true meaning of love, freeing you from the dungeons of ignorance and despair. The power of meditation dismantles the evil that’s trying to cloud the beauty of your heart.

            Your heart, body, and soul are the bridge over which the challenges of life frequently carry their heavy load. Meditation is the support of that bridge. Make use of that support.

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            Reference

            [1] Medline Plus: Changes in the newborn at birth

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