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12 Things Only A Straightforward Person Would Understand

12 Things Only A Straightforward Person Would Understand

Sometimes people misjudge a straightforward person as impolite or impatient. But really keeping it simple and honest is actually a great thing! If you are straightforward or know someone who is and feel like you or your friend are often misunderstood by others, this post is for you.

1. They think that coddling is bad for your health.

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    Straightforward people love people but they don’t love them too much. To love ’em more, you’ve got to love ’em less. It’s one thing to shower people with love but at a certain point it’s damaging. People can be so loved that they’re ruined. This isn’t healthy for you or anyone. Straightforward people get it. They want to empower people and teach non-dependence. They’ll toughen you up in the best hard love way.

    2. They create a better world by telling the truth.

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      They speak honestly. If a sensitive person is offended by the truth it’s not because it was offensive. It’s because the truth sucks to hear. Not just for sensitive people, but for everyone. It’s how we process information that separates people who get better and those that stay complacent. Use difficult information to figure things out and get better.

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      3. They are honest not in a mean but in a funny way.

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        They are so honest, it’s refreshing and actually humorous. To call out the white elephant in the room is awesome. Otherwise it’s awk. Ward. Some people like to beat around the bush, but why not get to freedom sooner than later? Communication is awesome!

        4. They strike while the iron is hot.

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          They are blunt and speak of things in the heat of the moment. The only time when it matters to say something at all! Sometimes it’s because it’s fueled by sheer passion and excitement. And sometimes this can be too much for people to handle but the best way to get a point across is at that moment that it matters, not when everyone has gone home and the moment is gone.

          5. They understand that communication is the answer to unanswered questions.

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            They cut to the chase. The faster you get to your point, the better. Ask questions, if you want answers. No need for speculation and wonder. Straightforward people don’t walk around with a bunch of baggage and unfinished business.

            6. They acknowledge that life is short.

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              They live in the now, not the past or the future. They don’t spend time day dreaming about “what if’s.” They don’t like small talk or day dreaming. They’re after progress and they know moving forward requires understanding current realities.

              7. They see that anything is possible.

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                They shoot it straight. They make things happen. They know that there are no roadblocks, only detours. When you are alive and aware … asking questions, communicating .. you are likely to move along further than others that get stumped too quickly.

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                8. They also see that everything is negotiable.

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                  They don’t function in a box. They are not constrained by lines. They operate their life outside of the box. They do this for survival, not just for the sake of being different. They color outside of the lines because they know that even dire mistakes can have triumphant endings. It takes a mighty strong person to see what needs to be done or said and to do it no matter what the consequence.

                  9. They would never live in denial.

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                    Straightforward people wear their heart on their sleeve and hope you would too. They don’t believe in secrets, they don’t like hoarding information. They speak what they know. This makes life so much easier.

                    10. They have a thick skin which is earned.

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                      They embrace honesty. They’re tough and resilient. They don’t take things personally. They’ve let themselves become comfortable with rejection so that it doesn’t hurt, it helps.

                      11. They know that hard love is real love.

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                        They tell people what they don’t want to hear. They aren’t afraid to hurt people’s feelings to help them if it’s for their own good. They are like coaches pushing you when you are stuck.

                        12. They also get that some people don’t respond to barking.

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                          They get that there is a certain finesse, getting people to the truth. They have to learn how to translate this to certain personalities in different ways. At the end of the day, the truth is hard to handle and delivering the truth is an art.

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                          15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

                          15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

                          Books give us the opportunity to live vicariously through the lives of people with greater wisdom than ourselves. They stimulate our brains and help us not only solve the problems we struggle with, but also motivate and inspire us with new ideas.

                          One of the great things about people who think positively and live happy lives is that they love to help others do the same. There are countless positive-thinking books and these 15 are a great way to help you start living a happy life.

                          1. Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor E. Frankl

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                            This book goes through the horrific struggle of Viktor Frankl who survived holocaust concentration camps. The only thing that kept him going was his idea that everything, even the worst of human suffering, had to have meaning. If you’re struggling through anything in your life, I guarantee the words of Viktor will give you courage to press on and find happiness.

