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7 Things to Remember When Handling Rejection

7 Things to Remember When Handling Rejection

Fear of rejection can keep you from reaching your goals and dreams. It can creep into your creativity. You could have done something great, or something that could have changed your destiny. But because you don’t know how to handle your fear, you’re forced to live a mediocre life.

The good news is you don’t have to.

What if you got better at handling rejection? Wouldn’t it be great if you knew how?

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By knowing how to handle rejection, you could accomplish things you’ve always dreamed about. It isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible! Rejection is a necessity in life. It is something we should not try to avoid. Instead of fearing or avoiding it, it’s better to learn how to handle it so it won’t stop you from living your life.

1. Find out if the rejection is legit.

It might be that the person who rejected your idea didn’t exactly understand what you have to offer. Find out first where the rejection came from. If it came from a valid source, carefully study the rejection and see how you can improve.

If the rejection came from someone who isn’t credible, it might be better to shrug it off and move on. It’s important to ask for feedback from others, but you should also known when to outsource credible feedback.

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2. Don’t ignore the rejection.

Every rejection is holds room for improvement. Think about the things you can learn about this experience and how you can do better. It might help at first to ignore the rejection for awhile. That’s totally fine. But take extra care to ponder about the rejection and learn from it. Dismissing a rejection is dismissing an opportunity to learn.

3. Don’t dwell on it too much.

While it is true that you shouldn’t ignore rejection, you also don’t need to dwell on it too much. Everybody gets rejected in their lifetime. It is a part of life. Rejection simply means something better can happen. Better things couldn’t come your way, if you refuse to be rejected all the time.

Dwelling to much on rejection steals opportunities that you might have overlooked because you refused to let go. After you’ve learned from the experience, move on from it and try again. This time you can do better because you’re already armed with knowledge and experience.

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4. Start asking questions.

By asking questions, you can look at your situation from a better perspective. Rejection can be painful. Asking the right questions will not only lead you to learn new things to improve, but will also give you a sense of meaning. Ask questions like: How will I turn this rejection into an opportunity? What could have I done better? What could I have done wrong that I could do better next time around?

By answering these questions, you get to know more about yourself and your situation. You’ll know what the necessary steps you need to take.

5. Ask yourself what you can learn

Rejection is a part of the learning process. If we dismiss this idea, we dismiss a ton of learning experiences that are available at hand.

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6. Rejection isn’t always about you

Don’t take rejection personally. If someone tells you, “your idea isn’t the right fit for us,” they are rejecting the idea, not you. Take a careful look at the statement. Your idea might not be the right idea for them, but it could be the brightest idea to someone else.

Even if somebody rejects you personally, remember that there is a better place or person waiting for you. Instead of focusing on thinking about yourself as a loser, consider it a favor that you’ve lost a pebble, to make way for you to find some diamonds.

7. It’s okay to feel the pain of rejection.

Rejection is painful. It’s human nature to feel pain. Don’t ignore the feeling by denying that you’re not hurt. Instead, acknowledge the pain, learn from it, and then move on.

Rejection is a part of our lives. It’s necessary for us to thrive. Handling rejections can be tough, but every successful person has encountered quite a number of them. If you learn to accept and deal with the “No”, you’ll discover a mountain of “Yes” and opportunities.

Featured photo credit: Sweet Sorrow/Caro Wallis via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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