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7 Ways To Find The People Who Really Get You

7 Ways To Find The People Who Really Get You

There’s nothing better than surrounding yourself with people who understand you. Whether that means listening to your innermost thoughts or knowing just what you want for Chinese takeout, it’s nice to be around those who get you. If you’re still looking for those people, don’t fret! Here are seven ways to find people who really, truly understand you.

1. Do what you want to do.

If you want to sit around and watch the ducks at the park, go do that. And hey, you never know—there might be someone there doing the same exact thing. You never know who shares you interests or hobbies, so by doing what you want, you’re sure to find others who are doing that same thing for the same reason. Common interests are also a great starting point for any kind of relationship, be that a friendship or something more. I met my best friend in college at a free cupcake table in our freshman dorm. We bonded over the fact that we were the only ones who seemed to be eating more than one cupcake. She gets me.

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2. Join a club.

If you’re having trouble finding people who are interested in the same things you’re interested in, consider joining a club. You’d be surprised how many organizations there are for just about everything you could possibly imagine. Clubs also have the added benefit of structure. This means that you’re more likely to see the same people more than once since meetings or gatherings happen on a semi-regular basis.

3. Approach people.

You’re never going to get anywhere unless you become comfortable talking to people you don’t know very well (or at all)! In order for people to get you, they have to get to know you first. Be friendly, smile, make eye contact—you know the drill. People will appreciate the extra step you took to meet them, and they’ll remember you for it.

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4. Be outgoing.

No, you don’t have to talk to everyone and be super peppy. But try to be as approachable as possible. That way, people are more likely to come talk to you. Showing your interest in others is a great first step to making long-lasting friendships.

5. Be honest.

If you’re not totally into Star Wars, don’t say that you are just to make a new friend. I actually did that once, even though it had been years since I had seen the movies. My friend found out pretty quickly, and my punishment was to watch all of the movies in twenty-four hours. Though that turned out well for me in the long run (though that 24 hour period is one giant blur of lightsabers and droid noises), it doesn’t always end up that way. Be honest and open about who you are. After all, people can’t get you if you’re not acting like yourself.

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6. Participate.

I remember doing icebreakers exercises at camps when I was a kid. I hated them because I was worried I would say something stupid. Turns out, it was stupid to not participate, because I often ended up wondering who I could eat lunch with and was coming up blank. Remember that it’s important to engage with others and the group, even if it seems scary at the time. Putting yourself out there can reap some major benefits down the road.

7. Be optimistic.

It can be really frustrating to feel like you’re not getting anywhere with making friends. However, it’s not going to help if you’re pessimistic about the situation. Try to stay positive. If you’re down, other people will pick up on that and that might deter them from approaching you. On the other hand, staying positive will show others that you’re a confident, fun person (because you are!)

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Featured photo credit: *vlad* via flickr.com

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7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

4. What are my goals in life?

Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

6. What do I not like to do?

An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

“What do I want to do with my life?”

So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

Featured photo credit: Andrew Ly via unsplash.com

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