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6 Skills Your Parents Have That You Don’t

6 Skills Your Parents Have That You Don’t

Frustrating, isn’t it? When your parents tell you how to do things. I mean, you’re an adult, not a child. You don’t need them to tell you what to do, or how to do it.

After all, they’re a different generation and a lot has changed since they were in the prime of their lives. They didn’t grow up with the internet. Things moved at a different pace when they were young. What could they possibly know that you don’t?

Well, it turns out, there are a couple of things they’re better at than we are – Just because they’re from a different generation.

Here’s 6 skills your parents have that you don’t:

1. Patience.

Our parents required patience for many things, because the world moved more slowly. They had to wait for letters to bring news from loved ones, they had to wait to move up in the company they worked for, and they had to wait until they saved up to buy a car.

Fast food wasn’t as prevalent, so they didn’t have a fast food mentality. They knew that good things came to those who waited.

Consequently, patience is one of the skills your parents have learned during their lifetime.

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    2. Gratitude.

    Our parents did not expect to have the perfect home, or the perfect job, or the perfect lifestyle. At least, not in the beginning.

    They expected to work hard to achieve those things, and strove to make the best of what they had in the meantime.

    Rather than growing up in an environment of plenty, they grew up knowing they had to work hard for things. Knowing they had to make do.

    Consequently, they were grateful for the job they had, grateful for the home they lived in, and grateful for the life they lived.

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      3. Respect.

      Our parents grew up knowing they had to demonstrate respect for other people.

      They didn’t wait for the other person to earn that respect. They just knew everyone deserved to be treated well.

      Today, we have to work hard to earn the respect of others, and it can be an ongoing cycle. Each new manager, supervisor, or CEO requires us to prove ourselves all over again.

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      If we all just treated each other with respect automatically, we’d save a lot of time and effort trying to prove our worth.

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        4. Optimism.

        Let’s face it, our parents went through some pretty tough times. They experienced things we haven’t seen, and hopefully will never see.

        Things like the Civil Rights Movementrations, and Vietnam.

        These were times of incredible change and hardship, and yet our parents remained optimistic. They knew life would get better.

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          5. Social grace.

          Just as our parents grew up knowing to respect others, they also knew social grace.

          Social grace are the skills used to interact politely in society. They include fashion, deportment, etiquette and manners. They’re like life’s little instruction manual.

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          Men learned how to woo a woman, and women learned how to respond.

          Our parents knew they had to display manners, and behave appropriately. Social grace was valued by society, and the consequences of not displaying it would mean being cast out.

          So they practice and polished the skill of social grace.

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            6. Resourcefulness.

            Our parents had to learn to be resourceful. They had to learn how to make chocolate cake without eggs during wartime, and make do with what what available (there was far less choice, even a decade ago).

            This encouraged resourcefulness.

            If the toaster broke, they fixed it. If they needed a new outfit, they made one. If they were hungry, they cooked a meal – from scratch.

            If they didn’t know how, they asked someone who did, and they learned.

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            That’s being resourceful. And it’s a skill we’re losing because we don’t use it so much. But we should.

            If we were resourceful, we’d work out how to fix that difficult situation at work. If we were resourceful, we’d tell our kids unique stories, rather than putting them in front of the television. If we were resourceful we’d make up fabulous games, rather than relying on the latest app.

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              So there you have it, six skills your parents have that you don’t. You might not think they’re important, but they are.

              A society that is less optimistic, less respectful and less patient is less enjoyable for all of us. So make an effort to brush up on these skills.

              You’ll stand out from the crowd as someone with strong values.

              And you’ll be able to grow old gracefully, just as your parents are.

              Featured photo credit: StevePB via pixabay.com

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              Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To walk with swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.

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              1. They don’t make excuses.

              Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.

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              2. They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.

              Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.

              3. They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.

              Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.

              4. They don’t put things off until next week.

              Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.

              5. They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.

              Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.

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              6. They don’t judge people.

              Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.

              7. They don’t let lack of resources stop them.

              Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but rather focus on finding a solution.

              8. They don’t make comparisons.

              Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so unique that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.

              9. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.

              Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them.

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              10. They don’t need constant reassurance.

              Highly confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.

              11. They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.

              Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.

              12. They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.

              Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time).

              13. They don’t require anyone’s permission to act.

              Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?”

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              Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.

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              Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just because some author “said so”. They look at every how-to article from the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism, making use of any material that is relevant to their lives, and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise, highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power to decide what “confidence” means.

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