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10 Hacks to Tame Toddler Tantrums

10 Hacks to Tame Toddler Tantrums

Toddlers don’t need a good reason to flick the tantrum switch. They’ll let rip anywhere, anytime. The bigger the audience, the better! Here are some tips to help you dodge those meltdown moments…

1. Distraction

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    When you see the signs of a tantrum building, nip it in the bud… point out an interesting bug, change the subject, whip out your secret stash of bubbles. If possible, physically move away from whatever is provoking the eruption. Diffusing a bomb is better than picking up pieces after it has blown.

    2. Pick your battles
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      Decide which issues are absolute musts – brushing teeth, being strapped into a car chair – don’t budge on those.The rest of it? Be gloriously flexible.  Does it really matter if her t-shirt clashes with her pants, or if she goes to daycare in her slippers? The short person in your life is at an age where they will argue with you for the fun of it. Don’t get sucked in!

      3. Get her wet

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        If it’s winter, run a bath. Summer? Head outdoors to the nearest beach, river, pool, fountain… sprinkler. Water is magical in how quickly it settles grumpy small people. Even a large tub outside in the sun, with a variety of plastic cups and jugs will do the trick. Wetting feet and making footprints can also be quite exciting for a toddler who has never noticed their own tracks before.

        4. Find an animal
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          The soothing effect of a child-friendly pet cannot be under-estimated. Somewhere between the soft fur and tickly whiskers, your wound-up kid may just unravel to a puddle of happy compliance.

          5. Medicine? Drink bubbles!
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            Most liquid medication can do with a good shake before being poured into a spoon. Shaking causes bubbles and these bubbles are your key to avoid being spraypainted in medicine that your toddler isn’t keen on. Presenting your child with a spoon of ‘bubbles’ instead of ‘medicine’ can make all the difference in their wilingness to swallow.

            6. Hairwashing: sorted
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              The easiest way to wash hair in a bath is to get your little one to lie back, and let you get on with it. The challenge is getting her there! Line up some toys on the bath rim behind your child’s back. Bottles of shampoo will also do. When they are ready to have their hair washed, let them lie back on your hand and tell them to look at the goodies you’ve spread out behind them. While you are washing, ask questions. What can you see that is blue? What color is the frog? What is hiding behind the yellow bottle?

              7. Go Outside

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                Being cooped up inside all day, is a recipe for grumpiness. Break the rut and go for a walk outside. Fresh air, interesting bugs and leaves, a change of scenery, all make the perfect antidote to cabin fever.

                8. Get moving

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                  Any unused energy that lurks in your little ones system, will make the next tantrum more spectacular. Put on some loud music and bop around the lounge. Find a jungle gym and let your toddler climb, hang and swing. Use that energy to benefit their bodies, rather than fuel a meltdown.

                  9. Let them help you

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                    I know this thought is enough to lace gray through your hair. Toddler-help means extra mess, a job that takes five times longer and results that are far from perfect. The truth is, your child loves nothing more than being with you and doing whatever you are doing. Every small job you give them, deposits into their skill bank and grows their confidence. Kids who do stuff with the adults in their lives, grow up to be problem solvers who take intiative.

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                    10. Enjoy their company

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                      Toddlers are a non-stop whirl of mess, energy and the question ‘why’? It is not odd to feel drained after spending a few hours together, even more so when you’re on parent-duty 24/7. But they are also inquisitive, loving and fun to be around. When you feel overwhelmed, step back, take a moment to breathe. Allow yourself to see the delightful side of this awesome little person who shares life with you. Laugh together at silly things and don’t let small issues get in the way of big love.

                      Your unconditional love and acceptance will help them navigate the stormy waters of those early years. When you look again, toddler tantrums will be nothing more than a memory.

                       

                       

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                      How to Cultivate Continuous Learning to Stay Competitive

                      How to Cultivate Continuous Learning to Stay Competitive

                      Assuming the public school system didn’t crush your soul, learning is a great activity. It expands your viewpoint. It gives you new knowledge you can use to improve your life. It is important for your personal growth. Even if you discount the worldly benefits, the act of learning can be a source of enjoyment.

