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8 Problems You Face When You Have A Soft Heart

8 Problems You Face When You Have A Soft Heart

We live in a time when qualities like humility, sincerity and compassion have become considered as weak and useless. They say the nice guys finish last and that softhearted people are the ones who get knocked down and are often mistreated in the society. In such an unfair world it is important to observe the true essence of having softhearted people out there waiting to offer illumination to a darkened world where goodness is not so appreciated. Could this be a problem? Here are eight problems facing every softhearted person.

“Softhearted people are not fools, they know what people did to them but they forgive again and again because they have beautiful hearts.” – Anonymous

1. We will always support others

With so many selfish people in the world, the softhearted ones are the ones still willing to offer support. Although some may run to a softhearted person not only for support but to take advantage of them, the softhearted person still offers a shield to anyone who needs assistance. When you run for support to a person with a soft heart, you will never be rejected. People who are still willing to help others are who hold this world together.

2. We have a lot of strength beneath our softness

I was talking to a friend once and he admitted that the people who act hard and tough on the outside are the ones who are really afraid and soft on the inside; while the people who are considered softhearted are the ones who are really strong on the inside. Don’t you consider it endearing and courageous to continue to practice kindness, humility and sincerity in the face of being exploited or criticized for it?

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3. We carry the burden of the world

It may seem weighty and appear to make them weary, but softhearted people are not overwhelmed by the task of carrying lots of responsibility. They appreciate the burden and the treasure that was given to them to carry. No matter how the world sees it, they find this task easier than everyone will think. Philanthropy is never a burden to them.

4. We want to offer light to end the darkness

Many live behind fake masks and are not genuine. Expectations are not met and emotions are blown. However with softhearted people you find truth and loyality. A softhearted person will never blame a single person for the world’s many problems. Such wonderful people offer genuine insight to where we should go next and they help everyone through hard times.

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5. We are rare

It would be better if softhearted people were in abundance. To have only a few softhearted people seems to be a problem on the surface. But on the other hand this offers every softhearted person out there an opportunity to showcase their wonderful gifts of love, compassion and kindness.

6. We want to free the world of pain

Pain and agony is what we see everywhere, on different media. And it can be exhausting. We start to wish that it wasn’t there. But instead of only wishing for better time, you can find a softhearted person trying to make your world seemingly distant from the pain. Their positive spirit overshadows the despair and offers light, belief and hope.

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7. We are eager to lead when others retreat

The softhearted person’s enthusiasm to perform when others are naive and retreat can be animating and exceptional. It is confusing to appreciate this because people have become so familiar with injustice and deserving less. People have been so used to being abused they don’t think they should be pitied. Instead they think that they deserve whatever they get. In such times of demotivation the softhearted continue to lead while others retreat.

8. We don’t take the world too seriously

If we all took the world of pain and worries too seriously, we will lack humor and a sense of progress. Softhearted people make better choices in the society all while keeping a good humor. They make the world better, friendlier and nicer. We all need to smile through the pain sometimes and softhearted people will help you accomplish that.

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It is our hope that softhearted people are not influenced by their decisions of doing good regardless of the ills that have taken over the world.

Featured photo credit: Child is kissing a cat via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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