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20 Words That Are Now Defined Differently Because You Are Older

20 Words That Are Now Defined Differently Because You Are Older

We have words that are defined differently now that we are older. The fact is that life was simpler when we were younger. Our perspective in life was narrow and the necessities we needed to live were a lot less. We defined things in a minimalistic manner. There was no gray area. As we got older our views on life have expanded.
Every year we add new words to the dictionary. We do so to accommodate our ever changing perception of the world.  We now have events and circumstances that did not exist just five years ago. But they are here now and therefore worthy of being named. A news release that announces newly added words is great but what about words that now have a different meaning? Where is the announcement to make sure we are up to date with the meaning of a specific word? This would definitely help the 35 and older demographic.
Here is a sampling or words that has changed as father-time passes us by.

1. Automobile

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    The automobile has been a right of passage in our society. We all look fondly at our first time (legally) behind the wheel and mark that point as our crossing from being a child to being an adult. As we cross that threshold the definition of the automobile changes.
    BEFORE: Freedom to go anywhere and at anytime. Being alone in the car is our first taste of solitude.
    AFTER: Escort for our spouse, friends, and children to their various activities. Never alone in the car.

    2. Family

    As a child we all remember that one family member that we could not stand. They would always irritate us, embarrass us, maybe even pick on us. A funny thing has happened; that person is now your closest confidant and you look back at those childhood memories with a smile and great fondness. “Do you remember when…” is a phrase that is always used when the two of you get together.
    BEFORE: “Get away from me!”
    AFTER: “Lets do something this weekend. Give me a call.”

    3. Weekend

    The weekend was made as a time for us to relax and get our battery charged again. The definition on how we relax has changed as we get older.

    BEFORE: Have fun catching up with friends and staying up as long as you can.

    AFTER: Have fun catching up on sleep and trying to sleep as early as possible at night.

    4. Apple

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      Believe it or not there was a time when Apple was not the standard that all companies strive to emulate. It is well documented how bad and how close the company was to closing up shop. Today, Apple is the standard bearer and model for every company out there regardless of its industry.

      BEFORE: Michael Dell when asked what would he do if he was running Apple, said: “What would I do?  I’d shut it down and give the money back to the shareholder.”

      AFTER: A recent story from ABC news says that “Apple’s stock hit a new high of $102.78 in Thursday morning’s trading before falling back to close at $102.25, up 12 cents for the session. The shares have risen 25 percent in 2014.”

      5. Vitamins

      The pill that was always supposed to make up for our lack of eating the right foods. We were all forced to take this pill as a child. Now, we take it willingly hoping that it will slow down the forces of mother nature.

      BEFORE: Flintstone Vitamins

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      AFTER: One A Day vitamins

      6. Cell-Phone

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        Today’s modern cell phone can be called the swiss army knife of the electronics world. Subtract everything that a smart phone can do with the exception of making a phone call, sending a text message (20 characters or less), and playing games (actually one game…SNAKE) and you have a phone from the 1990’s.

        BEFORE: Nokia 5110

        AFTER: Iphone 6

        7. Mom

        A bond between a mother and her child is a life long connection. It was enduring as a child, irritating as a teenager and young adult, whileit is searched for as an adult.

        BEFORE: “Leave me alone, Mom!”

        AFTER: “Mom…I need your advice.”

        8. Friends

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          As a child, our definition of the word was limited to people that have actually seen us and know our real name. Social Media has completely redefined this word.

          BEFORE: The five kids that lived around the block from us.

          AFTER: The 5,000 followers we have on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine, Etc.

          9. Trouble

          The authority figure we had growing up (parents, teachers, etc.) have now been replaced by society.

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          BEFORE: “Please don’t call my parents.”

          AFTER: “Please don’t call the cops.”

          10. Directions

          During our parents time on the road, the way to navigate the streets was with a fold-up map. The internet made our travels a little easier.  Smart phones have now allowed even a 5 year old the opportunity to walk to grandma’s house.