                      “I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.” — Mark Twain

                      But in a busy world, it can often be hard to fit in time to learn anything that isn’t essential. The only things learned are those that need to be. Everything beyond that is considered frivolous. Even those who do appreciate the practice of lifelong learning, can find it difficult to make the effort.

                      Here are some tips for installing the habit of continuous learning:

                      1. Always Have a Book

                      It doesn’t matter if it takes you a year or a week to read a book. Always strive to have a book that you are reading through, and take it with you so you can read it when you have time.

                      Just by shaving off a few minutes in-between activities in my day I can read about a book per week. That’s at least fifty each year.

                      2. Keep a “To-Learn” List

                      We all have to-do lists. These are the tasks we need to accomplish. Try to also have a “to-learn” list. On it you can write ideas for new areas of study.

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                      Maybe you would like to take up a new language, learn a skill or read the collective works of Shakespeare. Whatever motivates you, write it down.

                      3. Get More Intellectual Friends

                      Start spending more time with people who think. Not just people who are smart, but people who actually invest much of their time in learning new skills. Their habits will rub off on you.

                      Even better, they will probably share some of their knowledge with you.

                      4. Guided Thinking

                      Albert Einstein once said,

                      “Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking.”

                      Simply studying the wisdom of others isn’t enough, you have to think through ideas yourself. Spend time journaling, meditating or contemplating over ideas you have learned.

                      5. Put it Into Practice

                      Skill based learning is useless if it isn’t applied. Reading a book on C++ isn’t the same thing as writing a program. Studying painting isn’t the same as picking up a brush.

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                      If your knowledge can be applied, put it into practice.

                      In this information age, we’re all exposed to a lot of information, it’s important to re-learn how to learn so as to put the knowledge into practice.

                      6. Teach Others

                      You learn what you teach. If you have an outlet of communicating ideas to others, you are more likely to solidify that learning.

                      Start a blog, mentor someone or even discuss ideas with a friend.

                      7. Clean Your Input

                      Some forms of learning are easy to digest, but often lack substance.

                      I make a point of regularly cleaning out my feed reader for blogs I subscribe to. Great blogs can be a powerful source of new ideas. But every few months, I realize I’m collecting posts from blogs that I am simply skimming.

                      Every few months, purify your input to save time and focus on what counts.

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                      8. Learn in Groups

                      Lifelong learning doesn’t mean condemning yourself to a stack of dusty textbooks. Join organizations that teach skills.

                      Workshops and group learning events can make educating yourself a fun, social experience.

                      9. Unlearn Assumptions

                      You can’t add water to a full cup. I always try to maintain a distance away from any idea. Too many convictions simply mean too few paths for new ideas.

                      Actively seek out information that contradicts your worldview.

                      Our minds can’t be trusted, but this is what we can do about it to be wiser.

                      10. Find Jobs that Encourage Learning

                      Pick a career that encourages continual learning. If you are in a job that doesn’t have much intellectual freedom, consider switching to one that does.

                      Don’t spend forty hours of your week in a job that doesn’t challenge you.

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                      11. Start a Project

                      Set out to do something you don’t know how. Forced learning in this way can be fun and challenging.

                      If you don’t know anything about computers, try building one. If you consider yourself a horrible artist, try a painting.

                      12. Follow Your Intuition

                      Lifelong learning is like wandering through the wilderness. You can’t be sure what to expect and there isn’t always an end goal in mind.

                      Letting your intuition guide you can make self-education more enjoyable. Most of our lives have been broken down to completely logical decisions, that making choices on a whim has been stamped out.

                      13. The Morning Fifteen

                      Productive people always wake up early. Use the first fifteen minutes of your morning as a period for education.

                      If you find yourself too groggy, you might want to wait a short time. Just don’t put it off later in the day where urgent activities will push it out of the way.

                      14. Reap the Rewards

                      Learn information you can use. Understanding the basics of programming allows me to handle projects that other people would require outside help. Meeting a situation that makes use of your educational efforts can be a source of pride.

                      15. Make Learning a Priority

                      Few external forces are going to persuade you to learn. The desire has to come from within. Once you decide you want to make lifelong learning a habit, it is up to you to make it a priority in your life.

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