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15 Things Only A Homebody Would Understand

15 Things Only A Homebody Would Understand

Do you prefer to stay at home all the time? Quite often, you tend to get labeled as boring or anti-social. However, people have reasons for their actions. So, let’s look at some reasons on why you choose to be a homebody. I am sure there are many reasons but let’s look at 15 things only a homebody would understand.

1. Most of your best days are spent alone.

Solitude is an introvert’s caffeine, and it can only be assured when you are at home. The Boston Globe reported on a Harvard study, which showed people form more lasting and accurate memories when they are experiencing something alone.

2. You love to meditate alone.

Did you know that meditation can reduce depression? A team of John Hopkins researchers found in 47 clinical trials that meditation can ease anxiety, depression, and many types of pain.

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3. You prefer to read books when you are at home.

I think most people know the benefits of reading books. One example is from a Wall Street Journal article, which reported at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted book reading reduces stress. Reading books in public places is not easy because it is often impossible to control the surrounding environment. That’s why we prefer to read books when we are at home.

4. You love cooking a meal all for yourself to enjoy alone.

Sometimes, it is quite stressful for us to go out to eat. You have to worry about things like wait times and dealing with unpleasant people. There is nothing better than cooking a meal for yourself. It is cheaper, and you can get to stay home to do it!

5. You prefer social media over physical interaction.

As a homebody, we can interact when it is convenient for us. We can go on Facebook, Twitter, and Reddit and log off when we are tired of it. It is often rude to abruptly end a conversation when you are talking to someone in public. That’s something that you do not have to worry about being online.

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6. You rejoice when someone cancels their plans with you.

As a homebody, our favorite place to hang out is — at home! So, we are not usually bothered when someone has to cancel their plans with us. We are happy about it.

7. You like to devote most of your time alone to accelerate your personal development.

Solitude often gives us time to look at ourselves on a deeper level. We can achieve personal development at a faster rate when we are not constantly distracted by outside influences.

8. You believe that building an online business is much more important than going out with friends.

Do you ever wonder what other hermits are probably doing in the privacy of their homes? Believe it or not, many are closet entrepreneurs. They dread going to work at a job that they hate to get paid a salary that reminds them: “Why am I still working there?”. For them, building a business in their free time is much more important than going out with friends.

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9. You do not want to go out to the movies because you can watch them at home.

As a homebody, we typically aren’t excited to rush out to the movie theaters to watch the latest movie. There are thousands of movies via Netflix or Hulu that we can choose instead. It is cheaper, and we do not have to worry about paying premium prices for movie snacks.

10. You truly appreciate enjoying a beer or bottle of wine alone.

We all have our preferences in our alcoholic beverages, but it is much better to enjoy it alone – at least for the homebody. We can drink as much as we want without dealing with other people.

11. You like to entertain yourself at times by playing video games.

There are more video games now than there ever was a decade ago. There are so many genres that you can play just about any video game, according to your interests. The University of Rochester has found that people who play action-based video games make accurate decisions 25% faster.

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12. You welcome bad weather because it gives you another reason to stay at home.

Record temperatures? Snowstorms? Who cares? Not you. It puts a big smile on your face because you have another reason about why you should stay at home.

13. You like to devote most of your time on thinking about your life.

Steve Pavlina, international speaker and author of the bestselling book: Personal Development for Smart People, gives 14 Reasons to Become More Conscious.  As a homebody, some of Pavlina’s suggestions are things that we naturally work on implementing in our lives.

14. You really enjoy music in the comforts of your home.

Listening to your favorite playlist is a great way to relax at home. The USA Today has shared 20 ways about how music can benefit your health.

15. You will not invite friends over but rather just one friend as an opportunity to build upon your friendship.

While there are times that we may have several friends over our house for a social gathering, we really enjoy the company of one friend. Introverts have always valued quality over quantity regarding friendships. If you are a homebody, it is very likely that you are also an introvert.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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