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15 Things Only A Homebody Would Understand

15 Things Only A Homebody Would Understand

Do you prefer to stay at home all the time? Quite often, you tend to get labeled as boring or anti-social. However, people have reasons for their actions. So, let’s look at some reasons on why you choose to be a homebody. I am sure there are many reasons but let’s look at 15 things only a homebody would understand.

1. Most of your best days are spent alone.

Solitude is an introvert’s caffeine, and it can only be assured when you are at home. The Boston Globe reported on a Harvard study, which showed people form more lasting and accurate memories when they are experiencing something alone.

2. You love to meditate alone.

Did you know that meditation can reduce depression? A team of John Hopkins researchers found in 47 clinical trials that meditation can ease anxiety, depression, and many types of pain.

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3. You prefer to read books when you are at home.

I think most people know the benefits of reading books. One example is from a Wall Street Journal article, which reported at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted book reading reduces stress. Reading books in public places is not easy because it is often impossible to control the surrounding environment. That’s why we prefer to read books when we are at home.

4. You love cooking a meal all for yourself to enjoy alone.

Sometimes, it is quite stressful for us to go out to eat. You have to worry about things like wait times and dealing with unpleasant people. There is nothing better than cooking a meal for yourself. It is cheaper, and you can get to stay home to do it!

5. You prefer social media over physical interaction.

As a homebody, we can interact when it is convenient for us. We can go on Facebook, Twitter, and Reddit and log off when we are tired of it. It is often rude to abruptly end a conversation when you are talking to someone in public. That’s something that you do not have to worry about being online.

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6. You rejoice when someone cancels their plans with you.

As a homebody, our favorite place to hang out is — at home! So, we are not usually bothered when someone has to cancel their plans with us. We are happy about it.

7. You like to devote most of your time alone to accelerate your personal development.

Solitude often gives us time to look at ourselves on a deeper level. We can achieve personal development at a faster rate when we are not constantly distracted by outside influences.

8. You believe that building an online business is much more important than going out with friends.

Do you ever wonder what other hermits are probably doing in the privacy of their homes? Believe it or not, many are closet entrepreneurs. They dread going to work at a job that they hate to get paid a salary that reminds them: “Why am I still working there?”. For them, building a business in their free time is much more important than going out with friends.

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9. You do not want to go out to the movies because you can watch them at home.

As a homebody, we typically aren’t excited to rush out to the movie theaters to watch the latest movie. There are thousands of movies via Netflix or Hulu that we can choose instead. It is cheaper, and we do not have to worry about paying premium prices for movie snacks.

10. You truly appreciate enjoying a beer or bottle of wine alone.

We all have our preferences in our alcoholic beverages, but it is much better to enjoy it alone – at least for the homebody. We can drink as much as we want without dealing with other people.

11. You like to entertain yourself at times by playing video games.

There are more video games now than there ever was a decade ago. There are so many genres that you can play just about any video game, according to your interests. The University of Rochester has found that people who play action-based video games make accurate decisions 25% faster.

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12. You welcome bad weather because it gives you another reason to stay at home.

Record temperatures? Snowstorms? Who cares? Not you. It puts a big smile on your face because you have another reason about why you should stay at home.

13. You like to devote most of your time on thinking about your life.

Steve Pavlina, international speaker and author of the bestselling book: Personal Development for Smart People, gives 14 Reasons to Become More Conscious.  As a homebody, some of Pavlina’s suggestions are things that we naturally work on implementing in our lives.

14. You really enjoy music in the comforts of your home.

Listening to your favorite playlist is a great way to relax at home. The USA Today has shared 20 ways about how music can benefit your health.

15. You will not invite friends over but rather just one friend as an opportunity to build upon your friendship.

While there are times that we may have several friends over our house for a social gathering, we really enjoy the company of one friend. Introverts have always valued quality over quantity regarding friendships. If you are a homebody, it is very likely that you are also an introvert.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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