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20 Words That Are Now Defined Differently Because You Are Older

20 Words That Are Now Defined Differently Because You Are Older

We have words that are defined differently now that we are older. The fact is that life was simpler when we were younger. Our perspective in life was narrow and the necessities we needed to live were a lot less. We defined things in a minimalistic manner. There was no gray area. As we got older our views on life have expanded.
Every year we add new words to the dictionary. We do so to accommodate our ever changing perception of the world.  We now have events and circumstances that did not exist just five years ago. But they are here now and therefore worthy of being named. A news release that announces newly added words is great but what about words that now have a different meaning? Where is the announcement to make sure we are up to date with the meaning of a specific word? This would definitely help the 35 and older demographic.
Here is a sampling or words that has changed as father-time passes us by.

1. Automobile

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    The automobile has been a right of passage in our society. We all look fondly at our first time (legally) behind the wheel and mark that point as our crossing from being a child to being an adult. As we cross that threshold the definition of the automobile changes.
    BEFORE: Freedom to go anywhere and at anytime. Being alone in the car is our first taste of solitude.
    AFTER: Escort for our spouse, friends, and children to their various activities. Never alone in the car.

    2. Family

    As a child we all remember that one family member that we could not stand. They would always irritate us, embarrass us, maybe even pick on us. A funny thing has happened; that person is now your closest confidant and you look back at those childhood memories with a smile and great fondness. “Do you remember when…” is a phrase that is always used when the two of you get together.
    BEFORE: “Get away from me!”
    AFTER: “Lets do something this weekend. Give me a call.”

    3. Weekend

    The weekend was made as a time for us to relax and get our battery charged again. The definition on how we relax has changed as we get older.

    BEFORE: Have fun catching up with friends and staying up as long as you can.

    AFTER: Have fun catching up on sleep and trying to sleep as early as possible at night.

    4. Apple

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      Believe it or not there was a time when Apple was not the standard that all companies strive to emulate. It is well documented how bad and how close the company was to closing up shop. Today, Apple is the standard bearer and model for every company out there regardless of its industry.

      BEFORE: Michael Dell when asked what would he do if he was running Apple, said: “What would I do?  I’d shut it down and give the money back to the shareholder.”

      AFTER: A recent story from ABC news says that “Apple’s stock hit a new high of $102.78 in Thursday morning’s trading before falling back to close at $102.25, up 12 cents for the session. The shares have risen 25 percent in 2014.”

      5. Vitamins

      The pill that was always supposed to make up for our lack of eating the right foods. We were all forced to take this pill as a child. Now, we take it willingly hoping that it will slow down the forces of mother nature.

      BEFORE: Flintstone Vitamins

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      AFTER: One A Day vitamins

      6. Cell-Phone

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        Today’s modern cell phone can be called the swiss army knife of the electronics world. Subtract everything that a smart phone can do with the exception of making a phone call, sending a text message (20 characters or less), and playing games (actually one game…SNAKE) and you have a phone from the 1990’s.

        BEFORE: Nokia 5110

        AFTER: Iphone 6

        7. Mom

        A bond between a mother and her child is a life long connection. It was enduring as a child, irritating as a teenager and young adult, whileit is searched for as an adult.

        BEFORE: “Leave me alone, Mom!”

        AFTER: “Mom…I need your advice.”

        8. Friends

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          As a child, our definition of the word was limited to people that have actually seen us and know our real name. Social Media has completely redefined this word.

          BEFORE: The five kids that lived around the block from us.

          AFTER: The 5,000 followers we have on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine, Etc.

          9. Trouble

          The authority figure we had growing up (parents, teachers, etc.) have now been replaced by society.

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          BEFORE: “Please don’t call my parents.”

          AFTER: “Please don’t call the cops.”

          10. Directions

          During our parents time on the road, the way to navigate the streets was with a fold-up map. The internet made our travels a little easier.  Smart phones have now allowed even a 5 year old the opportunity to walk to grandma’s house.

          BEFORE: MapQuest (Still have to read directions)

          AFTER: Google maps (Turn by turn directions)

          11. Social Network

          One may argue that the large quantity of friends we have received from social media is the greatest thing the interest has given us. The outlet on how we accumulated those “friends” have changed as the years go by.

