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Stop Reverting to Your Phone in Awkward Situations

Stop Reverting to Your Phone in Awkward Situations

We’re living in the zombie apocalypse. Everywhere you look, people are walking around mindlessly glued to their mobile Internet devices. For every Instagram photo, Facebook update, Tweet, Vine, like, fav, and comment you see online, there’s a slack-jawed, mouth-breathing zombie in the real world, staring at inanimate pieces of plastic (hint: you’re one of them).

I Am Legend…

Pets can do a lot of things. They can sense emotions, predict weather, and get to live their entire lives rent-free. One thing they can’t do is see the Internet. From your cat or dog’s perspective, you, staring at your phone all day, look more ludicrous than they do chasing their tails. Animals don’t need the Internet, so it’s not accessible to them.

Humans aren’t so lucky, unless they were born into an aristocracy. It’s no wonder so many people get lost in their imaginations and surf the Internet. All these interesting posts are just better than the mundane and painful world around us.

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That’s not the way it has to be.

We can be the change we want in the world. We can stop broadcasting our every thought, vision, and sound to the entire world. Instead of judging those younger than us for being attached to their phones and unable to socialize, or blaming older generations for developing the phones in the first place, we can internalize the blame and realize that we are the problem.

Being in any sort of awkward social situation used to be the catalyst for making new friends. Facing that awkwardness is what separated mice from men. That awkwardness is the ice everyone always talks about breaking. Without it, people are learning to hide from their fears, rather than face them. People aren’t learning to tread the ice.

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It doesn’t have to be that way, though. When you arrive early at a party, you can choose to keep your phone in your pocket and lend a hand. If you’re surrounded by people you don’t know, challenge yourself to spark a conversation with them. When you have delicious food, you can just eat it. Live in the moment.

You don’t need to fully disconnect from the grid. In case you haven’t noticed from the blog you’re reading online, I’m a blogger–I clearly believe in utilizing the Internet. We just need to be more mindful of our web usage instead of mindlessly connecting.

Break the habit…

We all have addictions, and you’re lying to yourself if you say you don’t. You may be in control of the cravings, but you can’t deny their existence. If you’re unsure whether or not using your smartphone is an addiction, here’s a litmus test:

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Go hang out with a group of people–any people will do, but you can use friends if you’d like. When they pull their phone out and start playing with it, do you have the urge to pull yours out? If you don’t think that’s a sign of addiction, you’re suffering from the same denial as smokers and alcoholics.

Admitting you have a problem is the first step toward recovery. Now that you’ve taken the vital step of recognizing both your addiction (using your smartphone) and triggers (awkward situations), you can look for other ways to handle those situations without using your phone.

I know it’s scary–it’s scary for all of us–but it’s possible. You can face your nerves and take those awkward moments on. It doesn’t take some pompous speech or grand gesture. Simply say, “no phones allowed,” when you’re around people. Break the ice with a quick 10-20 second bit about how people are always so attached to their phones that conversation and connection have become a lost art.

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…and go from there.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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