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18 Ways To Bring More Fun Into Your Romance

18 Ways To Bring More Fun Into Your Romance

Laughter and fun can breathe new life into your romance and relationship. Let’s explore ways to bring more fun into your romance this week!

A couple that can laugh together will have a better chance of weathering the hard times. Laughter makes us all happier too. When you can laugh easily with your spouse life just seems better. Good things happen in your body when you laugh as well!

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First off, it is essential that you have a date night with your significant other every week. Your relationship with this person needs to be handled with care and you both owe each other that time to nurture it.

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Make it a rule that during that time you avoid talking about kids and work. This night is about the two of you and your relationship. You may not feel you have one outside of those two topics but you do. You got together for a reason and date night helps you remember and reinforce that reason.

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Not sure what to talk about outside of work and kids? Start by reminiscing about the early days and years. Then as you continue to have date nights and bring more fun into your romance you will have more positive shared experiences between the two of you to draw on for conversation.

Try to avoid conflict discussions as well. Use this time to nurture your relationship, not cause more tension. Address those topics at a separate time, but keep date night sacred.

Bring more fun into your romance this week with one of these ideas

  1. The basic dinner and a movie can be fun. Try a new restaurant and then go see a comedy or an interesting indie movie together.
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    • Enjoy a weekend away together. Even if you don’t leave your city, a weekend away brings a fresh perspective and fun, new experiences
      weekend
      • Attend a comedy show together.
        Comedy
        • Go ice skating in the winter.
          ice skating
          • Play charades. Have another couple over to make it even more fun. Once in awhile, a couples’ date night is a great way to shake things up (in a good way).
            Play charades
            • Rent a tandem bicycle at your local park.
              tandem bicycle
              • Dress up in silly costumes for an event. Not sure what type of event you would dress up for? Try one of these excuses:
                silly customes
                  • Renaissance festival
                  • To see an 80s band
                  • To take part in a murder mystery live action game
                  • Attend a costume ball
                  • Just because
                • Visit the spa together to get a couples’ massage or pedicure.
                  spa
                  • Find a local outdoor hot spring to enjoy. Some are even clothing optional after dark!
                    hot spring
                    • Laugh in the bedroom more (find each others’ ticklish spots).
                      Laugh in bed
                      • Cultivate inside jokes in your relationship. Come up with special names for each other or a 1 word reference to a humorous event that will make you both smile. The more you remember and anchor these events, the more joy they tend to bring.
                        inside joke
                        • Do the date activities you wanted to as a kid or teen:
                          play painball together
                            • Attend a county fair
                            • Play paintball together
                            • Play laser tag
                            • Rent a paddle boat at a local lake
                            • Go to an amusement park
                            • Have a water balloon or water gun fight
                            • Draw chalk pictures on the sidewalk
                            • Go roller skating
                          • Sing together. (Karaoke at home anyone?)
                            sing karaoke
                            • Surprise your significant other with some new lingerie. (Sexy fun!)
                              lingerie
                              • Take up dancing together: ballroom, salsa, or country. Take your pick and get a free lesson at a local dance studio or bar.
                                dance together
                                • Cook a themed dinner together. If you need a few ideas, try these:
                                  cook together
                                    • 1001 Arabian Nights
                                    • Lord of The Rings
                                    • Disney
                                    • Roaring 20s
                                    • Sushi
                                    • Fondue
                                  • Rent a convertible for the weekend and enjoy some beautiful scenic drives together.
                                    scenic view
                                    • Visit a local winery or wine shop for a free tasting.
                                      wine shop

                                      Which of these ideas can you use this week to bring more fun into your romance?

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                                      7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                                      7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                                      The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

                                      Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

                                      Posture

                                      First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

                                      • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
                                      • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
                                      • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
                                      • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

                                      All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

                                      Facial Expressions

                                      Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

                                      • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
                                      • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
                                      • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

                                      If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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                                      1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

                                      A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

                                      The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

                                      This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

                                      2. Relax Your Face

                                      New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

                                      The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

                                      To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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                                      3. Improve Your Eye Contact

                                      Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

                                      The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

                                      To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

                                      3. Smile More

                                      There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

                                      Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

                                      4. Hand Gestures

                                      Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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                                      It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

                                      5. Enhance Your Handshake

                                      In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

                                      “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

                                      It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

                                      6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

                                      As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

                                      Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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                                      Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

                                      Final Takeaways

                                      Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

                                      If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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