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20 Self-Help Books To Better Your Life In All Aspects

20 Self-Help Books To Better Your Life In All Aspects

Books hold the key to knowledge figured out by those that have already gotten something – they solved a problem, fixed a relationship, or figured “it” out. They then dispelled it into an easily digestible, obtainable format for anyone who is interested.

Books can be life changing, and in the field of self-improvement and self-help, there is no shortage of amazing books that can help you become a better, stronger, and happier person.

Here is a list of 20 self-help books organized in categories, that have affected my life and the lives of thousand of people in an extremely positive manner:

Dating, Relationships, and Dealing with People

1. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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    A book that delivers on its promise. The classic was originally published in 1936 and has been re-printed and re-formatted again and again throughout the years. It contains simple steps to improve your social skills and relationships, illustrated by Carnegie’s examples in his own life and the lifes of those he knew. Just with the single shred of advice that a person’s favourite word is their own name, you can begin to make waves.

    2. When I Say No I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith

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      Many people have issues with boundaries: standing up for themselves, saying “No”, and defending their beliefs. Or, they become codependent on others – they make others’ issues and emotions their responsibility. Smith teaches how to properly establish boundaries using applicable techniques, so that you can open your boundaries to those that are safe and deserve your energy, and keep them tightly closed for those who try to mess with your life.

      3. Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

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        A game changer. In society today, we discuss our deeper issues less, and the weather more. Nobody wants to connect. Nobody wants to admit that they have flaws that are actually strengths. Daring Greatly presses the message that those who dig deeper, are open about their issues, stick their neck out at business meetings with their own opinions… These people take the most risks, yet gain the most respect from others and rewards. To succeed in life, we must be vulnerable and take chances – in work, dating, and otherwise.

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        4. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

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          Most think love between two people is a simple exchange of words and keeps on going with no work. Wrong. It takes a lot of hard, strategic work that is not the same for each person. After the “honeymoon” or novelty period of a relationship wears off, this book gives you the framework to keep your partnership strong. Your partner may feel love by receiving gifts, while you like hearing nice things that your partner likes about you (words of praise). But understanding that everyone feels love and affection differently will help you build stronger relationships all around you.

          Spirituality

          5. The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle

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            The book that started a phenomenon long withstanding – Be Present. The book is a bit repetitive with the same general message, but gives examples in the context of how one acts during the day and in relationships with others. If nothing else, this book should convince you of the fact that you are not your mind, and that you do not have to believe all of your thoughts (by acting as an observer): Regret lies in the past, anxiety lies in the future, peace is in the now.

            6. A Guide To To The Good Life by William B. Irvine

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              Irvine presents the classic philosophy of Stoicism born anew in modern times with wonderfully explained practical habits and tools to improve one’s quality of life. For example, periodically imagining we don’t have something we love to remind us of how fortunate we are to actually have it. The information is presented well, and from personal experience, I can definitely say it has helped me become happier and more tranquil.

              Business

              7. The 4-Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss

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                The phenomenon that made everyone want to quit their 9-5 jobs and work online. You will either love and devour this book, or hate it and all Ferriss stands for. Ferriss tries to get you to realize that your time is limited, and sitting in an office may not be the best way to get the life you want. He provides tools for anything you could ever ask for – from hiring virtual assistants, to e-mail templates for auto-responses. HOWEVER whatever you do, if you are only working four hours a week, you will not make it. This book is about maximizing the time you have.

                8. The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco

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                  While the book has a lot of repetition (you are mortgaging your life by working a 9-5, investing in index funds, etc.etc…. by being a “slowlaner”), DeMarco’s book is quite motivating to get moving on a business idea, and provides a great deal of useful information. For example: what type of legal entity to format your business into (LLC, S-corp, C-corp), potential problems entrepreneurs run into (such as taking on too many projects at once), and more.

                  9. Decisive by Chip and Dan Heath

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                    We are terrible at making decisions. We think we are doing well making comparison lists, but really, we’re being tricked by our own emotions into making a poor decision. The Heath brothers break down decision making in to a four step process (WRAP), providing instructions and real life examples of their techniques being put into practice. Expand your options, test your assumptions, distance yourself from the decision before making it, and prepare to be wrong in the worst case.

                    10. Crush It! by Gary Vaynerchuk

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                      Gary is an online empire mogul. You will find some filler in this book, but he offers step-by-step methods of creating online businesses. Just like the 4 Hour Work Week though, the take away is that you will have to sit down and work your butt off. Read this if you are looking to start an online presence, want to know about Twitter, or want to start making videos for YouTube.

                      For Men

                      11. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover

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                        This book is extremely short, but it packs a punch. After the first 5 pages, I was furious but couldn’t stop reading it. Dr. Glover discusses Nice Guy Syndrome – an anxiety based malady that affects men and makes them lie, manipulate, cheat, and deceive instead of facing reality or their emotions. This pervades everything they do in their sex lives, work, friendships, and more. Dr. Glover breaks down how to overcome the syndrome with step-by-step “breaking free” activities. If you feel anxious about expressing yourself as a man, read this book.

