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26 Effective & Creative Ways to Communicate with Your Significant Other

26 Effective & Creative Ways to Communicate with Your Significant Other

Love is all about communication. Whether you have been together for days, months or decades, your significant other is someone to whom you express all your warm fuzzy affection and who you can be as mushy with as you’d like. You don’t need to wait for a special occasion to remind that certain someone how much they are loved. Instead of the usual texting of “I love you”, add variety to your daily communication and try one of these creative ways to express yourself.

1. Write it on steamed mirrors

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    It’s early morning and you’re taking turns to shower before running off to work. Knowing they’re next in line, surprise them with a message and it’d be a wonderful way to start their day!

    2. Write on a banana

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      When you pack them lunch, add on a banana as a healthy mid-day snack that’s high in potassium. It’s a thoughtful gesture and they will be smiling and laughing at how silly you are if you use a marker to write directly on the peel.

      If you prefer to be sneaky, use your banana as a secret message! When you use a toothpick to scratch a message on the banana peel, it does not appear visible until an hour later.

      3. Place notes on the fridge

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        There will be no excuse for not reading your message (Everybody walks to the fridge, right?) Use alphabet magnets to craft your message so you can reuse and rearrange them from time to time to add fun into your daily lives. If you do not have those, post-its will work just as well.

        4. Use a Pillow Talk

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          Maybe you are in a long-distance relationship, or you don’t Iive together just yet. Launching soon, Pillow Talk is a wearable product that lets you send your heartbeat to your loved one, and by putting the speaker in the pillow you are able to hear theirs too – therefore providing the illusion of closeness no matter where you may be.

          5. Dedicate them a song

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            Very old-school but nevertheless always a romantic thing to do. Is there a song that describes your relationship well? Dedicate that song with a heartfelt message on the radio and telling them when to listen. Make sure you know their schedule at that time so they don’t miss the perfect timing!

            6. Start a love diary

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              Make it a project to take turns to fill it up with pictures of the most memorable moments, write short letters for each other, share secrets so you have nothing to hide, create love lists of about you like about them and share everything that is on your mind. You can also keep a box of memorabilia of things that are special in your relationship, such as movie ticket stubs

              7. Install LoveByte – an app for couples

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                If writing in a physical diary is too troublesome, let technology make things easier for you. Search for couple apps and share with your significant other in a private space that you can call your own. It’s like a shared treasure chest of all your memories so revisiting the best times of your relationship is accessible and instantaneous.

                8. Read together Gary Chapman’s “Five Love Languages” book

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                  Find out what makes each other tick and how we express and receive love in different forms. It’s one of the best ways to build understanding between the two of you.

                  9. Invent your own secret code

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                    Come up with some signs that only the two of you understand so you can slip it in your conversations without anyone knowing! Like in 50 Shades of Grey, there’s “red” and “yellow”. You can make it as sexy or ridiculous as you want, as long as you are having fun.

                    10. Buy a pair of tickets to their favourite show/concert

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                      Is their favourite band coming to town? You know they want to see it but can’t bear to pay for the expensive tickets? Pamper them by getting them a ticket. If you can, accompany them to watch it (even if you don’t really want to!) to let them know you take interest in what they like and enjoy. Sometimes love is best communicated by your actions, not your words.

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                      11. Make your own scratchcards

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                        Don’t worry about not having handcrafting skills. There are tutorials to follow to make your own scratchcards where you can write in your own message, cover it up with paint and let the recipient scratch to unveil the message. Try typing in Google keywords like “DIY scratchcards” and you’re good to go. All you need are some cards, dish soap, silver acrylic paint, clear tape and a small container.

                        12. Make a heart-shaped meal

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                          Prepare their favourite meal and display it a heart shape. (Whether or not the food tastes great, that’s a separate story!) You can prepare almost any food shaped into a heart: cut out toast, pizza, cookies; as long as you have a heart-shaped cutter. You can even use them on your fruits.

                          13. Slip a surprise note into their bag

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                            Write a sweet message on a post-it note. It can be something as simple as “Have a great day!” or an appreciation note to thank them of their presence in your life. Place more notes in random places where they will find it – in their dresser, fridge, in their car, bathroom mirror. It’d be something they come across later and you will keep them wondering when you managed to sneak it in without them knowing.

                            14. Embark on a ’30 Day Relationship Challenge’ together

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                              Is it true that it takes 21 days to form a habit? Spice up your everyday interaction by committing to doing an activity daily together. It can be as simple as doing house chores together, giving each other a massage, or looking at old pictures. To make the challenge even more meaningful, brainstorm together to make your own list or search the net for some ideas.

                              15. Scavenger Hunt

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                                On some coloured paper place clues and hints, and hide them all around the house. Ask your partner to solve the questions. You can ask some questions to remind them of special days in the relationship (e.g. when you had your first date). Get them thinking about the good times and how you both felt in the beginning.

                                16. Couple Quiz

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                                  Pick up a book of questions and fire them at each other. You can choose any topic or keep it to relationship questions. You will learn from the answers and discover each other’s preferences, attitudes, perspectives and desires – some of which you may not even have known about yourself! This is a fun way to get to know each other and bring you closer as a couple.

