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10 Steps to Be a Rock Star at Anything

10 Steps to Be a Rock Star at Anything

Rock Star. The word brings up all sorts of connotations: a performer, a celebrity, someone with drive or energy, someone who is loved. While the phrase is usually associated with music, we tend to use the term as a positive label for anyone who is remarkable, is successful, or has passionate followers.

So what does it take, and how can you be a rock star at anything?

1) Passion. Rock stars all over the world hold one thing in common: a relentless drive for the things that they are passionate about. A person who is strikingly dedicated is magnetic for those who have similar interests or pursuits.

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2) Development. Whether you have natural talent or require extra training, you will need a plan for developing your skills. You can hire a mentor or trainer, take classes, read books, and practice. As renowned entertainer Eddie Cantor said, “It takes twenty years to become an overnight success.” Learn how to stay motivated.

3) Discipline. Rock stars have a strictly-disciplined regimen, which leads to more success. This includes staying away from things that can be a distraction or negative influence on what they do. As this article states, self-discipline is the foundation of productive living.

4) Connection. Being a rock star implies that someone has some loyal fans. In other words, it takes a group of people rooting you on and supporting whatever you do. It doesn’t have to be a large audience; it can simply be a loved one or some co-workers. Either way, it’s important to accept their support, deepen those relationships, and acknowledge their contributions to your success.

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5) Consistency. If you want to be a rock star, you need to be able to perform consistently. People are looking for someone who is reliable, and that requires regular training, a history of success, and the ability to meet or exceed expectations every time.

6) Encore. Generally, the rule of thumb for any performer is to satisfy your fans but “leave them wanting more.” In other words, you don’t want to overstay your welcome in the limelight. However, if you do have a chance to extend your performance, make sure you leave a show-stopping experience for those who are watching. Whatever industry you are in — whether it is music, non-profits, or corporate sales — your job is about customer service. Make sure that anytime someone walks away, they are amazed and not bored.

7) Humility. The real rock star is gracious and still has the ability to connect. While it’s easy to get distracted by the glamorous, over-the-top lifestyles of some, it’s important to realize that those who are the most respected, appreciated, and followed are the ones who are humble, put others first, and aren’t arrogant.

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8) Confidence. It’s important to be humble but one should also be confident in their values, pursuits, and abilities. It’s easy to confuse humility with timidity. Learn the art of humble confidence. If you want others to believe in you, you’re going to have to believe in yourself first.

9) Influence. Leadership expert and author John C. Maxwell states, “Leadership is influence. Nothing more, nothing less.” If you want to be a rock star, you’re going to have to learn how to lead others. Study the art of influence by focusing on your personal abilities, learning how to become a better communicator, and graciously receiving feedback from others.

10) Attitude. Perhaps the most important ability for a rock star to possess is a positive attitude. Often times, your attitude can make you or break you. If you have a resilient belief that you can make a difference and pursue that belief with a relentless passion, you can use that to drive your attitude.

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It’s often said that if you want to be remarkable, you should do something that is worth making a mark about. That requires passion, confidence, discipline, and all of the other traits listed above. Sometimes being a rock star means you’ll be widely recognized for an outstanding talent and will receive fame, power, or riches from it. Other times, it means that your service to the world will inspire others to dedicate their lives to helping others. Whatever you choose, just remember: you have the ability to be a rock star.

Continue to work on the ten areas above to stay on the path to rock-stardom.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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