          BEFORE: MapQuest (Still have to read directions)

          AFTER: Google maps (Turn by turn directions)

          11. Social Network

          One may argue that the large quantity of friends we have received from social media is the greatest thing the interest has given us. The outlet on how we accumulated those “friends” have changed as the years go by.

          BEFORE: Myspace

          AFTER: Facebook

          12. Expectation

          Expectation is going to change as we get older. The receiver is now the provider and the followers are now the leaders. This is the natural progression of our society

          BEFORE: You are expected to finish school.

          AFTER: You are expected to pay the bills.

          13. Collecting Videos

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            Movies serve as a time capsule for our life. Recall any old movie and you can also recall the age you were, what you were doing, and what you were going through at the time. This is the reason why we collect movies. The definition of movies haven’t change. The media on what we collect has changed.

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            BEFORE: DVD’s

            AFTER: AppleTV

            14. Complaining

            The beautiful thing about our society is that we have a voice. One of the powerful tools we have to voice our displeasure is to be vocal about our experience. Because of technology, the way we complain has changed and we can now reach more people to voice our opinions.

            BEFORE: “Let me talk to you manager.”

            AFTER: Let me complain on Yelp, Twitter, Trip Advisor, Angie’s List, etc.

            15. Movies

            Watching movies is an event that has been ruined by technology. Remember the times when going to the movies was exciting? Plans had to be made well in advance, transportation had to be secured, funds had to be ready. For better or worse we can now watch any movie at any time. Please be respectful of all intellectual property.

            BEFORE: “Let’s go to the movie theater to watch Hercules.”

            AFTER: “Lets get online and find a bootleg of Hercules.”

            16. Recording

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              The days when you would stand beside a radio, finger trembling, waiting for the start of your favorite song and praying that you press record after the DJ stops talking are long gone? Finding our favorite song is a lot easier now.

              BEFORE: Recording on a tape cassette.

              AFTER: Going on iTunes and buying the song. Some people just search google for a copy.

              17. Invitation

              Handing an invitation to someone for an event was as stressful as waiting at the DMV for your drivers license (See number 1). What if they say no? What if you cannot find them? Invitations were a buzzkill. Today, invitations are the least stressful task of any event.

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              BEFORE: Personally give a hard copy of the invitation.

              AFTER: Send an Evite, or set up an RSVP on social media like Facebook.

              18. Vacations

              Vacations are a time to spend with family and friends. Adults love them, kids look forward to them, teenagers despise them. Our age and stage in life determines how we define this word.

              BEFORE: “I don’t want to go. I dont want to stay with the family. I have a life. I miss my friends.”

              AFTER: “Where are the kids? Did we bring all the bags? You are going and you are going to have fun. Watch your brothers and sisters while we go out for awhile.”

              19. Saturday

              The definition of Saturday was to wake up early, watch TV, relax, and just do nothing! At least that used to be the definition. Saturday has turned out to be more hectic that monday.

              BEFORE: Saturday morning cartoons. Fun and relaxation.

              AFTER: Trying to sleep in but being awoken by your kids watching TV. Making them breakfast and getting them ready for baseball (football, gymnastics, soccer, ballet, etc.) and hoping you don’t forget anything as you rush out of the door.

              20. Blogging

              The beautiful thing about our society is that we have a voice (see number 14). The internet has allowed everyone and anyone to be a blogger. Blogging used to be done by people who were wannabe writers. Bloggers are now well respected writers with a captive audience.

              BEFORE: Only geeks and nerds blog.

              AFTER: Smart people blog and the readers have a great source of intellectual opinions. Also a great way to make money.

              We look back at our younger years and laugh at all the changes we have seen now that we are older. It is only a matter of time until our kids experience this as well.

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              The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

              The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

              In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

              Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

              Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

              Conflicts are literally everywhere.

              Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

              Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

              Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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              Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

              Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

              Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

              The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

              Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

              Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

              How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

              Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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              Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

              Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

              How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

              Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

              Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

              Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

              How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

              Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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              Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

              Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

              How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

              Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

              Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

              Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

              How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

              Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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              Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

              Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

              How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

              Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

              Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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