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10 Little Ways To Show Your Kids You Love Them Every Day

10 Little Ways To Show Your Kids You Love Them Every Day

Do you miss your child during the day and wish you had more time to connect with her?  Do you have multiple kids and you want to make sure all of them know that you love them a lot? Are you tight on time and wish you could take your child to do a special full day activity, but you just don’t always have that kind of time?  Then this article is for you.  All of these sweet ways to tell your children you love them are quick to execute, but each will make your child feel very special.

1.  Notes in unexpected places.

Even if your little one can’t read yet, you can draw them a picture.  Kids will love this surprise in their pocket and will treasure knowing that you planned this especially for them. Examples of places you could put them include: under their breakfast plate, in their coat pocket, in their car seat, on top of their toothbrush, folded inside their cereal bowl.

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    2.  Stickers.

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    Stickers are cheap, quick, and popular with kids of all ages. Buy many sheets of stickers in advance and then put them on your kids’ shirts before they go to school.  Tell them that whenever they see the sticker, they can remember that you love them!

    3.  Journal.

    Buy a special notebook that your child picks out.  Every day, write down their favorite thing they did that day.  They will be able to read this over later in life and will cherish it, and best of all, it literally only takes a minute or less.  If you get into the routine of doing it at the same time every day, like dinner time, it will be easy to remember.

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      4.  “Tattoo.”

      Using a ballpoint pen, draw your child a special little picture on the inside of their arm.  Tell them that this is a special tattoo that shows everyone how much you love them, or for a shyer child, tell them that this is a secret tattoo that only you and her know about, that means you love them.  For bonus points, let your child draw one on your arm too, so you match.

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      5. Kiss box.

      This is an empty box that they can decorate. You can put a kiss “into” it when you leave for work or to go out.  Tell them that if they ever miss you, they can open the box and take out a kiss.  There is a great picture book, The Kiss Box, that you can read with your child if they like the kiss box idea.

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        6. Special code.

        You make up a special code with your child that means “I love you.”  For my daughter and I it is a finger in the ear.  Your child will enjoy thinking up their own special code, and whenever one of you does the signal, the other should respond.  Different parents and sibling pairs can all make up their own special codes.

        7. Special book.  

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        Designate one of your child’s favorite short picture books as your special book.  Before bed, no matter if you read other books or not (of course, the more reading, the better!), always read your special book too.

        8. Aluminium foil animal.  

        With practice, you can whip one of these up in a minute.  It’s not perfect, but your kid will love it and will like to take it to school, if they are little enough not to realize it’s weird looking (come on people, it’s a duck).

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          9. Special spy names.  

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          You can make up secret spy names with your child, like Red Turtle or Dancing Flamingo.  The sillier the better.  Only you two know the secret names, so your child will feel special.  If your child likes pretending to be a spy, you can keep this game going and make up a new spy code word every day.

          10. Special song.

          Make up a little song for your child based on a melody you love, that is only for you and her.  For example: You are my Clara, my only Clara, you make me happy when skies are gray, you’ll never know dear, how much Mommy loves you, please don’t take my Clara Bear away.

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            Hopefully some of these tips help you or inspire you to come up with your own.  Even if you don’t have the time or resources to spend extensive individual time with your child each day, small things can make them feel loved and cherished, and you will feel pretty good too.

            Featured photo credit: Connect with your preschooler via drpsychmom.com

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            Last Updated on October 20, 2020

            How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

            How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

            You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

            We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

            The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

            Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

            1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

            Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

            For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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            • (1) Research
            • (2) Deciding the topic
            • (3) Creating the outline
            • (4) Drafting the content
            • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
            • (6) Revision
            • (7) etc.

            Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

            2. Change Your Environment

            Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

            One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

            3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

            Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

            Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

            My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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            Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

            4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

            If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

            Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

            I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

            5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

            I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

            Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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            As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

            6. Get a Buddy

            Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

            I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

            7. Tell Others About Your Goals

            This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

            For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

            8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

            What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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            9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

            If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

            Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

            10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

            Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

            Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

            11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

            At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

            Reality check:

            I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future. Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

            Bonus: Think Like a Rhino

            More Tips for Procrastinators to Start Taking Action

            Featured photo credit: Malvestida Magazine via unsplash.com

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