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15 Signs That You Have A Great Girlfriend

15 Signs That You Have A Great Girlfriend

If you’re dating a girl, check off these 15 signs that you have a great girlfriend. If you find a girl who fits this description, hold onto her!

1. She likes the same things.

You both like going to the movies, swimming, and you have pretty similar views on which people should be locked up. Not that you agree on everything, of course, but at least you are on the same track 90% of the time.

2. She never interferes with your work.

Yoko Ono (John Lennon’s second wife) once remarked in an interview, “In a way both John and I ruined our careers by getting together.”  However, the break up of The Beatles was a complex and long drawn out affair.

3. She tells you why she is in a bad mood.

Nobody can be a in a good mood all the time. She tells you why something is wrong, what happened at work to make her mad and why she is in a foul temper. Some people call that real communication.

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4. She loves you for who you are, not for what you do.

Lots of famous people attract others because of their stardom. Tim Tebow makes it very clear that he wants a kind and sweet girl who is not dazzled by his fame.

5. She is not trying to change you.

You know the types who want to mold you into Mr. Perfect. There may be a few things that need fixing, but a great girlfriend adjusts to imperfections and can accept the fact that your hair style is a little bit different or that your weight is over or under a certain limit.

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    6. She has no problems with her own body image.

    She is not trying to change her body all the time. She is not obsessed with dieting or going to the gym. She is perfectly at ease with herself.

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    7. She is not the owner of your free time.

    Basically, she does not complain that you have sixty dozen things on your to do list. She allows you time for yourself without being clingy or complaining.

    8. She shares your values.

    You both “click” on how people should be treated. You have definite views on what education is and how important honesty is. Above all, you have very clear ideas on money and how it should be spent. It doesn’t matter whether you are a cheapskate or a big spender, as long as you are both in the same category!

    9. She is open with you.

    You know about her childhood and the problems she had because she has talked openly about these things. You know all about her worries and her little obsessions. You know about them because she wants a friend who loves her not only for all her brilliant qualities but her defects as well.

    10. She is a good listener.

    She wants to know what went wrong with that project at work or why you got mad with your boss. She is not afraid to ask for details. Her questions are focused on where you are coming from. She offers advice when asked for it.

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    11. She is such fun to be with.

    You laugh at the same things. You enjoy lots of things together. You appreciate each others’ silly jokes, cartoon characters, stupid songs and crazy things on Facebook.

    12. She loves hanging out with your friends and family.

    You never have a problem when you want to do things with your or her group of friends. She fits in with your family so easily. There is no jealousy or undercurrents which could become toxic.

    13. She never asks for advice about clothes.

    She never asks you to help her choose clothes and would never dream of asking you whether a certain color suits her. She does not need that kind of advice because she is perfectly confident and poised.

    14. She knows how to surprise you.

    She knows how to spring a surprise on you. That can be anything from a different outing, a sudden change of plans or anything else which breaks the routine. Too much routine turns into boredom.

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    15. She never nags you.

    She is the one who can let the small things go so that you can feel perfectly at ease in her company. You are both relieved that there is no nit-picking or nagging. You have both moved on and upgraded. You are now on a journey of personal growth and mutual self improvement.

    This is a perfect description of your great girlfriend, isn’t it? Or is it all too good to be true? If it is, then you might have to rethink what you are really looking for in a great girlfriend.

    Featured photo credit: Landscape portrait of young beautiful stylish couple sensual and having fun outdoor. Film effect via shutterstock.com

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    Last Updated on September 17, 2018

    7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

    7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

    Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

    Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

    When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

    Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

    1. You’re depressed about your home life.

    No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

    However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

    If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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    When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

    You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

    2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

    Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

    If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

    You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

    If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

    3. You can’t stop snooping.

    Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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    I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

    Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

    So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

    It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

    If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

    4. You’re afraid of commitment.

    If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

    Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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    No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

    If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

    Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

    5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

    If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

    Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

    Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

    Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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    If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

    6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

    When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

    When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

    If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

    7. You chase past feelings.

    It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

    You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

    When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

    Final thoughts

    If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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