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10 Steps to Be a Rock Star at Anything

10 Steps to Be a Rock Star at Anything

Rock Star. The word brings up all sorts of connotations: a performer, a celebrity, someone with drive or energy, someone who is loved. While the phrase is usually associated with music, we tend to use the term as a positive label for anyone who is remarkable, is successful, or has passionate followers.

So what does it take, and how can you be a rock star at anything?

1) Passion. Rock stars all over the world hold one thing in common: a relentless drive for the things that they are passionate about. A person who is strikingly dedicated is magnetic for those who have similar interests or pursuits.

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2) Development. Whether you have natural talent or require extra training, you will need a plan for developing your skills. You can hire a mentor or trainer, take classes, read books, and practice. As renowned entertainer Eddie Cantor said, “It takes twenty years to become an overnight success.” Learn how to stay motivated.

3) Discipline. Rock stars have a strictly-disciplined regimen, which leads to more success. This includes staying away from things that can be a distraction or negative influence on what they do. As this article states, self-discipline is the foundation of productive living.

4) Connection. Being a rock star implies that someone has some loyal fans. In other words, it takes a group of people rooting you on and supporting whatever you do. It doesn’t have to be a large audience; it can simply be a loved one or some co-workers. Either way, it’s important to accept their support, deepen those relationships, and acknowledge their contributions to your success.

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5) Consistency. If you want to be a rock star, you need to be able to perform consistently. People are looking for someone who is reliable, and that requires regular training, a history of success, and the ability to meet or exceed expectations every time.

6) Encore. Generally, the rule of thumb for any performer is to satisfy your fans but “leave them wanting more.” In other words, you don’t want to overstay your welcome in the limelight. However, if you do have a chance to extend your performance, make sure you leave a show-stopping experience for those who are watching. Whatever industry you are in — whether it is music, non-profits, or corporate sales — your job is about customer service. Make sure that anytime someone walks away, they are amazed and not bored.

7) Humility. The real rock star is gracious and still has the ability to connect. While it’s easy to get distracted by the glamorous, over-the-top lifestyles of some, it’s important to realize that those who are the most respected, appreciated, and followed are the ones who are humble, put others first, and aren’t arrogant.

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8) Confidence. It’s important to be humble but one should also be confident in their values, pursuits, and abilities. It’s easy to confuse humility with timidity. Learn the art of humble confidence. If you want others to believe in you, you’re going to have to believe in yourself first.

9) Influence. Leadership expert and author John C. Maxwell states, “Leadership is influence. Nothing more, nothing less.” If you want to be a rock star, you’re going to have to learn how to lead others. Study the art of influence by focusing on your personal abilities, learning how to become a better communicator, and graciously receiving feedback from others.

10) Attitude. Perhaps the most important ability for a rock star to possess is a positive attitude. Often times, your attitude can make you or break you. If you have a resilient belief that you can make a difference and pursue that belief with a relentless passion, you can use that to drive your attitude.

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It’s often said that if you want to be remarkable, you should do something that is worth making a mark about. That requires passion, confidence, discipline, and all of the other traits listed above. Sometimes being a rock star means you’ll be widely recognized for an outstanding talent and will receive fame, power, or riches from it. Other times, it means that your service to the world will inspire others to dedicate their lives to helping others. Whatever you choose, just remember: you have the ability to be a rock star.

Continue to work on the ten areas above to stay on the path to rock-stardom.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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