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15 Signs That You Have A Great Girlfriend

15 Signs That You Have A Great Girlfriend

If you’re dating a girl, check off these 15 signs that you have a great girlfriend. If you find a girl who fits this description, hold onto her!

1. She likes the same things.

You both like going to the movies, swimming, and you have pretty similar views on which people should be locked up. Not that you agree on everything, of course, but at least you are on the same track 90% of the time.

2. She never interferes with your work.

Yoko Ono (John Lennon’s second wife) once remarked in an interview, “In a way both John and I ruined our careers by getting together.”  However, the break up of The Beatles was a complex and long drawn out affair.

3. She tells you why she is in a bad mood.

Nobody can be a in a good mood all the time. She tells you why something is wrong, what happened at work to make her mad and why she is in a foul temper. Some people call that real communication.

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4. She loves you for who you are, not for what you do.

Lots of famous people attract others because of their stardom. Tim Tebow makes it very clear that he wants a kind and sweet girl who is not dazzled by his fame.

5. She is not trying to change you.

You know the types who want to mold you into Mr. Perfect. There may be a few things that need fixing, but a great girlfriend adjusts to imperfections and can accept the fact that your hair style is a little bit different or that your weight is over or under a certain limit.

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    6. She has no problems with her own body image.

    She is not trying to change her body all the time. She is not obsessed with dieting or going to the gym. She is perfectly at ease with herself.

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    7. She is not the owner of your free time.

    Basically, she does not complain that you have sixty dozen things on your to do list. She allows you time for yourself without being clingy or complaining.

    8. She shares your values.

    You both “click” on how people should be treated. You have definite views on what education is and how important honesty is. Above all, you have very clear ideas on money and how it should be spent. It doesn’t matter whether you are a cheapskate or a big spender, as long as you are both in the same category!

    9. She is open with you.

    You know about her childhood and the problems she had because she has talked openly about these things. You know all about her worries and her little obsessions. You know about them because she wants a friend who loves her not only for all her brilliant qualities but her defects as well.

    10. She is a good listener.

    She wants to know what went wrong with that project at work or why you got mad with your boss. She is not afraid to ask for details. Her questions are focused on where you are coming from. She offers advice when asked for it.

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    11. She is such fun to be with.

    You laugh at the same things. You enjoy lots of things together. You appreciate each others’ silly jokes, cartoon characters, stupid songs and crazy things on Facebook.

    12. She loves hanging out with your friends and family.

    You never have a problem when you want to do things with your or her group of friends. She fits in with your family so easily. There is no jealousy or undercurrents which could become toxic.

    13. She never asks for advice about clothes.

    She never asks you to help her choose clothes and would never dream of asking you whether a certain color suits her. She does not need that kind of advice because she is perfectly confident and poised.

    14. She knows how to surprise you.

    She knows how to spring a surprise on you. That can be anything from a different outing, a sudden change of plans or anything else which breaks the routine. Too much routine turns into boredom.

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    15. She never nags you.

    She is the one who can let the small things go so that you can feel perfectly at ease in her company. You are both relieved that there is no nit-picking or nagging. You have both moved on and upgraded. You are now on a journey of personal growth and mutual self improvement.

    This is a perfect description of your great girlfriend, isn’t it? Or is it all too good to be true? If it is, then you might have to rethink what you are really looking for in a great girlfriend.

    Featured photo credit: Landscape portrait of young beautiful stylish couple sensual and having fun outdoor. Film effect via shutterstock.com

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    Last Updated on January 15, 2019

    What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships

    What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships

    When I wrote my book Extraordinary PR, Ordinary Budget: A Strategy Guide, I was surprised at the various layers of review and editing necessary to get the book to publication. Before I ever submitted the manuscript, I enlisted a former colleague to read and copy edit my work. Then, I submitted my work to an editor at the publisher’s house, and once she approved it, she sent it to her colleagues and then her company’s editorial board.

    Upon editorial board approval of my book, my editor sent my work to reviewers in my field, then a developmental editor, then a designer and layout team and, finally, another copy editor. There were a host of personalities with whom I needed to interact along the way.

    It turns out that getting a publishing contract was just the beginning – a lot happens between developing a concept, writing the book, finding an agent and publisher, and getting the book on bookshelves or on Audible or Kindle. Through every milestone of the publishing process, my ability to interact with others was crucial. This underscored for me that no matter what or how much a person accomplishes, you never do it alone – everyone needs assistance from others.

    While I conceived of the book and wrote the manuscript, there is no way my book could have hit booksellers’ shelves without the dozens of people who were involved in the publishing process. Further, interpersonal skills can propel or stonewall success.

    Even as someone who has written hundreds of essays, press releases, pitch notes and other correspondence, writing itself is not a solitary endeavor. Sure, I may write in solitude, but the moment I am finished writing, there are always clients, colleagues, partners, peers and others who review my content.

    What is more, even as a published author and contributor for this platform, I try to never submit final copy (content) that has not been copy edited. I send everything to my copy editor, whom I pay out of my own pocket, for her review, edits and approval. Once she has reviewed my work, caught unbeknownst-to-me errors, I am much more confident putting my work out in the world.

    How Interpersonal Skills Affect Relationships

    It is clearer to me now more than ever before that interpersonal skills are needed in every profession and every trade.

