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20 Motivation Hacks You Wish You Knew Earlier

20 Motivation Hacks You Wish You Knew Earlier

Having the idea to do something is the easy part. However, acting on and continuing forward with those ideas is the hard part. This is where motivation plays a large role. If you lack the motivation to do something, it just won’t get done. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to use a lack of motivation as an excuse. Today, we will take a look at twenty motivation hacks that will jump start your ability to get things done faster and in more of an efficient way. Let us know in the comments below if you have any motivation hacks that we could benefit from as well!

1. Outsource Your Inspiration

One of the biggest motivational tools for many individuals is the inspiration of others to help them out in whatever goal that they may have. I recommend checking out the Pact app for iPhone. Connect your credit card to the app, make a goal and commitment, and if you check in with the app a certain amount of times a day, you will earn money. If not, you will have to pay a set amount. Money is, of course, a huge motivator for many people and Pact proves this is true.

2. Broaden Your Library

Books are a great way for you to motivate yourself to not only do well in what ever endeavor you are attempting to complete, but they can also reveal smart ways to complete such endeavors in a specific amount of time. Amazon is your best bet for having a level of control on how much you pay for the quality of books you want on a specific subject. A great start would be to look into the “…For Dummies” series of books that allow you to learn or complete a certain task in an approachable manner.

3. Goals of Hierarchy

When you have a main goal that you are trying to achieve, it is smart to have backup plans or intentions in case the first one fails. This in no way should be taken as finding an easy way out. Having a back-up plan will allow you to know that if you are unable to proceed with your previous plans, that the endeavor isn’t fully out of the window.

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4. Make Your Goals Known

If other individuals know that you are working to achieve a certain goal, you are more likely to push through the difficult aspects and succeed. However, if you ultimately fail in achieving your goal, it can seem a bit tragic to come to the realization that so many people know your goal. This is why it’s smart to share, but not boast on your new goal intention.

5. Reassess Your Network

Without leaving out positive friends and family, reassess your network and look into adding individuals who have your interests at heart. These will be the individuals who will look to ensure that you are staying on the right track and won’t pressure you to fall off the wagon.

6. Make it a Group Effort

“Competing” with others who have a similar goal as yours will allow you to feel like you aren’t going into the goal alone. Having the motivation of teaming up with others to reach a certain individual or cumulative goal is a smart and healthy way of introducing competition with the main intent of improving the lives of those you care for.

7. Quotes That Go a Long Way

Positive quotes and thoughts of inspiration are one of the most common and best sources of motivation. Having quotes as your computer or mobile phone background, framed in your office, and everywhere else you encounter will push you to think positively and also push through difficult parts of reaching your goal.

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8. Become Realistic

There is a time when you need to come to the realization that certain aspects of your goal must change. In planning any aspect of your goal, it is important to remember that you must be realistic and honest with yourself about your limits and potential. Don’t sell yourself short, but don’t give yourself goals that will set yourself up for failure.

9. Chart Your Goals

Make use of checkpoints to ensure that you are on track for your goal and its process. For weight loss, you may want to invest in a dry erase progress chart that you are able to update with the amount of weight you have lost so far. To enhance the progress, you might consider having a reward for meeting thee checkpoints.

10. Don’t Wait Until Tomorrow

There are many individuals who feel that it’s best to schedule their goal for a certain day or time other than the day they intend on going through with their goal. For example, on New Year’s, many individuals say they intend on getting a gym membership next week or in February. Why not start on your goal as soon as possible? It will ensure that you follow through with your goal in the near future.

11. Journal Your Thoughts

There are times when reaching your goal can be hard. There are times when you have the contemplation to quit. If you don’t feel comfortable to share these feelings with someone, write it in a journal. This will allow you to pour out your feelings in a medium, allowing you to pour the rest of your energy into something more productive.

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12. Make Use of Visual Motivators

Being able to see your end goal is one of the greatest ways to have the motivation to move forward. If you have a photo of your goal weight when you were younger, look to this photo as motivation to move forward. If you have an art piece that took you forever to create and you need the motivation to work on your next piece, look to your work of art as motivation.

13. Find Joy In Your Task

The road to your goal can be difficult, but it’s important to not forget to find joy in the road toward achieving your goal. Find joy in the checkpoints that are met in trying to achieve your goal, for example. Finding joy in the minor aspects of achieving your goals will push you to want to continue on with what you want to ultimately achieve in the end.

14. Discern Good Motivation

It’s important to not only discern the motivation you are getting, but also discern the positive motivation you are receiving. There are some individuals that don’t know how to tell you when you are doing amazing, but the worse noise come from those who are unable to tell you when you are falling off the wagon. Invest in honest friends and you will be on your way to your goal.

15. Prepare Yourself for Motivations

If you don’t put yourself in the right mindset to get a goal completed, it will not happen. It is important to get yourself in the right mindset by taking a step back and looking at what you have succeeded in doing so far, what you hope to do in the future, and your final end goal.

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16. Create an Agreement

Having an agreement with your friend as a to what your ultimate goal should be and what happens when you find yourself falling off the wagon. Having this agreement with a friend will allow you to have something written on paper that if you succeed, this will happen and if you fail, you will have to pay the consequences.

17. Initiate Continual Checkups

As you work on your goal, reassess and ensure that the acts that you are doing leading up to your goal are done in a fashion that will ensure that you are completing your goal with the right intentions and passion. If you are working out, make sure you are doing so with the mindset of having your health as number one, not the opinions of others.

18. Optimize Your Precious Time

While you get your goals completed, look into optimizing your time left open. When you wake up in the morning, you may see having a quality breakfast of impeding you from getting work done. However, if your goal is to enhance your productivity, look into possibly knocking out emails during breakfast or fitting in treadmill time while catching up on a business call, for example.

19. Keep a Tally

Keeping some sort of quantitative track of your goal is a great way to visually see your progress in a way that may not have been visible before. If you are losing weight, keep track of the amount of pounds lost. If you are trying to cut back on smoking, keep track of how much money you are saving by not lighting up.

20. Understand Failure Isn’t Okay

Ultimately, we know that failure isn’t okay and isn’t an option. If you fail, you aren’t doing something correctly. This may seem harsh, but it is only harsh because we have the wrong impression of what failure means. If you don’t succeed in your goal, that isn’t failure. If you don’t get any lessons out of not achieving your goal, that in fact is failure.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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