                            2. Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

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                              What is life’s greatest lesson? Morrie, a retired professor with a fatal disease, opts to use his predicament to share that message as opposed to just giving up and dying. Following the last few months of Morrie’s life will help you realize what is truly important in life.

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                              3. The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

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                                Similar to Tuesdays with Morrie, Randy is a college professor who finds he has a fatal disease with only a few months to live. It is customary for professors at his university (Carnegie Mellon) to give a final lecture with the basis of ‘what wisdom would you impart to a large group of people if it was your last chance?’ Randy stays incredibly positive throughout and even keeps the lecture humorous and entertaining. Amidst it all, his wisdom is a powerful reminder about how to live a happy, full life.

                                4. Earning Freedom by Michael Santos

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                                  Michael Santos was sentenced to 45 years is prison for selling drugs. During his term he fought hard to earn a masters degree and half of a doctorate (halted by the warden) while writing numerous books educating students about the criminal justice system. This book provides a fascinating window into his entire sentence (released in 2012) and how a positive attitude and strong work ethic got him through it. If he found happiness in prison through positive thinking, we can do it anywhere.

                                  If you don’t have the attention span to finish a long book, the following quick reads are shorter but just as powerful.

                                  5. The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper

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                                    This book has shaped childrens’ minds for years. It illustrates the undeniable fact that when you think positively and believe in yourself, you can accomplish extraordinary things.

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                                    6. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

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                                      Happiness is found in giving. What does it mean to love someone? What would you sacrifice for someone you love? This children’s book teaches a valuable lesson about unconditional love and what it truly means to be happy.

                                      7. The Dash by Linda Ellis and Mac Anderson

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                                        “When your life is over, everything you did will be represented by a single dash between two dates—what will that dash mean for the people you have known and loved?” (Linda Ellis) We don’t choose a lot of things about our life – parents, birthplace, etc. – but we can choose what that dash between those two dates means. This short book will give you a great perspective on making your life worthwhile.

                                        8. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

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                                          “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state… Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” (James Allen) This book might be short, but it is jam-packed with statements that will make you stop and think. We truly become what we think we are. Negative thoughts affect us more than we know. Positive thinking = happy life.

                                          9. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald  Miller

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                                            You are the author of your story. No matter how boring or dull your life has been, you can always turn it around. Donald was in a rut in his life. He had no desire to get out of bed and found himself questioning the meaning of life. Eventually he realized he wasn’t a slave to a pre-written script. He used that mindset to turn around his thoughts, actions, and life. When the closing credits roll on the story of your life, what will people say? Never forget that you have the power to push your limits and live an interesting, happy life.

                                            10. The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews

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                                              The Traveler’s Gift is a fictional story about a man who is overwhelmed with life and finds himself thrown into numerous true events from history – including Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address. He interacts and learns important life lessons from seven different experiences. The book is full of ways to think more positively and find more success in life.

                                              11. David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell

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                                                Malcolm Gladwell motivates you to challenge your preconceptions of underdogs and misfits in this thought-provoking book. When you break down the facts in the story of David and Goliath from the Bible, you find that David really wasn’t an underdog at all – he was the one with the advantage. This book outlines story after story after story of people who were at a disadvantage and learned to find the strength in their weakness.

                                                12. How Will You Measure Your Life by Clayton M. Christensen

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                                                  How would you feel if you got to the end of your life only to realize you had been measuring success wrong? Clayton provides a mass amount of wisdom and advice on how to live a life you won’t regret.

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                                                  13. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

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                                                    The small things we worry about every day may not seem like a big deal, but they wear us down slowly and stop us from living up to our full potential. Learn how to get rid of those worries and negative thoughts and live a happier life.

                                                    14. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

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                                                      C.S. Lewis, who used to be an Atheist, explains how he came to find meaning in life through Christianity. He breaks down all the reasons we doubt and falter in life and how living the principles of Christianity fixes our weaknesses. Lewis is famous for his deep, thought-provoking quotes and this book is no exception.

                                                      15. Bushido: The Way of the Samurai by Tsunetomo Yamamoto

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                                                        Bushido is based on the Hagakure, a document that served as the basis for samurai warrior behavior. The document’s purpose was to shape the mind and the spirit of the samurai warrior.

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