                        12. Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida

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                          Deida’s book is a spiritual guide for a man looking on how to be a man in the traditional sense. How does one deal with women? What are masculine and feminine energies (hint: that doesn’t necessarily mean men and women)? How can you, as a man, feel the most happy and fulfilled? Way Of The Superior Man tackles these questions in several short, descriptive chapters. “A man’s purpose in life is his mission, and his mission must always come before his woman.

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                          13. Models by Mark Manson

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                            The “manosphere” is filled with books about picking up and sleeping with women – but many come from a place of using lines, are overfilled with complex theory, or only get to the point of sex. Manson pioneered a view on dating that a man’s attractiveness is in inverse proportion to his level of neediness, and in direct proportion to his investment in himself and his own comfort with his own emotions. In short (though the process may take a while): don’t change yourself to make a woman like you, become comfortable with who you are, improve your life for yourself first, and get a handle on expressing your emotions in healthy ways… then you’ll get amazing girls.

                            Mindset

                            14. Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

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                              Viktor Frankl’s book is absolutely inspirational. The first part is Frankl’s telling of his capture as a Jew during World War II, deportation to concentration camps, and return home. Many of his friends died, but with the hope of seeing his wife again, he postulated that he survived. He introduces logotherapy, and his view that as long as a man/woman has something to live for, something they can believe in, they will survive in extreme circumstances. But if they have nothing, they are already dead inside and will give up. Find your why.

                              15. Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

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                                Written in 1960 by a plastic surgeon, Maltz discusses how so many people wanted to change their appearance to be “beautiful”, but all they needed was a change in how they saw themselves to be happy. Maltz introduces methods of relaxation and mental preparation and practice used by everyone from public speakers to professional basketball players. Yes, it can help you too.

                                16. As A Man Thinketh by James Allen

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                                  The classic essay is short with a clear message: your thoughts determine your reality. Your mind is like a garden and your thoughts are seeds sprouting into flowers (good) or weeds (bad). But without your focus and energy, the bad thoughts will die. So work on tending your garden, and only let flowers grow. You can’t stop negative thoughts entirely, but you do not have to believe them. You do not have to let them grow and fester.

                                  Psychology

                                  17. Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely

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                                    Ariely looks into why we do the things we do, even when we think we’re being smart. We think we’re being logical, but it’s only our emotions tricking us. This book will help you uncover your hidden motivations and make you second guess yourself… in a good way. Backed up with stories, tests on University students and more, it’s psychological theory but not drab and boring by any stretch.

                                    18. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini

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                                      While being a bit long and dense, Influence will help you understand how people work… just don’t take too much advantage of them. This is not only directly useful in relationships and with people, but also for sales positions, job interviews, and even writing (I promise I haven’t used any tricks on you).

                                      19. The Red Queen by Matt Ridley

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                                        Why are men more prone to wanting multiple mates? Why should women be more selective? What is encoded into our genes? Ridley’s book on evolutionary biology is academic, but a must read to understand the more nerdy side of sex and how people choose their mates. Just make sure you don’t just read the book but actually go out to meet people as well.

                                        Travel

                                        20. Vagabonding by Rolf Plotts

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                                          This was the first book that got me EXTREMELY excited about traveling. Plotts advocates slower travel (longer stays in places) and gives you packing lists and helpful hints. But, it is his approach to the concept of traveling that is the best part of the book: For him traveling is almost a form of meditation, a journey of self-discovery. If you want to get excited about traveling, you need to read this book.

                                          This is my list. How many have you read? Do you want to check any of these out? What would you recommend?

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                                          50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

                                          50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

                                          Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

                                          It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

                                          It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

                                          Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

                                          Quotes for self-assurance

                                          1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

                                            2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

                                              3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

                                                4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

                                                  5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

                                                    6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

                                                      Quotes about positivity

                                                      7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                                                        8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                                                          9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                                                            10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                                                              11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                                                                12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                                                                  13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                                                                    Quotes for work and success

                                                                    14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                                                                      15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                                                        16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                                                          17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                                                            18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                                                              19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                                                                20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                                                                  21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                                                                    22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                                                                      23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                                                        24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                                                          25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                                                            26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                                                              27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                                                                28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                                                                  29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                                                                    30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                                                                      31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                                                        32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                                                          33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                                                            34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                                                              35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                                                                36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                                                                  37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                                                                    38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                                                                      39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                                                        40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                                                          41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                                                            42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                                                              43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                                                                44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                                                                  45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                                                                    Quotes about money

                                                                                                                                    46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                                                                      47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                                                        48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                                                          49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                                                            50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                                                              51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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