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8 Amazing Traits All Introverts Have that They Probably Never Realized

8 Amazing Traits All Introverts Have that They Probably Never Realized

Introverts are people who enjoy solitude and often find themselves in quiet places that aren’t very stimulating. They also enjoy activities that require them to be alone. Introverts find that when they are by themselves they are recharging their energy whereas when they are around highly stimulating environments they are being drained. Now there has been a lot that has been said about introverts, but here are a list of quality traits that all introverts have that should leave them feeling pretty good about themselves. Reading these should help you embrace your inner introvert and harvest these wonderful traits.

1. Introverts are good judges of character

Because introverts keep to themselves, they have more time to observe the people around them and truly see what kind of people they are. Studies have shown that introverts didn’t give high ratings to their extroverted employees, which shows that introverts are more aware of any personality traits in an individual that may seem negative. Therefore, they are good judges of people’s character as they see everyone for who they really are as opposed to who they appear to be.

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2. Introverts are more creative

Studies have shown that because introverts enjoying spending so much time alone, they are able to work on their creative projects more attentively. An introverted person is able to spend time alone and work on their projects which make them more creative overall.

3. Introverts are good decision makers

Studies have shown that introverts enjoy sitting and thinking about things before they take risks. This allows them to weigh out the pros on and cons of something before they take the leap. They have the ability to ‘think before they act’ so to speak and thus have excellent decision making skills.

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4. Introverts enjoy things more

Introverts are able to savour the stimulation of their senses a lot more. Studies have shown that introverts are more sensitive to stimuli. Therefore, they are able to enjoy bites of food and whiffs of roses a lot more.

5. Introverts are independent

Because introverts enjoy working in solitude and often spend time by themselves, they learn to be pretty independent.  Studies have shown that introverts work well when they are by themselves which allows them to become more independent.  They are able to do things by themselves without depending on other people which makes them self-sufficient.

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6. Introverts take life seriously

Hans Eysenck, a German psychologist, stated that an introvert “…takes matters of every day life with proper seriousness…” Therefore introverts are able to be more meticulous with their actions in their life. They do things to make sure their life remains stable, which is a great trait to have.

7. Introverts don’t let their feelings get out of control

Because of their quiet demeanor they are able to keep their feelings under the surface. Eysenck described it as being able to “…keep his feelings under close control.” This is a good trait to have when dealing with personal situations as well as professional ones. Introverts don’t allow their feelings to complicate already complicated situations which makes them good mediators.

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8. Introverts are reliable

Despite the fact that introverts aren’t stimulated by people around them, this doesn’t mean they aren’t reliable people when other people depend on them. All the characteristics of an introvert make them reliable to people around them. They take life seriously, they control their emotions and they make good decisions which make them people that other peoplle can depend on. Eysenck also stated that an introvert “distrusts the impulse of a moment.” This is a trait that makes it easier for other people to rely on introverts. Everyone needs an introvert in their life.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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