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8 Problems You Face When You Have A Soft Heart

8 Problems You Face When You Have A Soft Heart

We live in a time when qualities like humility, sincerity and compassion have become considered as weak and useless. They say the nice guys finish last and that softhearted people are the ones who get knocked down and are often mistreated in the society. In such an unfair world it is important to observe the true essence of having softhearted people out there waiting to offer illumination to a darkened world where goodness is not so appreciated. Could this be a problem? Here are eight problems facing every softhearted person.

“Softhearted people are not fools, they know what people did to them but they forgive again and again because they have beautiful hearts.” – Anonymous

1. We will always support others

With so many selfish people in the world, the softhearted ones are the ones still willing to offer support. Although some may run to a softhearted person not only for support but to take advantage of them, the softhearted person still offers a shield to anyone who needs assistance. When you run for support to a person with a soft heart, you will never be rejected. People who are still willing to help others are who hold this world together.

2. We have a lot of strength beneath our softness

I was talking to a friend once and he admitted that the people who act hard and tough on the outside are the ones who are really afraid and soft on the inside; while the people who are considered softhearted are the ones who are really strong on the inside. Don’t you consider it endearing and courageous to continue to practice kindness, humility and sincerity in the face of being exploited or criticized for it?

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3. We carry the burden of the world

It may seem weighty and appear to make them weary, but softhearted people are not overwhelmed by the task of carrying lots of responsibility. They appreciate the burden and the treasure that was given to them to carry. No matter how the world sees it, they find this task easier than everyone will think. Philanthropy is never a burden to them.

4. We want to offer light to end the darkness

Many live behind fake masks and are not genuine. Expectations are not met and emotions are blown. However with softhearted people you find truth and loyality. A softhearted person will never blame a single person for the world’s many problems. Such wonderful people offer genuine insight to where we should go next and they help everyone through hard times.

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5. We are rare

It would be better if softhearted people were in abundance. To have only a few softhearted people seems to be a problem on the surface. But on the other hand this offers every softhearted person out there an opportunity to showcase their wonderful gifts of love, compassion and kindness.

6. We want to free the world of pain

Pain and agony is what we see everywhere, on different media. And it can be exhausting. We start to wish that it wasn’t there. But instead of only wishing for better time, you can find a softhearted person trying to make your world seemingly distant from the pain. Their positive spirit overshadows the despair and offers light, belief and hope.

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7. We are eager to lead when others retreat

The softhearted person’s enthusiasm to perform when others are naive and retreat can be animating and exceptional. It is confusing to appreciate this because people have become so familiar with injustice and deserving less. People have been so used to being abused they don’t think they should be pitied. Instead they think that they deserve whatever they get. In such times of demotivation the softhearted continue to lead while others retreat.

8. We don’t take the world too seriously

If we all took the world of pain and worries too seriously, we will lack humor and a sense of progress. Softhearted people make better choices in the society all while keeping a good humor. They make the world better, friendlier and nicer. We all need to smile through the pain sometimes and softhearted people will help you accomplish that.

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It is our hope that softhearted people are not influenced by their decisions of doing good regardless of the ills that have taken over the world.

Featured photo credit: Child is kissing a cat via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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