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20 Reasons Why Brothers Are the Best Friends

20 Reasons Why Brothers Are the Best Friends

Having a brother is certainly a unique experience. Though brothers are likely to push your buttons, overall brothers will also have your back and defend you against others. Since brothers tend to be protective and care deeply, these oversized teddy bears make for a more enjoyable life. Get ready to turn on the game and warm up your PlayStation, these 20 reasons will have you appreciating your brother in a whole new light.

He’s Always There When You Need Advice

Brothers are excellent sounding boards if you need advice. Because brothers tend to approach situations head on, it’s refreshing to ask their opinion. Brothers will always listen to your woes, without blowing them out of proportion. 

He Doesn’t Over Do It Either

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    When you go to a brother for advice, they’re likely to keep their reactions to a minimum. The typical male approach to conversation makes for succinct and direct advice. This means you can vent your frustrations, without your brother making things bigger than they need to be.

    He’s Easy To Hang Out With

    Most brothers value silence. Being men, brothers are usually more happy to watch their favorite sport then constantly chat and engage. This makes your brother the perfect person to hang out with when you need a break from your social circles.

    He’s Got Your Back

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      Sure, brothers are prone to push our buttons, poke fun at us, and otherwise drive you crazy, but when someone else tries to do the same, your brother will be there. Even if he’s not the biggest guy on the playground, your brother will play the alpha male for as long as it takes to scare your bullies away.

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      He Can Help You Woo Your Significant Other

      Whether older or younger, brothers are usually full of tips and tricks to help you seem smoother than you are. Especially when you’re trying to impress the object of your affections, brothers will always help out. From cooking tips to creative date ideas, brothers know how to give you a boost.

      He’s Usually Got Something To Laugh About

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        Another perk to having a brother, is boys are much happier playing games and laughing than getting wrapped up in social drama. When life has you down, it’s likely that your brother has something new to make you chuckle.

        He Can Help You With Technology/DIY

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          Most brothers have different skills then you do, even if they’re happy to remind you constantly. Even though brothers try to sound important with their skills, when it comes right down to it, he’ll be glad to help you learn too. Even if your brother isn’t skilled in typical male areas like cars or sports, he’s likely to know more than you when it comes to technology or basic do it yourself repairs. Not only is it easier to learn when you have someone you can go to at any time, he’s likely going to take more time to explain it to you than anyone else.

          He’s Usually Got New, Exciting Games To Play

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            Speaking of technology, brothers usually know all the current, innovative video games. Besides keeping you up-to-date, this can go a long way in helping you vent your frustrations and learn new things.

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            He’s Not Interested In The Gossip

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              Where your other friends might be excited about social drama, brothers tend to ignore it. When social drama and difficult situations come into your life, it’s the perfect time to hang out with your brother. We all need someone who would rather sit on the couch playing video games with you then make you relive your embarrassing times.

              He’s Been There

              No matter how crazy your problems, somehow your brother has done something similar. When you do complain to your brother, it’s almost guaranteed he has a story to make you feel better.

              He’s Protective

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                Not only will your brother listen to your problems without judging or giving too much advice, he’s also defensive when things go wrong in life. Whether it’s tricky social situations, or flat out bullying, your brother never allows someone else to hurt you.

                He Will Tell It To You Straight

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                  Brothers are also incredible because when you have a problem, they’re going to tell it to you straight. Boys rarely feel the need to sugarcoat things, so your brother can be the perfect subject when you need a straight answer.

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                  He’s A Wealth Of Good Prank Ideas

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                    Should you need to get back at someone, or just need an idea for April Fools’ Day, brothers are a wealth of excellent prank ideas. Years of locker room stunts and camping mischief can help you out when you’re in need of a new idea. Just don’t forget that sometimes these pranks will be set on you.

                    He Can Usually Teach You New Sports

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                      While many brothers may not be the best at sports, a lot of them can at least teach you a few pointers. This is particularly valuable to those of us who struggle in gym class, where brothers are happy to help you find the right approach.

                      He’ll Eat Junk Food With You

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                        Brothers are also the perfect people to pig out with. Where sisters or female friends might be more conscious of what they’re eating, brothers are likely to just dig in. Whether you’re a guy who just wants to have a feast, or a girl who needs a break from societal expectations, brothers are always willing to grab a snack, holiday or not.

                        He’s Always Willing To Eat Your Scraps

                        Not only are brothers always willing to dig in when it comes to food, they can be very helpful when you’re small. As a kid, when parents expect you to finish everything on your plate and you just don’t have it in you, your brother comes to the rescue. Your brother is likely happy to grab a few extra bites of food, especially since boys grow like weeds. 

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                        He’ll Show You New, Better Movies

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                          Brothers are also a wealth of information when it comes to movies and entertainment. Your brother likely has very different interests from you, so his favorite movies are probably ones you haven’t seen yet. Particularly when it comes to kung fu, action, and comedy films, your brother likely has some excellent titles you need to see.

                          He’s Competitive

                          Brothers tend to be competitive, which can actually be a good thing. As long as you can bring your “A” game too, a competitive sibling can actually help push you to be your best.

                          He’s Straightforward

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                            Even when you’re not asking for advice, everyone needs someone in life who can tell it like it is.

                            He’ll Always Try To Cheer You Up

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                              Love them or hate them, brothers are really just big teddy bears. So much so, that when they see you suffering, thier first instinct is usually to get you out of your funk. Having someone around who wants to cheer you up is incredibly helpful on days when you don’t feel like yourself.

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                              Last Updated on August 19, 2019

                              How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

                              How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

                              We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

                              When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

                              In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

                              Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

                              If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

                              According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

                              No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

                              When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

                              Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

                              1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

                              When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

                              Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

                              When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

                              Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

                              In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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                              It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

                              You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

                              Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

                              What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

                              You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

                              That’s where we all should be.

                              So, answer me this:

                              How are you, really?

                              And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

                              Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

                              Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

                              Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

                              Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

                              It’s taking control.

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                              2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

                              You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

                              You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

                              In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

                              Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

                              You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

                              Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

                              But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

                              It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

                              In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

                              It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

                              Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

                              Change will happen.

                              Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

                              You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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                              And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

                              You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

                              That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

                              You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

                              When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

                              There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

                              3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

                              Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

                              In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

                              If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

                              Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

                              Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

                              How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

                              Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

                              “Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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                              Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

                              Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

                              It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

                              Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

                              “If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

                              What would you do if you felt you were enough?

                              By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

                              So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

                              Final Thoughts

                              By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

                              Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

                              When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

                              You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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