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20 Reasons Why Brothers Are the Best Friends

20 Reasons Why Brothers Are the Best Friends

Having a brother is certainly a unique experience. Though brothers are likely to push your buttons, overall brothers will also have your back and defend you against others. Since brothers tend to be protective and care deeply, these oversized teddy bears make for a more enjoyable life. Get ready to turn on the game and warm up your PlayStation, these 20 reasons will have you appreciating your brother in a whole new light.

He’s Always There When You Need Advice

Brothers are excellent sounding boards if you need advice. Because brothers tend to approach situations head on, it’s refreshing to ask their opinion. Brothers will always listen to your woes, without blowing them out of proportion. 

He Doesn’t Over Do It Either

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    When you go to a brother for advice, they’re likely to keep their reactions to a minimum. The typical male approach to conversation makes for succinct and direct advice. This means you can vent your frustrations, without your brother making things bigger than they need to be.

    He’s Easy To Hang Out With

    Most brothers value silence. Being men, brothers are usually more happy to watch their favorite sport then constantly chat and engage. This makes your brother the perfect person to hang out with when you need a break from your social circles.

    He’s Got Your Back

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      Sure, brothers are prone to push our buttons, poke fun at us, and otherwise drive you crazy, but when someone else tries to do the same, your brother will be there. Even if he’s not the biggest guy on the playground, your brother will play the alpha male for as long as it takes to scare your bullies away.

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      He Can Help You Woo Your Significant Other

      Whether older or younger, brothers are usually full of tips and tricks to help you seem smoother than you are. Especially when you’re trying to impress the object of your affections, brothers will always help out. From cooking tips to creative date ideas, brothers know how to give you a boost.

      He’s Usually Got Something To Laugh About

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        Another perk to having a brother, is boys are much happier playing games and laughing than getting wrapped up in social drama. When life has you down, it’s likely that your brother has something new to make you chuckle.

        He Can Help You With Technology/DIY

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          Most brothers have different skills then you do, even if they’re happy to remind you constantly. Even though brothers try to sound important with their skills, when it comes right down to it, he’ll be glad to help you learn too. Even if your brother isn’t skilled in typical male areas like cars or sports, he’s likely to know more than you when it comes to technology or basic do it yourself repairs. Not only is it easier to learn when you have someone you can go to at any time, he’s likely going to take more time to explain it to you than anyone else.

          He’s Usually Got New, Exciting Games To Play

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            Speaking of technology, brothers usually know all the current, innovative video games. Besides keeping you up-to-date, this can go a long way in helping you vent your frustrations and learn new things.

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            He’s Not Interested In The Gossip

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              Where your other friends might be excited about social drama, brothers tend to ignore it. When social drama and difficult situations come into your life, it’s the perfect time to hang out with your brother. We all need someone who would rather sit on the couch playing video games with you then make you relive your embarrassing times.

              He’s Been There

              No matter how crazy your problems, somehow your brother has done something similar. When you do complain to your brother, it’s almost guaranteed he has a story to make you feel better.

              He’s Protective

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                Not only will your brother listen to your problems without judging or giving too much advice, he’s also defensive when things go wrong in life. Whether it’s tricky social situations, or flat out bullying, your brother never allows someone else to hurt you.

                He Will Tell It To You Straight

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                  Brothers are also incredible because when you have a problem, they’re going to tell it to you straight. Boys rarely feel the need to sugarcoat things, so your brother can be the perfect subject when you need a straight answer.

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                  He’s A Wealth Of Good Prank Ideas

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                    Should you need to get back at someone, or just need an idea for April Fools’ Day, brothers are a wealth of excellent prank ideas. Years of locker room stunts and camping mischief can help you out when you’re in need of a new idea. Just don’t forget that sometimes these pranks will be set on you.

                    He Can Usually Teach You New Sports

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                      While many brothers may not be the best at sports, a lot of them can at least teach you a few pointers. This is particularly valuable to those of us who struggle in gym class, where brothers are happy to help you find the right approach.

                      He’ll Eat Junk Food With You

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                        Brothers are also the perfect people to pig out with. Where sisters or female friends might be more conscious of what they’re eating, brothers are likely to just dig in. Whether you’re a guy who just wants to have a feast, or a girl who needs a break from societal expectations, brothers are always willing to grab a snack, holiday or not.

                        He’s Always Willing To Eat Your Scraps

                        Not only are brothers always willing to dig in when it comes to food, they can be very helpful when you’re small. As a kid, when parents expect you to finish everything on your plate and you just don’t have it in you, your brother comes to the rescue. Your brother is likely happy to grab a few extra bites of food, especially since boys grow like weeds. 

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                        He’ll Show You New, Better Movies

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                          Brothers are also a wealth of information when it comes to movies and entertainment. Your brother likely has very different interests from you, so his favorite movies are probably ones you haven’t seen yet. Particularly when it comes to kung fu, action, and comedy films, your brother likely has some excellent titles you need to see.

                          He’s Competitive

                          Brothers tend to be competitive, which can actually be a good thing. As long as you can bring your “A” game too, a competitive sibling can actually help push you to be your best.

                          He’s Straightforward

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                            Even when you’re not asking for advice, everyone needs someone in life who can tell it like it is.

                            He’ll Always Try To Cheer You Up

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                              Love them or hate them, brothers are really just big teddy bears. So much so, that when they see you suffering, thier first instinct is usually to get you out of your funk. Having someone around who wants to cheer you up is incredibly helpful on days when you don’t feel like yourself.

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                              How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                              How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                              You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                              Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                              Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                              Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                              1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                              According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                              “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                              Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                              Warming up

                              If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                              If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                              Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                              1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                              2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                              3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                              Stay hydrated

                              Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                              To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                              Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                              Meditate

                              Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                              Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                              Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                              Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                              2. Focus on your goal

                              One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                              Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                              Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                              Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                              If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                              3. Convert negativity to positivity

                              There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                              ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                              It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                              Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                              Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                              Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                              4. Understand your content

                              Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                              However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                              “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                              Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                              Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                              One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                              5. Practice makes perfect

                              Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                              In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                              Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                              6. Be authentic

                              There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                              Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                              Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                              To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                              With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                              Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                              7. Post speech evaluation

                              Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                              Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                              We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                              You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                              Improve your next speech

                              As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                              Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                              • How did I do?
                              • Are there any areas for improvement?
                              • Did I sound or look stressed?
                              • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                              • Was I saying “um” too often?
                              • How was the flow of the speech?

                              Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                              If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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