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20 Words That Are Now Defined Differently Because You Are Older

20 Words That Are Now Defined Differently Because You Are Older

We have words that are defined differently now that we are older. The fact is that life was simpler when we were younger. Our perspective in life was narrow and the necessities we needed to live were a lot less. We defined things in a minimalistic manner. There was no gray area. As we got older our views on life have expanded.
Every year we add new words to the dictionary. We do so to accommodate our ever changing perception of the world.  We now have events and circumstances that did not exist just five years ago. But they are here now and therefore worthy of being named. A news release that announces newly added words is great but what about words that now have a different meaning? Where is the announcement to make sure we are up to date with the meaning of a specific word? This would definitely help the 35 and older demographic.
Here is a sampling or words that has changed as father-time passes us by.

1. Automobile

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    The automobile has been a right of passage in our society. We all look fondly at our first time (legally) behind the wheel and mark that point as our crossing from being a child to being an adult. As we cross that threshold the definition of the automobile changes.
    BEFORE: Freedom to go anywhere and at anytime. Being alone in the car is our first taste of solitude.
    AFTER: Escort for our spouse, friends, and children to their various activities. Never alone in the car.

    2. Family

    As a child we all remember that one family member that we could not stand. They would always irritate us, embarrass us, maybe even pick on us. A funny thing has happened; that person is now your closest confidant and you look back at those childhood memories with a smile and great fondness. “Do you remember when…” is a phrase that is always used when the two of you get together.
    BEFORE: “Get away from me!”
    AFTER: “Lets do something this weekend. Give me a call.”

    3. Weekend

    The weekend was made as a time for us to relax and get our battery charged again. The definition on how we relax has changed as we get older.

    BEFORE: Have fun catching up with friends and staying up as long as you can.

    AFTER: Have fun catching up on sleep and trying to sleep as early as possible at night.

    4. Apple

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      Believe it or not there was a time when Apple was not the standard that all companies strive to emulate. It is well documented how bad and how close the company was to closing up shop. Today, Apple is the standard bearer and model for every company out there regardless of its industry.

      BEFORE: Michael Dell when asked what would he do if he was running Apple, said: “What would I do?  I’d shut it down and give the money back to the shareholder.”

      AFTER: A recent story from ABC news says that “Apple’s stock hit a new high of $102.78 in Thursday morning’s trading before falling back to close at $102.25, up 12 cents for the session. The shares have risen 25 percent in 2014.”

      5. Vitamins

      The pill that was always supposed to make up for our lack of eating the right foods. We were all forced to take this pill as a child. Now, we take it willingly hoping that it will slow down the forces of mother nature.

      BEFORE: Flintstone Vitamins

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      AFTER: One A Day vitamins

      6. Cell-Phone

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        Today’s modern cell phone can be called the swiss army knife of the electronics world. Subtract everything that a smart phone can do with the exception of making a phone call, sending a text message (20 characters or less), and playing games (actually one game…SNAKE) and you have a phone from the 1990’s.

        BEFORE: Nokia 5110

        AFTER: Iphone 6

        7. Mom

        A bond between a mother and her child is a life long connection. It was enduring as a child, irritating as a teenager and young adult, whileit is searched for as an adult.

        BEFORE: “Leave me alone, Mom!”

        AFTER: “Mom…I need your advice.”

        8. Friends

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          As a child, our definition of the word was limited to people that have actually seen us and know our real name. Social Media has completely redefined this word.

          BEFORE: The five kids that lived around the block from us.

          AFTER: The 5,000 followers we have on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine, Etc.

          9. Trouble

          The authority figure we had growing up (parents, teachers, etc.) have now been replaced by society.

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          BEFORE: “Please don’t call my parents.”

          AFTER: “Please don’t call the cops.”

          10. Directions

          During our parents time on the road, the way to navigate the streets was with a fold-up map. The internet made our travels a little easier.  Smart phones have now allowed even a 5 year old the opportunity to walk to grandma’s house.

          BEFORE: MapQuest (Still have to read directions)

          AFTER: Google maps (Turn by turn directions)

          11. Social Network

          One may argue that the large quantity of friends we have received from social media is the greatest thing the interest has given us. The outlet on how we accumulated those “friends” have changed as the years go by.

