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Everyone Should Learn These 15 Management Skills To Be A Better Person

Everyone Should Learn These 15 Management Skills To Be A Better Person

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    Anyone in the professional world knows and understand the importance of a manager in business, managers bring organisation and order amongst diverse crowds, another overlooked role of management skills is how it can help in your personal life and how you engage with others.

    The list below outlines management skills (not taught in business school) that can help both your professional and private life

    1. Have great people skills

    People skills as defined by the business dictionary are “a set of skills enabling a person to get along with others, to communicate ideas effectively to achieve personal or business goals”. Most of our events around in life are centered on interacting with people. Effective leaders who get things done possess such abilities, they interact with different kinds of subordinates, from lazy ones to hardworking ones and even their least favorite person but they have mastered how to manage people for more effective results. This is a great ability to own in life as it creates a more pleasant environment not just for you but the people around you.

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      2. Increase your Emotional Quotient

      EQ, also known as emotional intelligence. Being in a leadership position, people often look up to you in the midst of crisis. Being able to empathize with others is what true leaders are made of. Emotional intelligence is being able to take others feeling into consideration yet still making rational decisions that benefits all parties involved. One such leader is Nelson Mandela. A freedom fighter who brought democracy to South Africa during the apartheid era. None of this would’ve been achieved had he not chosen to get rid of negative and toxic emotions and the anger that fed the black South Africans

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        3. Have good motivational skills

        Any manager who wishes to be better than ordinary knows that a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. Being able to motivate employees and get them as amped about the project as you are, is a rare gift. Great management is not about throwing your weight around trying to show whose boss, buts it’s about being of service. One such man is Martin Luther King Jr, an activist of the civil right movement in the USA and it all started with a dream, a dream where everyone would be treated equally despite their race and that motivated thousands to join in the movement and fight for racial equality. Moral of the story, majority of people appreciate being around those who have a positive outlook in life and that is what sets leaders apart.

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          4. Be a game changers

          Good management work well on the system, great management changes the system. It’s that word again, innovation. It’s not about being a rebel and fighting the system, but it’s about asking the why question. You don’t always have to follow the latest trends, sometimes even the little changes bring about revolutions to human civilization If that is too dramatic for you, just look at the iPad, Disney and many other greats who started with a single step.

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            5. Have a vision

            AMC broadcasts a TV series called The Walking Dead, this may need no introduction for most but for those who do not know the show, the lead character is a man named Rick Grimes, played by Andrew Lincoln. The character is fictitious but still has a skill that every great manager should possess, having a vision, communicating that vision and seeing it through to the end. The plot is centered on the Zombie apocalypse and in season 3 of the series, his team of survivors see a prison, and while the rest are content to be on their merry way, Rick convinces the team to stay, he then persuades them of ridding the prison from the zombies and after that, just like he envisaged, they were able to turn the prison into a habitable and safe haven. Whether you believe in Zombies or not, you cannot doubt that having a vision and getting your team to not only see it but believe in it being a reality is the kind of cloth true leadership is cut from

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              6. Have great public speaking skills

              Every manager is a communicator. Effective communication is crucial to those you manage to understand instructions given. More than that you should be able to speak publicly in an irreproachable manner. This point ties up with motivation, people skills and sharing visions. Speaking to big crowds to get your point across is also a good self-esteem booster, you will find yourself mentally stimulated and it forces you to become a person with valuable insights and opinions to share with others.

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                7. Listening skills

                This is most important especially for managers who deal with big teams. Listening skills may sound obvious but it’s one many lack. The ability to; hear someone, understand them, sympathize with them, be on the lookout for ideas, watch out for body language, be attentive to the tone used, wait patiently for the person speaking to finish without interrupting – no matter how valid your point-, remove all other distractions and still put the person at ease all in a matter of minutes, is indeed something worth accomplishing. When you listen you become more objective, people feel respected when they know you’ve heard them out and can give rational reasons as to why or why not. Listening also makes you appear smarter.