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    People don’t elect leaders because the leaders are smart. Individuals are motivated to vote when they have a hero and when they feel they have something to lose. If they seriously dislike the other candidate, they are much more likely vote according to a 2000 Ohio State University study:

    “A disliked candidate is seen as a threat, and that will be motivation to go to the polls. But a threat alone isn’t enough – people need to have a hero to vote for, too, in order to inspire them to turn out on Election Day.”

    In a work setting, interpersonal skills impact every facet of your development and success. Trainers must collaborate with a design team or the company hiring them to facilitate the training. During the training itself, the facilitators must connect with the audience and establish a rapport that supports vulnerability and openness. If the trainers interact poorly with the trainees, they are unlikely to be invited back. If they are invited back, they may be unlikely to inspire cooperation or growth in their trainees.

    Solopreneurs interactions with clients and subcontractors, and those interactions will, in part, support or adversely impact their business. If you enjoy a career as an acclaimed surgeon or respected lawyer, your interactions with patients, clients, health insurance agencies and a team of other practitioners – many of whom are shielded from public view – will improve or decimate your practice.

    As a hiring manager, one of the things I consider when interviewing candidates is their interpersonal skills. I assess the interpersonal skills they display in their content and face-to-face presentation. I ask probing questions to learn how they interact with others, manage conflict and contribute to a team atmosphere.

    When candidates say things like, “I prefer to work alone” or “I can hit the ground running without assistance,” I bristle. When candidates appear to know everything and everyone, I wonder if they will be receptive to learning or open to feedback. Could these statements be indications that these individuals lack interpersonal skills?

    It stands to reason, then, that interpersonal skills are among the most valuable and the bedrock of all talents and skills.

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    What are Interpersonal Skills?

    Interpersonal skills range from emotional intelligence, empathy, oral and written communication to leadership to collaboration and teamwork.

    In sum, interpersonal skills are skills that enable you to interact well with others. They include teachability and receptiveness to feedback, active or mindful listening, self-confidence and conflict resolution.

    From a communications standpoint, interpersonal skills are about understanding how colleagues prefer to communicate and then using the appropriate mediums to meet respective needs. It is about understanding how to communicate in a way to get the most out of different people.

    For instance, in my career as a public relations practitioner, part of what I am constantly evaluating is which colleagues, clients and members of the media prefer email, text or phone calls. I am assessing how much frill to use with each person depending on what has worked in the past and depending on what I know about the person with whom I am interacting.

    Making these decisions and being disciplined enough to follow each person’s known preferences helps me better connect with the various individuals in my orbit. Is this tiring at times? Yes. Is it necessary? Absolutely.

    How to Improve Interpersonal Skills

    There are tons of resources to teach interpersonal skills. I love books such as Leadership Presence by Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, and The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

    There are also a host of books and articles on emotional intelligence, which is the ability to manage one’s emotions and perceive and adapt to others’ emotions. Emotional intelligence is likewise a critical component of positive interpersonal relations. You can learn more about it in this article: What Is Emotional Intelligence and Why It Is Important

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    Active and mindful listening also support improved interpersonal skills. I recommend you take a look at this piece: Active Listening – A Skill That Everyone Should Master

    I have further found that humility helps a ton with interpersonal skills. It takes humility to admit you have more to learn and that you can learn from the people around you. In fact, everyone with whom you interact has a lesson to teach you. And employers are increasingly looking for team members who are lifelong learners, meaning they believe there is always room for growth and professional and personal development.

    Forbes contributor Kevin H. Johnson noted in a July 2018 article,

    “That’s why, when anyone asks what the next ‘hot’ skill will be, I say it’s the same skill that will serve people today, tomorrow, and far into the future—the ability to learn.”

    Don’t overlook introspection.

    While interpersonal skills may seem simple enough, introspection is critical to learning where and in what ways you need to grow.

    Through introspection and observation, I have learned that my interpersonal skills suffer when I am sleep deprived, because then I am short-tempered and irritable. I’ve observed this connection over a significant period in my life. Unsurprisingly, it is also true of others. Fellow LifeHack contributor, health coach and personal trainer Jamie Logie noted:

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    When you are chronically sleep deprived, it really does a number on you. A lack of sleep can keep your body in a constant state of stress and over time this can get pretty ugly. Elevated stress hormones can be involved in creating a bunch of pretty nasty conditions including anxiety, headaches and dizziness, weight gain, depression, stroke, hypertension, digestive disorders, immune system dysfunction, irritability.

    Additionally, the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reported,

    “Sleep deprivation can noticeably affect people’s performance, including their ability to think clearly, react quickly, and form memories. Sleep deprivation also affects mood, leading to irritability; problems with relationships, especially for children and teenagers; and depression. Sleep deprivation can also increase anxiety.”

    The point is, even as you are identifying ways to improve interpersonal skills, think about what is getting in the way. While sleep deprivation is a trigger for me, your stumbling block may be different.

    The Bottom Line

    You cannot fix what you do not know is broken. Even as you work to understand and apply interpersonal skills, spend some time in mindful meditation to get clear on what is holding you back from developing solid relationships.

    Featured photo credit: Austin Distel via unsplash.com

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