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18 Ways To Bring More Fun Into Your Romance

18 Ways To Bring More Fun Into Your Romance

Laughter and fun can breathe new life into your romance and relationship. Let’s explore ways to bring more fun into your romance this week!

A couple that can laugh together will have a better chance of weathering the hard times. Laughter makes us all happier too. When you can laugh easily with your spouse life just seems better. Good things happen in your body when you laugh as well!

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First off, it is essential that you have a date night with your significant other every week. Your relationship with this person needs to be handled with care and you both owe each other that time to nurture it.

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Make it a rule that during that time you avoid talking about kids and work. This night is about the two of you and your relationship. You may not feel you have one outside of those two topics but you do. You got together for a reason and date night helps you remember and reinforce that reason.

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Not sure what to talk about outside of work and kids? Start by reminiscing about the early days and years. Then as you continue to have date nights and bring more fun into your romance you will have more positive shared experiences between the two of you to draw on for conversation.

Try to avoid conflict discussions as well. Use this time to nurture your relationship, not cause more tension. Address those topics at a separate time, but keep date night sacred.

Bring more fun into your romance this week with one of these ideas

  1. The basic dinner and a movie can be fun. Try a new restaurant and then go see a comedy or an interesting indie movie together.
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    • Enjoy a weekend away together. Even if you don’t leave your city, a weekend away brings a fresh perspective and fun, new experiences
      weekend
      • Attend a comedy show together.
        Comedy
        • Go ice skating in the winter.
          ice skating
          • Play charades. Have another couple over to make it even more fun. Once in awhile, a couples’ date night is a great way to shake things up (in a good way).
            Play charades
            • Rent a tandem bicycle at your local park.
              tandem bicycle
              • Dress up in silly costumes for an event. Not sure what type of event you would dress up for? Try one of these excuses:
                silly customes
                  • Renaissance festival
                  • To see an 80s band
                  • To take part in a murder mystery live action game
                  • Attend a costume ball
                  • Just because
                • Visit the spa together to get a couples’ massage or pedicure.
                  spa
                  • Find a local outdoor hot spring to enjoy. Some are even clothing optional after dark!
                    hot spring
                    • Laugh in the bedroom more (find each others’ ticklish spots).
                      Laugh in bed
                      • Cultivate inside jokes in your relationship. Come up with special names for each other or a 1 word reference to a humorous event that will make you both smile. The more you remember and anchor these events, the more joy they tend to bring.
                        inside joke
                        • Do the date activities you wanted to as a kid or teen:
                          play painball together
                            • Attend a county fair
                            • Play paintball together
                            • Play laser tag
                            • Rent a paddle boat at a local lake
                            • Go to an amusement park
                            • Have a water balloon or water gun fight
                            • Draw chalk pictures on the sidewalk
                            • Go roller skating
                          • Sing together. (Karaoke at home anyone?)
                            sing karaoke
                            • Surprise your significant other with some new lingerie. (Sexy fun!)
                              lingerie
                              • Take up dancing together: ballroom, salsa, or country. Take your pick and get a free lesson at a local dance studio or bar.
                                dance together
                                • Cook a themed dinner together. If you need a few ideas, try these:
                                  cook together
                                    • 1001 Arabian Nights
                                    • Lord of The Rings
                                    • Disney
                                    • Roaring 20s
                                    • Sushi
                                    • Fondue
                                  • Rent a convertible for the weekend and enjoy some beautiful scenic drives together.
                                    scenic view
                                    • Visit a local winery or wine shop for a free tasting.
                                      wine shop

                                      Which of these ideas can you use this week to bring more fun into your romance?

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                                      Last Updated on June 19, 2019

                                      6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

                                      6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

                                      I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

                                      Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

                                      It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

                                      1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

                                      It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

                                      Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

                                      When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

                                      2. Trust the Muse

                                      Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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                                      When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

                                      “The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

                                      The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

                                      If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

                                      The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

                                      Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

                                      3. Remember to Be Authentic

                                      Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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                                      How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

                                      For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

                                      One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

                                      Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

                                      Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

                                      4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

                                      I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

                                      One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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                                      Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

                                      A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

                                      Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

                                      5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

                                      It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

                                      We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

                                      If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

                                      You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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                                      6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

                                      As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

                                      The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

                                      Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

                                      Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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