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                  8. Great intra-personal skills

                  Intra-personal skills is basically being self-aware. Knowing oneself, understanding self and appreciating your innermost feelings. Yes, this is all about YOU! Do you know what your shortcomings are? Do you know where your limitations are, are you aware of your strengths, do you know what angers you most, have you mastered how to control it? These are typical questions intra-personal skills answer amongst many others. When you know who you are and what you want, not only will you find it easier to understand and tolerate others but you become less judgmental of peoples flaws, this also gives you willingness to help others and their short comings

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                    9. Be decisive

                    This skill matters most in the midst of crisis where the only option is the right option. Great managers are able to make decisions quickly and effectively when the occasion calls for it Mark Zuckerberg says he wears the same outfit everyday so as to not waste time making decisions on futile matters. Your values do not have to be the same as Zuckerberg’s but the underlying principle is worth taking note. Decisiveness saves you more time than anything and it also helps with fast thinking skills, something we need every day.

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                      10.  Have conceptual skills

                      This is not just a skill required by CEO’s and executive directors. Conceptual skills as defined by education-portal.com are; the ability to think creatively and understand complicated or abstract ideas. Managers usually have to formulate ideas, plan, organize and strategize on execution. This skill helps with thinking and problem solving ability. When your mind is wired to always find solutions, you will find yourself solving even those matters that you thought were impossible to overcome. This makes your life much easier and more enjoyable.

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                        11. Be disciplined

                        The success of the Japanese economy is largely attributed to their uncanny ability to be self- disciplined. When mangers put down goals and targets that need to be accomplished, they lead by example and one such example is showing discipline. Not quitting and giving up until goals have been met. Doing what is required, when required without excuses. Discipline will help you achieve your personal goals, even something as big as starting your own business, because with discipline, whatever you put to mind you accomplish.

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                          12. Be technologically savvy

                          This dos not require you to program software or code but knowing your computer is a survival skill in the 21st century. Managers in organisations are confronted by new in-house systems or applications and even basic databases, having Intel on new technology keeps you abreast and gives you competitive advantage. There is just no excuse to not knowing simple MS office. The web is full of information and online courses bridge any digital gap.

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                            13. Learn how to delegate

                            Most people in position of authority don’t delegate out of fear that no one can do the job like they can, and that is the wrong approach to it. In fact having someone do something completely different to how you get it done is sometimes the source of innovation in the organisation. Delegation gives others the opportunity to show their strengths as well, it allows for fair game and saves you time to focus on your priority list.

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                              14. Be a team builder

                              There is nothing better than a manager who build a sense of unity in an organisation. People work better in teams and even more so, can be very productive when they feel they belong. Great managers build good team spirit and always look out for their teams. People trust you more when they believe you have their best interest at heart.

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                                15. Brush up on your skills

                                This is not just for managers but for everyone in general. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you’re done with school after a degree or writing board exam. The learning never stops. You can learn new skills as well or get the update on what’s new in your industry. The worse position to be in is irrelevant.

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                                  Becoming a better you is something worth striving for and what’s even more rewarding is not so much reaching your goals but who you become in pursuit of them.

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                                  How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

                                  How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

                                  We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

                                  When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

                                  In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

                                  Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

                                  If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

                                  According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

                                  No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

                                  When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

                                  Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

                                  1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

                                  When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

                                  Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

                                  When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

                                  Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

                                  In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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                                  It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

                                  You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

                                  Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

                                  What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

                                  You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

                                  That’s where we all should be.

                                  So, answer me this:

                                  How are you, really?

                                  And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

                                  Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

                                  Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

                                  Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

                                  Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

                                  It’s taking control.

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                                  2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

                                  You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

                                  You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

                                  In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

                                  Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

                                  You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

                                  Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

                                  But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

                                  It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

                                  In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

                                  It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

                                  Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

                                  Change will happen.

                                  Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

                                  You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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                                  And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

                                  You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

                                  That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

                                  You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

                                  When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

                                  There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

                                  3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

                                  Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

                                  In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

                                  If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

                                  Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

                                  Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

                                  How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

                                  Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

                                  “Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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                                  Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

                                  Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

                                  It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

                                  Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

                                  “If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

                                  What would you do if you felt you were enough?

                                  By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

                                  So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

                                  Final Thoughts

                                  By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

                                  Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

                                  When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

                                  You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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