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                                  17. Make them a wallet card

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                                    Write a heartwarming message that is loving and motivational to your partner so they can always see it whenever they open their wallet. It is something they carry along with them all the time so it serves as a great reminder.

                                    18. Surprise them with flowers

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                                      Perhaps your partner has been getting stressed at work, or you know they are going through a tough week. Have a lovely bouquet delivered to their workplace – even though there’s no special occasion or celebration – when they are least expecting it. Just because you want to see a smile on their face (Aww!) Plus it’s cheaper than getting them on peak periods like Valentine’s Day. Be sure to add a personal, encouraging message to add a special touch!

                                      19. Make short videos

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                                        In case you were thinking dirty… No, that’s not what we meant. Make recordings of simple daily happenings, or talk about something you recall. Over time you will have built a record you can fondly look back at together and see how much you’ve both grown.

                                        20. Quiet places for heart-to-heart talk

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                                          Visit new, quiet places where you can be away from the crowd and just sit down, hold hands and have a good heart-to-heart talk. Sit on a park bench or lie down to watch the night sky. Make it a point to travel even if it’s a little out of the way. Soaking together in a bathtub is considered a pretty unconventional place for a good, relaxing chat.

                                          21. Make love vows

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                                            Spend a good evening and write down some promises of love to each other. Hang it up on the wall and be constantly reminded of the commitment you’ve promised each other – put down on pen and paper.

                                            22. Make a bookmark

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                                              If your significant other is a bookworm, it would be nice to print out nice images and paste a love quote on top of it. Get it laminated and put it in to a book they are reading.

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                                              23. Mail them a handwritten letter

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                                                Because nobody takes the time to write to each other any more. The love letter is a classic way to show them how you feel. Express your gratitude and thank them for the little things they do for you. It’s something that they can keep for a long time and they will always feel good reading it again and again. Sit down and take the time to put in your best effort to write something down on pen and paper.

                                                24. Lipstick on the mirror

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                                                  Use lipstick to write a romantic message on the mirror. It’s a cheeky way to leave a short message (If you are worried about the stain, liquid dish soap and hot water will do the trick!)

                                                  25. Get your dog to fetch it

                                                    If you are lucky enough to have a dog who will learn special tricks, train your dog to bring a letter in its mouth to your partner.

                                                    25. Candy Hearts

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                                                      Printed with cute messages like “Kiss Me” and “XOXO”, these ‘conversation heart’ candies make great gifts to send a message. If you want your message to be more special you can even have them custom made, so that it will be one of a kind.

                                                      Featured photo credit: Wokanda via pixabay.com

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                                                      Last Updated on April 23, 2019

                                                      13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                                      13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                                      Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

                                                      Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

                                                      My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

                                                      To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

                                                      You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

                                                      Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

                                                      “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

                                                      “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

                                                      “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

                                                      “I don’t deserve happiness”

                                                      EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

                                                      Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

                                                      Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

                                                      This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.

                                                      If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:

                                                      1. Happy People Put Happiness First

                                                      Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

                                                      Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

                                                      To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

                                                      The happy person asks,

                                                      “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

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                                                      “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

                                                      They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

                                                      If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

                                                      Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

                                                      If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

                                                      2. Happy People Embrace Pain

                                                      I know what you are thinking –

                                                      “No one is ALWAYS happy”

                                                      or …

                                                      “Even happy people get in bad moods”

                                                      and …

                                                      These statements are absolutely accurate.

                                                      Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

                                                      Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

                                                      Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

                                                      Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

                                                      When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

                                                      3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

                                                      We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

                                                      The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

                                                      How are you currently defining yourself?

                                                      For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

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                                                      When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.

                                                      When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

                                                      Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

                                                      Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

                                                      If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

                                                      4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

                                                      The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

                                                      Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

                                                      Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

                                                      They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

                                                      5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

                                                      Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

                                                      However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

                                                      We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

                                                      If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

                                                      What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

                                                      Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

                                                      They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

                                                      What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

                                                      These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.

                                                      6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

                                                      Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

                                                      Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

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                                                      Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

                                                      A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

                                                      A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

                                                      7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

                                                      Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

                                                      Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

                                                      We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

                                                      In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

                                                      8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

                                                      What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

                                                      What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

                                                      Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

                                                      When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

                                                      9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

                                                      Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

                                                      It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

                                                      Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

                                                      Negativity is NOT normal.

                                                      The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

                                                      Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

                                                      In addition to happiness, here are 14 amazing things that happen when you live your passion.

                                                      10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

                                                      The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

                                                      They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

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                                                      The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

                                                      Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

                                                      If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

                                                      11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

                                                      Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

                                                      Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

                                                      It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

                                                      Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

                                                      12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

                                                      Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

                                                      It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

                                                      Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

                                                      13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.

                                                      When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

                                                      Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

                                                      Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

                                                      In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

                                                      If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

                                                      I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

                                                      It starts with one decision – happiness.

                                                      The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

                                                      Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

                                                      Reference

                                                      [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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