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12 Things Only A Straightforward Person Would Understand

12 Things Only A Straightforward Person Would Understand

Sometimes people misjudge a straightforward person as impolite or impatient. But really keeping it simple and honest is actually a great thing! If you are straightforward or know someone who is and feel like you or your friend are often misunderstood by others, this post is for you.

1. They think that coddling is bad for your health.

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    Straightforward people love people but they don’t love them too much. To love ’em more, you’ve got to love ’em less. It’s one thing to shower people with love but at a certain point it’s damaging. People can be so loved that they’re ruined. This isn’t healthy for you or anyone. Straightforward people get it. They want to empower people and teach non-dependence. They’ll toughen you up in the best hard love way.

    2. They create a better world by telling the truth.

    i want to smash it

      They speak honestly. If a sensitive person is offended by the truth it’s not because it was offensive. It’s because the truth sucks to hear. Not just for sensitive people, but for everyone. It’s how we process information that separates people who get better and those that stay complacent. Use difficult information to figure things out and get better.

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      3. They are honest not in a mean but in a funny way.

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        They are so honest, it’s refreshing and actually humorous. To call out the white elephant in the room is awesome. Otherwise it’s awk. Ward. Some people like to beat around the bush, but why not get to freedom sooner than later? Communication is awesome!

        4. They strike while the iron is hot.

        thunderous punch

          They are blunt and speak of things in the heat of the moment. The only time when it matters to say something at all! Sometimes it’s because it’s fueled by sheer passion and excitement. And sometimes this can be too much for people to handle but the best way to get a point across is at that moment that it matters, not when everyone has gone home and the moment is gone.

          5. They understand that communication is the answer to unanswered questions.

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          wtf kanye

            They cut to the chase. The faster you get to your point, the better. Ask questions, if you want answers. No need for speculation and wonder. Straightforward people don’t walk around with a bunch of baggage and unfinished business.

            6. They acknowledge that life is short.

            life is short, never watch stars

              They live in the now, not the past or the future. They don’t spend time day dreaming about “what if’s.” They don’t like small talk or day dreaming. They’re after progress and they know moving forward requires understanding current realities.

              7. They see that anything is possible.

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                They shoot it straight. They make things happen. They know that there are no roadblocks, only detours. When you are alive and aware … asking questions, communicating .. you are likely to move along further than others that get stumped too quickly.

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                8. They also see that everything is negotiable.

                everything is negotiable

                  They don’t function in a box. They are not constrained by lines. They operate their life outside of the box. They do this for survival, not just for the sake of being different. They color outside of the lines because they know that even dire mistakes can have triumphant endings. It takes a mighty strong person to see what needs to be done or said and to do it no matter what the consequence.

                  9. They would never live in denial.

                  school sucked

                    Straightforward people wear their heart on their sleeve and hope you would too. They don’t believe in secrets, they don’t like hoarding information. They speak what they know. This makes life so much easier.

                    10. They have a thick skin which is earned.

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                    too stupid

                      They embrace honesty. They’re tough and resilient. They don’t take things personally. They’ve let themselves become comfortable with rejection so that it doesn’t hurt, it helps.

                      11. They know that hard love is real love.

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                        They tell people what they don’t want to hear. They aren’t afraid to hurt people’s feelings to help them if it’s for their own good. They are like coaches pushing you when you are stuck.

                        12. They also get that some people don’t respond to barking.

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                          They get that there is a certain finesse, getting people to the truth. They have to learn how to translate this to certain personalities in different ways. At the end of the day, the truth is hard to handle and delivering the truth is an art.

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                          10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

                          10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

                          The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

                          In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

                          Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

                          1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

                          What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

                          Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

                          2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

                          Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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                          How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

                          Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

                          Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

                          3. Get comfortable with discomfort

                          One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

                          Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

                          4. See failure as a teacher

                          Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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                          Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

                          Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

                          10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

                          5. Take baby steps

                          Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

                          Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

                          Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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                          The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

                          6. Hang out with risk takers

                          There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

                          Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

                          7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

                          Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

                          Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

                          8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

                          What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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                          9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

                          Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

                          If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

                          10. Focus on the fun

                          Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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