          BEFORE: Myspace

          AFTER: Facebook

          12. Expectation

          Expectation is going to change as we get older. The receiver is now the provider and the followers are now the leaders. This is the natural progression of our society

          BEFORE: You are expected to finish school.

          AFTER: You are expected to pay the bills.

          13. Collecting Videos

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            Movies serve as a time capsule for our life. Recall any old movie and you can also recall the age you were, what you were doing, and what you were going through at the time. This is the reason why we collect movies. The definition of movies haven’t change. The media on what we collect has changed.

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            BEFORE: DVD’s

            AFTER: AppleTV

            14. Complaining

            The beautiful thing about our society is that we have a voice. One of the powerful tools we have to voice our displeasure is to be vocal about our experience. Because of technology, the way we complain has changed and we can now reach more people to voice our opinions.

            BEFORE: “Let me talk to you manager.”

            AFTER: Let me complain on Yelp, Twitter, Trip Advisor, Angie’s List, etc.

            15. Movies

            Watching movies is an event that has been ruined by technology. Remember the times when going to the movies was exciting? Plans had to be made well in advance, transportation had to be secured, funds had to be ready. For better or worse we can now watch any movie at any time. Please be respectful of all intellectual property.

            BEFORE: “Let’s go to the movie theater to watch Hercules.”

            AFTER: “Lets get online and find a bootleg of Hercules.”

            16. Recording

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              The days when you would stand beside a radio, finger trembling, waiting for the start of your favorite song and praying that you press record after the DJ stops talking are long gone? Finding our favorite song is a lot easier now.

              BEFORE: Recording on a tape cassette.

              AFTER: Going on iTunes and buying the song. Some people just search google for a copy.

              17. Invitation

              Handing an invitation to someone for an event was as stressful as waiting at the DMV for your drivers license (See number 1). What if they say no? What if you cannot find them? Invitations were a buzzkill. Today, invitations are the least stressful task of any event.

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              BEFORE: Personally give a hard copy of the invitation.

              AFTER: Send an Evite, or set up an RSVP on social media like Facebook.

              18. Vacations

              Vacations are a time to spend with family and friends. Adults love them, kids look forward to them, teenagers despise them. Our age and stage in life determines how we define this word.

              BEFORE: “I don’t want to go. I dont want to stay with the family. I have a life. I miss my friends.”

              AFTER: “Where are the kids? Did we bring all the bags? You are going and you are going to have fun. Watch your brothers and sisters while we go out for awhile.”

              19. Saturday

              The definition of Saturday was to wake up early, watch TV, relax, and just do nothing! At least that used to be the definition. Saturday has turned out to be more hectic that monday.

              BEFORE: Saturday morning cartoons. Fun and relaxation.

              AFTER: Trying to sleep in but being awoken by your kids watching TV. Making them breakfast and getting them ready for baseball (football, gymnastics, soccer, ballet, etc.) and hoping you don’t forget anything as you rush out of the door.

              20. Blogging

              The beautiful thing about our society is that we have a voice (see number 14). The internet has allowed everyone and anyone to be a blogger. Blogging used to be done by people who were wannabe writers. Bloggers are now well respected writers with a captive audience.

              BEFORE: Only geeks and nerds blog.

              AFTER: Smart people blog and the readers have a great source of intellectual opinions. Also a great way to make money.

              We look back at our younger years and laugh at all the changes we have seen now that we are older. It is only a matter of time until our kids experience this as well.

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              What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

              What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

              Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

              You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

              This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

              What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

              According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

              Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

              There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

              How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

              When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

              Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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              1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

              One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

              The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

              Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

              2. Be Honest

              A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

              If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

              On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

              Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

              3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

              Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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              If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

              4. Succeed at Something

              When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

              Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

              5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

              Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

              Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

              If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

              If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

              Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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              6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

              Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

              You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

              On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

              You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

              7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

              Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

              Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

              Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

              When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

              Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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              In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

              Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

              It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

              Final Thoughts

              When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

              The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

              Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

              Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

              Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

              More Tips for Improving Your Self-Esteem

              Featured photo credit: Cata via unsplash.com

              Reference

              [1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
              [2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
              [3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
              [4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
              [5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
              [6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
              [7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
              [8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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