          BEFORE: Myspace

          AFTER: Facebook

          12. Expectation

          Expectation is going to change as we get older. The receiver is now the provider and the followers are now the leaders. This is the natural progression of our society

          BEFORE: You are expected to finish school.

          AFTER: You are expected to pay the bills.

          13. Collecting Videos

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            Movies serve as a time capsule for our life. Recall any old movie and you can also recall the age you were, what you were doing, and what you were going through at the time. This is the reason why we collect movies. The definition of movies haven’t change. The media on what we collect has changed.

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            BEFORE: DVD’s

            AFTER: AppleTV

            14. Complaining

            The beautiful thing about our society is that we have a voice. One of the powerful tools we have to voice our displeasure is to be vocal about our experience. Because of technology, the way we complain has changed and we can now reach more people to voice our opinions.

            BEFORE: “Let me talk to you manager.”

            AFTER: Let me complain on Yelp, Twitter, Trip Advisor, Angie’s List, etc.

            15. Movies

            Watching movies is an event that has been ruined by technology. Remember the times when going to the movies was exciting? Plans had to be made well in advance, transportation had to be secured, funds had to be ready. For better or worse we can now watch any movie at any time. Please be respectful of all intellectual property.

            BEFORE: “Let’s go to the movie theater to watch Hercules.”

            AFTER: “Lets get online and find a bootleg of Hercules.”

            16. Recording

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              The days when you would stand beside a radio, finger trembling, waiting for the start of your favorite song and praying that you press record after the DJ stops talking are long gone? Finding our favorite song is a lot easier now.

              BEFORE: Recording on a tape cassette.

              AFTER: Going on iTunes and buying the song. Some people just search google for a copy.

              17. Invitation

              Handing an invitation to someone for an event was as stressful as waiting at the DMV for your drivers license (See number 1). What if they say no? What if you cannot find them? Invitations were a buzzkill. Today, invitations are the least stressful task of any event.

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              BEFORE: Personally give a hard copy of the invitation.

              AFTER: Send an Evite, or set up an RSVP on social media like Facebook.

              18. Vacations

              Vacations are a time to spend with family and friends. Adults love them, kids look forward to them, teenagers despise them. Our age and stage in life determines how we define this word.

              BEFORE: “I don’t want to go. I dont want to stay with the family. I have a life. I miss my friends.”

              AFTER: “Where are the kids? Did we bring all the bags? You are going and you are going to have fun. Watch your brothers and sisters while we go out for awhile.”

              19. Saturday

              The definition of Saturday was to wake up early, watch TV, relax, and just do nothing! At least that used to be the definition. Saturday has turned out to be more hectic that monday.

              BEFORE: Saturday morning cartoons. Fun and relaxation.

              AFTER: Trying to sleep in but being awoken by your kids watching TV. Making them breakfast and getting them ready for baseball (football, gymnastics, soccer, ballet, etc.) and hoping you don’t forget anything as you rush out of the door.

              20. Blogging

              The beautiful thing about our society is that we have a voice (see number 14). The internet has allowed everyone and anyone to be a blogger. Blogging used to be done by people who were wannabe writers. Bloggers are now well respected writers with a captive audience.

              BEFORE: Only geeks and nerds blog.

              AFTER: Smart people blog and the readers have a great source of intellectual opinions. Also a great way to make money.

              We look back at our younger years and laugh at all the changes we have seen now that we are older. It is only a matter of time until our kids experience this as well.

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              How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

              How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

              They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

              In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

              How to Spot Fake People?

              When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

              Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

              1. Full of Themselves

              Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

              Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

              2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

              Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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              It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

              3. Zero Self-Reflection

              To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

              Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

              4. Unrealistic Perceptions

              Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

              A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

              5. Love Attention

              As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

              6. People Pleaser

              Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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              Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

              7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

              Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

              8. Crappy friend

              Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

              It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

              The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

              How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

              It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

              There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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              1. Boundaries

              Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

              2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

              Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

              3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

              If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

              4. Ask for Advice

              If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

              Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

              5. Dig Deeper

              Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

              Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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              6. Practice Self-Care!

              Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

              Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

              Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

              Final Thoughts

              Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

              We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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