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This Is How You Become Unattractive And You’re Not Aware of It

This Is How You Become Unattractive And You’re Not Aware of It

Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring, and compassionate. But for some people, that’s not always the case. There are many behaviors or ‘bad habits’ that people have that make them seem unattractive, annoying, or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen to realize that you embody any of them – quit! You might find your circle of friends grow once you do.

1. You are Self-Absorbed

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    Many people do this without realizing it. You focus solely on yourself, talk only about yourself, and often don’t care what others around you have to say. You think you’re the only one that matters. If this is you, it’s time to change. No one wants to be friend with someone who only cares about themselves.

    2. You Focus on Outer Beauty, Ignoring What’s Inside

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      Surprisingly, true beauty comes from within your heart, body, and soul. Your physical appearance isn’t something that matters the most, but people with unattractive behaviors think that outer beauty is all that matters. Take a look in the mirror – deep within yourself – and you might see what lies beneath. An ugly person. Unless you change your way of thinking.

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      3. You are Always in Competition

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        Are you the person who has to be better than everyone else, see more, do more? If so, you’re an unattractive person. You should care more about your friends, and let them have their moment. If they overcame their fear of heights and climbed 10 feet in the air, don’t say, “That’s all? I’ve climbed 30 feet!” Instead say, “Wow! That’s awesome. I’m really proud of you.”

        4. You View Your Friends as Enemies

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          People who are seen as unattractive are often in fights with their friends. Instead of banning together and truly being able to care for others, you’re always turning your back, and stabbing them in theirs. Your friends are not your enemies. They are your allies.

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          5. You Question Your Importance to Others

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            You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you – it doesn’t matter to them – but to you it does. Get over it. They’re still your friend, and their lives don’t stop when you’re not around.

            6. You are the Boss

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              In a group of friends, everyone should be on an equal playing field. If you’re the one always making decisions, constantly needing to be in charge, or trying to control what others are doing, you’re acting in an unattractive way.

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              7. You are Dishonest

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                When it comes to being a great friend, or someone whom others want to be around, you need to be honest. Many people who partake in ugly behaviors are often dishonest, lying about everything, inquiring about every question asked about them, and how they truly feel about different things. Yes, honesty is the best policy.

                8. You are Rude

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                  If you’re the person that’s frequently impolite, offensive, or embarrassing your friends with your rude comments in public – quit. You’re not someone people would want to be around. There are going to be times when you don’t agree with someone, or see something you didn’t want to see, but there’s no point in making a scene, because you’re making everyone look at your terrible behavior and they’re not seeing what you’re seeing.

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                  9. You are Unreliable, Yet Dependent Upon Others

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                    Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If you’re the person no one can count on, that’s an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if you’re the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, that’s another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.

                    10. You are Always Negative

                    Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If you’re constantly putting things down, or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who’s constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.

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                      Last Updated on June 13, 2019

                      How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                      How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                      Think you have a boring life?

                      The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

                      Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

                      1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

                      What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

                      Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

                      2. Go Play with Kids

                      Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

                      They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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                      3. Order a Hot Dog

                      While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

                      4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

                      Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

                      5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

                      You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

                      You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

                      6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

                      Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

                      Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

                      7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

                      Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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                      What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

                      8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

                      You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

                      9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

                      Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

                      10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

                      We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

                      11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

                      It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

                      12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

                      This will give you something to look forward to.

                      Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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                      13. People Watch

                      Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

                      People are infinitely interesting.

                      14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

                      Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

                      15. Dance

                      You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

                      If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

                      16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

                      This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

                      17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

                      Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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                      18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

                      Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

                      19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

                      OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

                      20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

                      This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

                      Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

                      Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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